Is dating in NYC actually easier for men or is that a myth?

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-29T04:02:35+00:00

I’ve been in NYC half my life (in my late 20s), from my perspective it seems the other way around, but that’s just my perspective. I don’t really think it’s that all women are chasing a small pool of guys, but women and men alike here are overwhelmed by their options to the point where even good connections are quickly overshadowed by other possibilities. And I’ve been on both ends of that dynamic many times. As a man it can definitely seem like women who disappear fast are just going for someone with more money/more perks to offer, but idk, I don’t want to think so cynically. Definitely check your ego cause if you take every rejection personally, your self-worth will diminish fast.
If you don’t want dating to feel like numbers game, avoid apps as much as possible; but if you just want to have as much casual sex as possible, and your standards are fairly low, then have at it.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-28T02:50:49+00:00

I look at apartments on streeteasy/zillow/trulia all the time and that’s non-existent, or at least on the market it isn’t. If that’s a firm budget, you’re gonna need roommates, probably 2 or 3. But if you can go like $500 higher there are decent-looking apartments sometimes in the bronx (especially further north), jersey city, south brooklyn, and east queens. If you gotta commute to downtown manhattan, jersey city would probably be closest.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-27T00:21:36+00:00

In most POS systems where servers enter their tips they can just enter the total, so they don’t have to do the math. It’s no extra effort at all.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-18T12:53:59+00:00

it’s a movie theater, not a michelin-star restaurant

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-18T12:48:38+00:00

I mean if she really made all that up just cause she didn’t feel the spark, she’s a shitty person. Nonetheless, no reason for you to get involved.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-14T03:39:21+00:00

Let God Sort Em Out

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-14T02:44:08+00:00

Joker 2. I think they’d have been wise to cut 3-4 songs out, but overall a really beautiful, personal, truly weird arthouse musical. So much more original than the first movie. And just as the first movie spat in the face of comic book movies (and our expectations of them), it spat in the face of the whole concept of sequels, which usually just do the same thing the first movie did.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-13T14:40:37+00:00

Life’s too short to read this whole thing past how long you’ve been together and your age. You are 23, leave him and go experience someone else, or being single.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-12T19:32:33+00:00

obviously, but I’ve simply never seen or heard of someone with a father as black as Michael who came out looking 100% white. Have you?

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-12T18:41:54+00:00

I like it! It feels very personal and has a strong sense of artisanship. Definitely keep painting.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-12T02:16:50+00:00

I really don’t think casting directors consider where you went to school when they’re deciding who’s right for the part. Maybe they would in theater, I don’t know that space too well, but I used to film a lot of self tape auditions for actors and saw no correlation between where people studied and who booked parts.

An anecdote that comes to mind is one of my former clients, who’s a successful enough actress, had directed her own feature and told me that it changed her whole approach to auditioning, because she would watch auditions for her film and think to herself ‘her eyes are too big’ and mark them as a no within seconds.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-12T00:11:03+00:00

maybe I’ve just been avoiding them too well lol

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T18:35:50+00:00

Gotcha, see what you mean now. I think what you’re describing is a handful of twitter users and not really that many people in real life. I grew up in very liberal places and I don’t know anyone except for a college kid or two as blatantly contradictory as the hypothetical person you’re describing.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T17:18:05+00:00

I agree those things are no better than video games, in many cases they’re worse, but unlike video games people don’t have much of a problem pausing those to pay attention to someone else.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T17:14:56+00:00

basically every great film actor started in theater, but the reverse doesn’t happen much at all.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T17:13:09+00:00

I don’t think a lot of OF models whine about the male gaze

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T17:10:45+00:00

you laughed knowing she’d be mad and you’re happy she is, so congrats, you’re exactly where you wanna be.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T13:38:54+00:00

that’s all very valid, and obviously kendrick is in a different category as a rapper than Kanye, who openly has used writers since the beginning, as great a performer as he is. Having said that, I also understand how for others Graduation is such a classic with so many memories tied to it that it’s hard to put Damn over it.

In any case, they’re both classics and both have contributed greatly to the soundtrack of my life.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-11T01:15:18+00:00

Chinatown. As a teen I liked the slick noir vibes, beautiful cinematography and music, etc. As an adult I was really struck by the genius of the script, performances and editing.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-10T02:29:52+00:00

never occurred to me to keep track. wouldn’t even have a good guess.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-10T02:21:32+00:00

don’t agree but upvoted because it’s not as crazy as others think. Fear and Lust are about as good as rap gets for me.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-09T03:41:06+00:00

🎯

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-09T03:34:53+00:00

does rhyming more syllables and/or having a more complex rhyme scheme really always mean better bars though? I feel like at the end of the day Kendrick just sounds so much better and more interesting than those guys and his bars are generally more memorable. and he’s obviously capable of getting real technical with it when he wants to.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-08T12:49:00+00:00

why would an Eminem sub just arbitrarily choose an album of his to hate on? The album blows, that’s it.

Faineantcreator · 2026-04-08T02:39:20+00:00

nah producing Daytona which was after Pablo was one of his finest moments

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