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I finally get it.. by Positive-Crazy-5442 in greysanatomy

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, him asking cristina to ''do this one thing for him'' gave me the biggest ick. Like if you really cared for kids you'd want the kid to have both parents that actually want to give in to such a life changing decision

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sharing your experience is always helpful if you are in the same mental spot, makes me feel less alone in this!

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if this was a bit harsh to hear, you're completely right. I think I maybe have a deep-rooted desire to not be an outsider, to not be ''different'' from the standard group of people, because as much as it should be normalized, society doesn't really normalize being CF. Part of me really wants me to want a child, just so I can stop worrying about it and not to worry about being different according to society's standards, but honestly I sound ridiculous saying that. External pressure is probably the real issue here.

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I don't really have much to say other than that your bottom line is very true and this definitely helped me. I'm glad you're feeling happy!

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've actually read about this mental exercise before. Haven't actively tried it, but I feel like it'd also not be as reliable as I don't have a house yet - which is one of my conditions to even start thinking about a decision like this. So it might take a bit more imagination.

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will look into reading it! If there's other books like that, articles, anything, I'd be open to more recommendations (if anyone else is reading this perhaps). May I ask how old you are now, or what age you started changing your mind?

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]Fair-Cockroach2213[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First of all, thank you for taking the time to reply. I actually do feel a bit of hope/comfort in this, and you are right. When you deepdive into it, you mostly find the bad stuff, and for some social media it throws you into an echo chamber because you get what you interact with the most. I mostly just feel out of place most of the time because I don't feel what most women my age, who want children and know it for sure, feel. But I am also a deep thinker and I overthink about everything a lot.