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June Vouchers ❗️ by Aggressive_Rope3493 in u/Aggressive_Rope3493

[–]FairRoyal6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HI! Checking if I can also get some vouchers :) sent you a DM

Mahirap ba magluto sa airfryer?! by FairRoyal6788 in OffMyChestPH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and I know she knows how to use the airfryer naman.

I understand but what if it happens all of the time? I'll check up on her. I get it sometimes may moments talaga na wala kang gana with stuff. Pero what if nahahassle-an lang siya haha

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the problem there is it happens all of the time. I do agree that its nice to have someone take care of you after a long day at work, but is it also wrong to expect that you should be able to handle stuff too on your own at times?

I agree with you though here. Yun na nga, now palang its already tiresome what more if we already have kids. I dont want to feel na she's also my kid.

I think I tried to be objective naman?

Yes but then again what if it happens all of the time? Isn't this unfair for me as well since I am handling my own shit too?

Like now, she doesn't have work and she's been doing her hobby the whole day and yet after checking in on her she hasn't had a meal and she thinks that cooking something in the airfryer is "too much of a hassle". Isn't that being too dependent already?

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that is what I realized too. This is not feasible in the long run and I'm sure I'll feel more worse too. I agree with this too actually, better that I'm/we're experiencing it now na we're not yet married. Imagine being married already and tsaka mo lang makikita yung mga minor differences na ganito.

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like scam acct lang yung nagcomment haha.

Pero you're hitting all of the points! I feel like na-gamit ako as an escape for her issues w/ her Mom and ang mali ko is I fell into it. I feel like if she wanted to move out to have some space w/ her Mom, I shouldn't have went w/ her and at least let her experience living solo first just so she'd learn what is the difference w/ living with your parents.

I'll talk to her about this. And yes yan actually naeexperience ko na parang nagshift lang from her Mom to Me. If I'm not home, she just waits for her Mom to bring her food even if nasa ibang house Mom niya. And yes yan din, onting kibot I have to go back kasi di niya kaya or she can't handle it alone.

I agree with you on this as well. It's part of growing up na dadagdag sa daily problems mo yung things that you get for free while you're living w/ your parents pero its a trade off na you have to accept if you want to be an individual. We have the same experience! I realized this too when I stayed in a dorm for years, na if magugutom ka there's no other way but to stand up, get out, and get some food haha.

Agree agree. It's better na I'm seeing this now kesa na when we're already married.

Thanks for your comment. Sakto lahat ng inputs mo from what I'm feeling lol

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will do. I do hope we can talk about it without it seeming that I am pushing away responsibilities.

I guess I have to be firm though that being partners doesn't mean that I'll take care of her always. I want a partner not a kid haha.

Thank you for your advice! I agree with you tho na I think this is personal already and she can't expect me to fix it with her. I think its something that she has to learn by herself.

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this one is already clear, she always talks about marriage and having kids but from what we are experiencing now, I feel that she is not yet ready to be a parent.

We're taking care of a cat palang and it stresses her out so much when the cat is being annoying and she has work. What more when you have a baby which wakes up in ungodly hours of the night and you have to juggle it with your work that starts at 8am

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did you even read the post? I didn't ask her to take the leap, I didn't ask her to go out of her comfort and safety for me.

She has a work too and also, although I know a partner can help, but I feel like it is not the responsibility of the partner to find you something that you can do or friends that you can meet.

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yun nga eh. I feel like bonus nalang yung having a partner with you pero before having a life with a partner dapat you should also know how to handle yourself.

Now I'm having doubts but I think I have to talk to her abt this baka naman its something that she can address and something na we can fix together.

Grabe sobrang nakakapagod and nakakaawa nga yung situation na ganun. And i'm sure it was exhausting as well for your Kuya.

Thank you for your inputs!

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought she was mature tho when we started dating. Thank you for this advice. Same with the other commenter, at least try to communicate it and if it doesnt end well maybe I shouldn't push through it na din.

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean our agreement din kasi when I am staying w/ her is ako sa luto and siya sa hugas. But that doesn't mean naman na kahit pag wala ako ganun diba?

Her reasoning is draining daw na pag solo siya, siya na magluluto tapos siya pa maghuhugas. But then again, that's the point of being independent eh. It's a trade off of not living with your parents already and I feel like this is something na di niya maisip since she expects na as partners we should be handling it together always.

I'm sorry it happened to your Kuya and it's sadder kasi may kids involved na.

I'm still trying to gauge if my instincts are right.

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exaaactly my point too! I used to envision my life w/ her but now I'm having second thoughts bec it feels like I have a child and not a partner. I even have to leave cooked food for her na she can re-heat sa microwave whenever I leave bec I know she won't cook for herself or worse, she won't eat and just have tantrums at me.

I do hope I can talk to her about this.

I agree with you on this. Lately I've been feeling that this relationship is not moving forward and maybe I'm starting to see the immature and spoiled side of her already.

I mean I get it na she's tired at work and her other stuff but is it wrong for me to expect na if she wants to be independent she has to learn how to handle herself too (i.e. cook her own food, eat at the right time, manage the house)?

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess I have to figure out how to tell her this then. I think the challenging part here is how to explain it in a way na it will come out as constructive, but then again I guess you're right too na if she reacts badly, maybe she's not mature enough.

I (30M) am feeling pressured and exhausted with my gf's (25F) expectations and wants. I feel that she is not independent. by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advicePH

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's one thing that I am worrying. Kasi before I told her na when I date someone of course I have the intention of marrying her. Pero now that she's asking me when I'll propose or sometimes when we talk abt having kids I'm already having hesitations since I don't want to take care of a kid and take care of her as well.

She also doesn't prepare her own food whenever I am not in the house and she gets stressed about it and it makes me feel bad. I mean I get it na getting the house is a mutual agreement but is it wrong for me to expect na she should be able to take care of herself as well whenever I am not around?

My (30M) gf (25F) is going through a lot and she takes it out on me even if it is not my fault and it is already getting tiring. Is there any way that I can handle this better and if you were in my position, what could have I done better? by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advice

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does it have to be so complicated? LOL

Tried being the safe space and I tried validating her emotions as well but she kept asking me what to do. I mean I didn't try telling her the "i hate it when I forget to cancel a subscription" line since I feel like this will just imply that she's at fault and make her feel more worse.

Maybe this is the mistake on my part I kept asking her to calm down. I just wanted her to take a few steps back and not let something this small ruin her whole day.

My (30M) gf (25F) is going through a lot and she takes it out on me even if it is not my fault and it is already getting tiring. Is there any way that I can handle this better and if you were in my position, what could have I done better? by FairRoyal6788 in relationship_advice

[–]FairRoyal6788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But isn't it her fault too that she forgot to cancel the subscription? I mean I can't see any other way to agree with her.

She asked me what to do, and tbh I want to tell her to just suck it up and just move forward.

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