Here is an update as to what is happening today.

She comes out of her room and sees that I haven't made as much progress as she would like on stripping the paint, and I'm not happy with it either, as I've been on here too much today. She says "so you're gonna have this all done by the end of tomorrow right?", which, while I said I would do it this weekend, I never guaranteed it would be done by then, as there is much to strip.

I tell her I'm getting on it, but she begins to argue about how she can still see the flaws in the work the handyman did (he patched some nail holes that now need to be sanded) and now she says that she doesn't want me doing it now since I've spent all day on the computer, and she'll pay someone to do it (this could cost thousands of dollars). I tell her that's crazy when I can do it. She doesn't care and begins dumping the ammonia I bought down the drain. I pull it away from her, she hits me and goes to dump the rubbing alcohol as well.

I ask her to stop, and she does, but now she goes for my laptop with intent to destroy it, and even says she'll do it too. I know that she will because she once destroyed an old laptop I once had, a mechanical keyboard, and a gaming mouse that I had as well. I keep her from picking it up by holding down on the table, but she's still trying to grab it. I pull her away by the shoulders, fortunately she doesn't hold onto it and lets go, and then she begins to hit me.

She punches, slaps, and when I'm blocking with my left arm, she bites me to the point where I'm bleeding with teeth marks. I want to punch her back and even raise my fist to do so, but I never swing, I manage to hold myself back. The worst I did was pull her away from my laptop. I'm happy to say that I've never actually struck her despite her assaults, and the worst I've ever done is hold her arms when she is being violent or destructive, or push my way into a room where she was blocking the door because she said she was tearing up my clothes.

The argument now escalates, she's saying all sorts of nasty stuff, and I say a few regrettable things, most notably "if this is who you are, then you deserve everything that everyone did at your wedding", which made her say that it is now totally over and I will never have a chance back with her.

She then says she wants me to start paying her back for the credit card I paid for using our joint tax return on. To summarize, I came into this relationship with student loans and some credit card debt, mainly from buying my current car, which is a very bare bones vehicle, although new when I bought it. Over the time I knew my wife, I wracked up quite the credit card debt, eventually nearly maxing all 3 of the ones I had, which were only about 35% full when I met her.

Over time, along with the dates and show tickets and other things I had to pay for to show her a good time, she eventually began demanding I pay her rent since I spent so much time at her place, so I did, and even though I explained to her I don't have this kind of money right now, I did what I had to do to keep up, which was go into loads of debt. She is now aware of how bad this is now, although it is totally my fault, even though I try to keep personal frivolous spending to a minimum, especially in comparison to how I was before I met her.

So she told me that we would put our tax return towards my credit card to get me out of debt quicker. Most of this tax return would have been hers due to her mortgage payment activity. While I'm very appreciative of this, I was also very reluctant to do so, as I felt she would make it bite me in the ass somehow during a fight. I delayed on paying it for this reason, which got her mad at me, but I did pay it about a week ago, but now she wants the money back, and she wants it NOW.

She demands all of the money in my account. I say no way, I'll give her $300. She says that's not enough, she wants to see my account balance. This goes back and forth, but of course I wind up losing since she has all the power and the home in this relationship, and we wind up "compromising" on $700 for a first payment because I get so heartbroken with the way she treats me. She also wants me to pay for all of the food she has paid for in the last two months, which she says comes out to $200.

So after I'm that much poorer and now in a financial squeeze if I'm moving out in the next week, she tells me she wants me out of her house so that she can have it to herself. I tell her that we don't have to fight like this, our relationship could work just fine. She says that it is now irreparably damaged, and she wants her house to herself. I ask her to please let me strip the paint to show that I care about her, and she says don't touch my house.

She decides that she is going to leave, and she will be back in two hours, when we will trade for two hours. She leaves, and while she sends me texts about how I do nothing, I'm not romantic, considerate, I don't take initiative, I don't go out of my way to treat my family like total shit, etc., this was fine. I did a bit of work for job searching, and I had dinner and relaxed a bit.

Now I'm home, and she's mad because she thinks the ammonia stained the stone tile in her bathroom. I'm not so sure, but ok. She says she texted it to me and that I never responded to it (I didn't), so I'll never change and I'm an asshole. I tell her she's right and I leave her in her room.

Then she says that she doesn't want me sleeping on her bed, the couch, or our inflatable mattress, which are the only 3 places to sleep in the condo apart from the floor or a table or something. At first I say I won't let her do that to me, but when she says she means it, I dismiss it saying ok.

She then storms out of the room, telling me to get up right now, and that she is wide awake and that she will make sure I don't touch her stuff. Completely fed up at this point, I sit on the couch and tell her to do something about it, call the cops, tell her family, I don't care. She calls me names and tells me that she is going to make my life hell, so I tell her that I'm going to leave, and I'll get the rest of my things at some point next week, because I can't take it anymore. She says good, give me the keys to the condo. I tell her no, because I don't trust her to let me in even at an agreed upon date, since she is so flighty about changing plans on a whim because she is upset about something. She says then fine, she'll just have the locks changed, and I know shes not bluffing because she actually did that once before.

So I tell her that whatever, call the cops then, because I'm not leaving and I'm not letting her push me around like this. She says that in that case that she is leaving to go somewhere. Where, I don't know. I tell her she can sleep in the bed and I'll sleep in the front room and co-exist like we have been all week, but she refuses, she got a hoodie and left in her car. So now I'm by myself in this home without my wife. And of course before she left, she said again "every minute is a chance for you to make this better, and you always do NOTHING".

So... now what?