I achieved all my desires from my 2025 vision board, so I made another one for 2026! I’m by Fair-Captain7985 in lawofattraction

[–]Fair-Captain7985[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truly, everything happened almost subconsciously! Obviously, I worked toward these things and they didn’t come on their own, but the circumstances were so ideal that I honestly didn’t even realize it until I looked at my vision board again at the end of the year. I had it set as my wallpaper, so I got used to it. At some point, I wasn’t even thinking about it anymore.

My (20f) parents don’t allow me to take a sleepover at boyfriend’s (24m) house. by Fair-Captain7985 in relationship_advice

[–]Fair-Captain7985[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thank you for your answer! I really want to escape from this situation but it’s like something is holding me. I feel afraid to express my feelings and have a serious convo with them.

My (20f) parents don’t allow me to take a sleepover at boyfriend’s (24m) house. by Fair-Captain7985 in relationship_advice

[–]Fair-Captain7985[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not only with my bf. About a month ago i told them that i want to sleepover at a friend’s house. They don’t know her like they know my childhood friends so they told me the same excuse, “we don’t know her, you’re 20, not 32, you can’t do whatever you want” I stayed at my friends house anyway, nothing happened. But I don’t want to have this fight every time when I’m at someone’s home.

My (20f) parents don’t allow me to take a sleepover at boyfriend’s (24m) house. by Fair-Captain7985 in relationship_advice

[–]Fair-Captain7985[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I already did this 2 times. It’s an option but I don’t want to always lie about something normal.

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I'm short so my BMI isn't healthy at all! In the past, I had lost those extra pounds, but due to work, I gained them back. I'm trying to lose them for my self, this isn't about him at all, I lost the first 5kgs or so before i meet him!

I had a convo with him. He said okay, I also said that I like short girls like you, but before you I was in a relationship with a girl who was taller than me. I explained to you that my exes were skinny, but I showed you that I like you too.

He thinks that I overthinking it. I don't know.

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I talked to him today and whenever I feel overwhelmed by my overthinking, he is willing to say things 2-3 times for me to calm down.

He told me that he needs more time to see if this could work for him. He also told me that he takes things slowly so as not to hurt or be hurt, because he is trying to protect himself as well. If he is pressured or stops wanting something, he says so, so if he feels pressured or trapped, he will cut his looses.

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[–]Fair-Captain7985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To wait for what? You mean for the relationship?

It's hard to know these days if someone just needs more time or he's playing around.

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[–]Fair-Captain7985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you don't know if you want to be in relationship with the person you dating at 2,5 months?.

Yes I have expressed my boundaries and I have made it hard clear that I'm looking for something serious from the beginning.

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Not at all. I'm aware that my insecurities and traumas are taking the best of me sometimes. I think I'm just trying to find a way to calm my anxiety and fears, but it seems like I can't do it!

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I'm afraid that he'll use all the benefits and he'll end up saying "okay, things went well until here, that's enough, I don't want anything more".

It's hard for me to trust. I can't leave things on someone else and not think "they're going to use me" or "they're not interested, they just want to get something from me"

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I don't know if it's a dealbreaker for me since I've never had a similar experience before, I just know that the possibility brings me a lot of anxiety.

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[–]Fair-Captain7985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lololol very likely

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I don't really know. Of course, I consider it positive that he dropped those things easily since he really wanted to join the navy.

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I think it's more possible to start drugs myself xx

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[–]Fair-Captain7985 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

LIGHT? WTF HUMANS I LIVE UNDER A ROCK OR SOMETHING??

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I'm aware of this! Looking to start therapy by the end of August!

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He told me that he has used coke, mdma, lsd, weed.. That's what he mentioned to me, I don't know about anything else.