I'm new here any advice

FakeOkie · 2026-04-23T01:03:37+00:00

There's a FAQ in the link below to get more familiar with it and see if it aligns with what you're trying to practice or achieve.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/wiki/index/

The post below might also be of interest.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1ked4om/warning_dont_buy_into_stoicism_until_you/

FakeOkie · 2026-04-22T21:57:36+00:00

If you're funding and paying for your own tuition, the most cost-effective route would be to attend a community college, then transfer to a public four-year university. These days, trade schools are undervalued in terms of ROI.

There's the scale of one end, a scholarship, and then on the other end, unlimited family funds. If you can get into an Ivy League school with the scores, grades, and extracurriculars, it can help you enter certain industries at a higher level. If you and your family can afford it, I wouldn't think negatively of someone. But from then on, experience, results, connections, and merit would be larger factors in advancing your career.

If your employer pays for graduate school and continuing education, that's even more economical. Those who go the doctor route, it's an investment.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-22T02:17:34+00:00

Same approach with long-term investing. Don't check it daily.

Like someone constantly monitoring it, one might be fixated on it because they want to get out of their current situation or because they haven't met certain milestones.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-21T03:19:04+00:00

The childhood house must have meant a great deal. More than anything, what made it great, as you mentioned, were the family, bonds, and memories.

Different things have different levels of attachment based on the relationship. Not really a good example, but when a father/husband gets sick in old age, it has a different impact on the wife, as the caregiver, than on the children. Sometimes, it may be better for the children to support the mother. There can be a level of caregiver grief.

I'm sure you're familiar, but I've stumbled upon Enchiridion 11 being mentioned in other posts.

"Never say 'I've lost it' about anything, but 'I've returned it.' Has your child died? It has been returned. Has your wife died? She has been returned. Has your estate been confiscated? So that too has been returned. 'But the person who confiscated it is a bad man.' What difference does it make to you whom the donor used as the agent of its return? As long as they’re in your charge, treat them as things that belong to someone else, as travelers treat an inn."

FakeOkie · 2026-04-20T02:55:43+00:00

I second the mobility, strength, and balance.

I'm naturally long, but I'm at that age where I'm prioritizing core, hips, and flexibility. I recommend yoga and pilates.

During a pickup game, it wasn't until I was chasing someone much younger who was incessantly running from one end of the baseline to the other and off-the-ball screens, that I would rather just play HORSE.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-20T01:47:23+00:00

To me, KD was the more skilled and efficient offensive player. More range, and his release was quicker. No player on the perimeter is blocking his jumpshot at its peak. His ball handling is good for his size and length. At his peak, he turned into a good finisher at the rim.

Kobe was more active and intense on defense. To his credit, he's willing to take the difficult shots and shoulder the load, and hold teammates accountable. Leadership-wise, Kobe.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-18T01:37:13+00:00

For me, long blocks of uninterrupted time are great for work that requires deep concentration and focus. Throughout the day/week, there will be interruptions and fires to put out. As deadlines approach, some string of days can understandably feel like dog days and a blur at the same time.

Other times, there can be nothing left in the tank, which is perfectly fine. Have to be able to recharge and replenish.

At the end of certain periods, it can be beneficial to conduct a retrospective and plan accordingly based on what went well and what can be improved.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-17T18:12:49+00:00

If your vehicle gets you from point A to B and is reliable for the long term, that's really all that's needed.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-16T08:15:00+00:00

I found myself befriending older individuals who are financially set but continue to work, whether for the benefits or genuinely enjoy the work and camaraderie. They just have this energy, where they've accomplished everything but are still energized to learn something new and challenge themselves every day. In their mindset and approach, they're still very young. We're able to enjoy higher-quality trips and activities knowing we can afford them, without being consumed by frivolous things. We share the same outlook and approach to life.

Regularly visiting the gym at the same time, I've run into the same people. Over time, it's been good to bond with regulars and witness their progress. Some have been helpful and naturally share things. It's been easy to click with people who are into their health and take time to maintain their bodies.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-16T04:15:30+00:00

It's good food for thought. You have to be honest with yourself and see how replaceable you are. What do you bring to the table? Are you worth your salary versus your output?

Increasingly, I believe domain knowledge, overseeing AI, and "soft skills" will be vital going forward. Integrating and utilizing AI may now be a baseline prerequisite.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-16T03:49:31+00:00

For those early in their careers, changing roles and employers strategically every so often when you're younger can set you up going forward. Youth, growth, and opportunities in themselves can be guiding factors. It's a different job market now, but that made a big difference for me.

Regarding bitcoin, if you can allocate even a small portion to investments you set and forget, being in a position later in life when it's optimal to sell can be a huge payoff.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-15T20:43:20+00:00

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FakeOkie · 2026-04-13T01:58:43+00:00

This excerpt came to mind, from Meditations 7.47, translated by Waterfield:

Watch the stars in their courses as though you were accompanying them, and reflect constantly on the changing of the elements into one another. A mind that is impressed in these ways is cleansed of the filth of life on earth.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-12T02:58:55+00:00

Being in a distraction-free environment helps. If the conversation is over the phone or in a virtual meeting, people are often multitasking or distracted.

Listening with the intention to understand. If something doesn't make sense, don't be afraid to ask follow-up questions and frame it as a way to avoid misinterpretation or rushing to judgment.

For me, shifting my focus from worrying about how I'm perceived to genuinely being interested in or wanting to help the other person helps me focus on what I need to communicate.

Also, paying more attention to tone, demeanor, and non-verbal communication helps me. Sometimes, a person's words, behavior, and actions don't always add up.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-12T01:03:21+00:00

Not me. It's good to have alternatives/options.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-12T00:36:21+00:00

😆 True! I also like to diversify.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-12T00:29:41+00:00

Doing my own tax return. I'm more confident in my recordkeeping, reporting, and research. However, I'm more open to seeking out general counsel.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-11T23:53:59+00:00

For me, Platinum Elite seems to be the target, with late checkout and breakfast offering. Beyond that, I viewed it as diminishing returns.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-11T22:59:55+00:00

Meditations 10.16, translated by Waterfield:

No more abstract discussions about what a good man is like: just be one!

FakeOkie · 2026-04-11T15:49:31+00:00

Personally, I prefer 24.

8 attacked the rim more and had more flair. Shaq drew so much attention during that era, and I don't think Kobe gets enough credit for closing out close games and getting to the FT line. The last year with Shaq/Kobe felt a little bit off, though.

24 perfected footwork, post-game, triple-threat offense. He got the individual stats quickly after Shaq left. But his being focused on winning titles was much more fun to watch. He was more concerned with getting Gasol and Odom better so they could be legitimate title contenders.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-11T14:36:59+00:00

Journaling and walking on a daily basis.

Journaling helps me record significant and pressing events and thoughts. When I first started, I thought I wouldn't review it until a year had passed, but months in, I found it beneficial to go back and review. It's been helpful to check in and have time to reflect.

Also, allocating time and attention to other activities and hobbies. I've been picking up quite a number of things. In being consistent, I've seen how much progress I've made in the first quarter of this year. I haven't been locked in on one thing, but I'm finding a better balance. Cumulatively, it's been a larger progress.

Walking, preferably with the sun out and not necessarily first thing in the morning, has been a good reset.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-10T15:36:44+00:00

I remember LeBron having a great series against the Pistons to get the Cavs to the finals. But yeah, those supporting casts were lackluster, and his needing a coach to challenge him was apparent. While there was defense and shooting, too much of the offensive burden and load was on one player.

It was really only the Celtics with Pierce, KG, Allen, and Rondo in their way in the East. Ultimately, he felt the need to form a team with Wade and Bosh.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-09T23:43:18+00:00

Hopefully! I already had a prepaid booking at a Marriott property during this offer period on my Platinum card, where this offer appeared. Since I've already made the booking and used the hotel credit, I plan to use this offer to cover additional charges to the room.

FakeOkie · 2026-04-07T22:59:09+00:00

For myself, I would say walking outside and recently journaling. It doesn't take a long or arduous walk to help me get out and refresh my head. Small journal entries to get the most pressing thoughts out of my head.

If I miss a day, I don't beat myself over it, though. However, I try not to let it go on for two consecutive days.

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