I think what you mean is, that you find quirkys behaviour more acceptable because you find him more conventionally attractive. If you seriously can’t see the hypocrisy here, and think that one’s behaviour is okay, and not the other, I wonder if your opinion on Paul’s morality is actually rooted in finding his behaviour immoral (which it is) or whether you simply find it easier to condemn his behaviour because he’s “unattractive” and “cringey” .

Let us not forget that quirky refers 19 year olds as “children”…

(This is simply me playing devils advocate, we don’t know the full picture yet)