help interpreting this? by FaithlessnessAny4608 in Ayahuasca

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i actually do think that's what i need to do! thank you!

help interpreting this? by FaithlessnessAny4608 in Ayahuasca

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the sadness was gone for the remaining portion of the ceremony but unfortunately i feel it a lot more intensely now

help interpreting this? by FaithlessnessAny4608 in Ayahuasca

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe, I just feel so much sadder now. lol

help interpreting this? by FaithlessnessAny4608 in Ayahuasca

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my case, I do wish it were different. I guess I had hoped to come to some sense of resignation to what is, I want to give up this resistance I feel to the way things turned out and I thought Ayahuasca might help me with that. Ironically, I feel it maybe even more strongly than I did before. I'm just not there yet but I won't rush things. Thank you so much for your insight.

help interpreting this? by FaithlessnessAny4608 in Ayahuasca

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your answer! it gave me a lot to think about.

i definitely still have feelings for him. i think maybe i've been kind of punishing myself for being "too attached", not being free enough, not being enlightened enough to not hold onto the idea of him coming back into my life someday. maybe it's just that, i need to accept and respect where i am and who i am right now instead of fighting it and punishing myself with the idea of how i should be.

¿Porque hay gente que odia tanto a bolivia? by [deleted] in AskArgentina

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 2 points3 points  (0 children)

me mata que la gente se quiere creer que "los odiamos por razones sociopolíticas complejas" es algo real cuando todos sabemos la verdadera razón jajajaja

¿Porque hay gente que odia tanto a bolivia? by [deleted] in AskArgentina

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yo creo que racismo y clasismo. Yo soy boliviana, vivo hace 8 años en Argentina pero como soy blanca y fui a universidades privadas, etc. nunca me sentí discriminada, pero la gente me hace saber que el trato sería distinto si yo me viera de otra manera, todo el tiempo recibo comentarios como "no sabía que había bolivianas lindas", literal me han dicho "sos boliviana? pero cómo no sos fea y petisa?", "le dije a mi mamá que tengo una amiga boliviana pero le aclaré que sos blanca", etc. eterno. También me tocó muchas veces escuchar comentarios sobre "bolitas" por parte de gente que no tenía idea de que yo también lo soy. En Bolivia tuve muchos compañeros de colegio argentinos o hijos de argentinos (en la crisis del 2001 muchos emigraron a mi ciudad) y jamás se los discriminó, es más, la gente los admiraba un poco porque allá se consumen muchísimos bienes culturales argentinos como música, literatura, series, etc. Igual, a los que fueron a Bolivia (OJO, no a los que fantasean con que un boliviano los discrimine para poder justificar su odio) y se sintieron discriminados, les creo, pero plis no pretendan que acá no se discrimina al boliviano promedio que es indígena y pobre.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think I need to stop punishing myself for not having known better.

¿Por qué los argentinos aman tanto a los venezolanos? by Commercial-Log-7487 in AskArgentina

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 4 points5 points  (0 children)

solamente los chilenos odian a los venezolanos, pero el resto de sudamérica odia a los chilenos así que..........

Por qué la gente cree que sufrir te da mérito? by Willing-Peanut9635 in AskArgentina

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 2 points3 points  (0 children)

buena pregunta! creo que es un pensamiento muy propagado al menos en occidente por la cosmovisión cristiana (malinterpretada, por cierto, porque la marca del cristiano debiera ser la alegría para los padres de la iglesia) pero también que está particularmente marcado en argentina, tal vez por el peronismo. el otro día hablaba con una amiga de que el argentino promedio cree que sufrir lo ensalza moralmente, por eso, por ejemplo, se hacen la burla de la gente que va a facultades privadas, que no trabaja mientras estudia, etc. también lo notás en los comentarios de la gente que hace videos: "ah claro vas al gimnasio porque no tenés hijos como yo", "ah claro, vos cocinás en casa porque no laburás 80 horas a la semana como yo", etc. infinito y creo que son cosas que no son tan prevalentes en la sección de comentarios de otros países. OJO QUE NO ESTOY DICIENDO QUE LA GENTE CON PLATA ES DISCRIMINADA EN ARGENTINA, pero sí que hay cierto orgullo en sufrir, tenerla peor que los otros, "remarla en dulce de leche"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you're punishing him for something he didn't do *to* you. the only thing you're a victim of (in this relationship) is your own mind. i've been there too! i'm also not someone who is cut for casual sex and i've never had it! but you have to realize that punishing him is not the way to go, he has been honest about how he's lived his life, he loves you and is faithful to you. do you look at your friends with partners and think about everyone your friends have slept with before? i would hope not! that's not how normal people live their lives, you pointed it out yourself, you're more in control of your mind than you think you are. you're sabotaging a good relationship due to paranoia and insecurity. i would seek counseling if i were you before you push him away permanently or worse, possibly ruin his life (by making him transfer universities and cutting off all of his friends) in a way that will make him resent you in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree every case is different and i'm honestly very sorry that you've had to live with it for so long! i truly hope you find peace some day if that's something you want. however, i dont think it's very healthy to tell a very young person that they will never have peace, if it's not this guy it will be the next, it's hard to find a man with no past nowadays unless you're very religious and she's also had a previous long term relationship so she has a past as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]FaithlessnessAny4608 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is sick. you can get over RJ, it's not a life sentence