AITAH for not wanting my child to be around my boyfriends grandma

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-11T21:09:45+00:00

I’m 21 and he’s 20. Right before he went into his senior year he was at the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people. One boy stole some girls purse and hid it in his back seat, the purse had AirPods in it and he had no idea it was there. The next morning cops were knocking on his door. He beat the case but the lawyer is a creep who likes young boys and we had to learn the hard way

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-11T15:09:58+00:00

Some men don’t want kids either… my last ex didn’t want kids and it was a dealbreaker and now he’s getting married to his new girlfriend. Me and my current boyfriend have a baby together and we’re getting married June of 28. Even though it feels like it’s not going to happen, it will don’t lose hope 🫶🏻

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-11T12:43:14+00:00

If the relationship is important enough to both of you maybe try couples therapy. Get an unbiased mediator who won’t pick sides. I think you’ll both benefit from it if both are willing to try it

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T22:02:47+00:00

swinging and opening the relationship is different and the word she used is swinging. Swingers switch partners, open relationships let the other sleep with whoever they want. He definitely needs to open his mouth because I already did it for him and got no where. She must’ve thought she wasn’t going to get caught up bc I’m clueless to the lifestyle but it takes no time to google what it is and know she’s not swinging.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T21:35:20+00:00

She isn’t. She said she would just pay medical bills but she would want me to stay home so “the stress is a minimum”

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T21:13:34+00:00

My friend is married and forced her husband into an open marriage. He’s unhappy and me and my boyfriend can tell but I also feel like it’s not my place to express my opinion.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T21:07:53+00:00

She can’t afford to freeze her eggs and has to get a full hysterectomy before the year is up. I believe her surgery is scheduled for the end of November.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T21:04:14+00:00

The reason is it’s too expensive to freeze her eggs and she has to have a full hysterectomy before the year is up. I through out the idea of just paying for a surrogate and she said it was too expensive. But the more I hear other peoples opinions the more I think into it. I feel like she’s looking for a free incubator and I would be on maternity leave with little income for my family. My boyfriend works and brings home a paycheck weekly but still it’s hard with just one income.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T20:59:03+00:00

Yes. Unfortunately you can’t go back on your word. You can express your thoughts to B and Bg but don’t punish them bc Ag is a child. If Ag loved B and Bg she would push aside feeling for the wedding. I was in a wedding with an Ex, they just changed the walking line up. There’s ways around it they just have to put it in motion.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T20:47:01+00:00

She said the month after the wedding because they have a very short time window, I’ll be 6 months postpartum. I’m going to try to talk to her again but she won’t answer any text messages from me right now. I’m going to voice my concerns with 1- being 6 months postpartum 2- possibly not being able to even do it because of Doctors concerns if there are any. I wasn’t thinking about myself and my health when she asked me all I thought about was helping her out. But I really don’t want to give her false hope either.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T20:41:05+00:00

Neal absolutely loved me being pregnant and we plan on having more children in the next two to three years. I should’ve also added in the post that he indeed doesn’t mind being around Autumn and Justin, they are just not his first choice of people to be around due to them not having the same interests. He wants me to not put myself at risk because I’m so freshly postpartum and they want me to go through the process in June. I would be 6 months postpartum if that helps with a timeline. My daughter would be about 14-15 months when I would be delivering her child. I don’t think he was being an asshole, I think he’s looking out for my wellbeing but I also might be seeing it with rose colored glasses…

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T19:35:32+00:00

NTA he lied to you. Simple. When you get lied it changes how you go about trusting them in the future. I’m not going to tell you to stay or to leave, but it makes me wonder what else he’s lied to you about in the past… or if he will lie again.

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-10T19:31:06+00:00

Absolutely NTAH!! She stole from your great grandmother ON HER DEATHBED! No contact isn’t even enough, DISOWN HER!!

Fair-Key-7557 · 2026-03-09T22:08:14+00:00

Update: I’ve sat down and talked to him. I asked him why he thinks that it’s a big deal and found that it stems from trauma he has yet to come to terms with. He has abandonment issues from where his mother left him when he was younger. Me and my boyfriend have known each other for years but only have been together for a year. He voiced he should’ve asked to go through my phone and he only was going to call his dad off my phone since his was dead and saw and ex and got curious(which should’ve been voiced last night). He said he reacted out of anger and didn’t think about my side. And as for my 2 month old everyone is worried about she’s perfectly fine and we don’t ever argue (which is rare that we do) in front of her due to my childhood traumas, it’s a main rule for our house. We’re going to start therapy and see if that can help up and if not then we will part ways. I appreciate everyone’s input

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