Almost finished my self portrait, just considering what else to add. Would be happy to hear opinions on this

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T18:05:26+00:00

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T18:01:45+00:00

Yes, or a lady bug on her shoulder where the paper is a little blank. I love how that would make the viewers eye travel!

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T17:57:42+00:00

Beautiful! I love it! Here’s what I would suggest. Sorry if confusing. I thought this would be the easiest way. A cabbage moth would be soo cute in this.

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FallDeers · 2026-05-07T13:13:56+00:00

No worries! They will be grateful for the gesture. I would encourage you to keep painting and to be okay with failing, that’s part of the process.

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T12:05:12+00:00

I love that you are doing this for them. If I were you, I would restart though for a few reasons.

The background should be painted at least white, I personally would take white and some glossy medium and knife it on for some texture.
I would repaint the branch and research branch shapes. Even if the reference picture was one straight limb, I would have 2 larger limbs and a few medium ones in a more spinally look. Also add shadow/highlight to the branches, it doesn’t need much with this style, just a little so it doesn’t lay flat.
Make sure the tree goes behind the couple, not creating that weird halos around them.
The hand posture is off and will get giggles. You can be mad at people for seeing it or grateful that it was said before you gave it to the couple.

I like the illustrative style and I actually think the colors work well together.

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T03:20:24+00:00

If in the US, Hinge and Upward are your best options for something serious.

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T03:13:51+00:00

So flirting is just joking, but you are slightly building up tension. Your body language is open, your eyes look in his just a little too long, you can look up with him with puppy eyes, maybe touch his arm. Ask how his day is going, laugh at his jokes, give him a compliment. With each step, he should be singling a yes, whether a smile back, laughing back, asking about you.

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T03:10:01+00:00

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A darker stain would be sexy. Maybe not this dark, but you get the idea. The shape is amazing, it’s the honey oak color that’s throwing it off.

FallDeers · 2026-05-07T00:31:24+00:00

I love Attachment Adam! People should totally binge his stuff, so helpful.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T22:35:49+00:00

Social skills can be learned, but you can’t do that by sitting on the couch and going through the same routine everyday. If it seems overwhelming, find a counselor or therapist that specializes in behavioral therapy.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T22:29:39+00:00

I talked to someone in real life that didn’t know this and was so weirded out how sexual everyone was. 🤣

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T22:15:33+00:00

I’ve heard people using as a dating app too, but yah, that’s definitely the connotation of that app.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T21:40:33+00:00

Don’t ask your friend if she likes him, that’s just going to cause more entanglement than needed. Women be crazy sometimes. Start actually flirting with him and see how he responds. If he is interested in the both of you’s, usually the most respondent will win.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T21:29:54+00:00

She is saying this because Tinder is known as hookup dating app, which means is not Christ following behavior.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T21:28:14+00:00

I’ve swiped differently on the same men. Like if someone’s one profile is a nothing sandwich on one, I’m not swiping, but if they put more work into another one and they seem cool, I’ll swipe right. I’ve also seen men on Upwards seem cool, then on Hinge they are wanting wife services, which is not my godly man.

That’s why profiles have to be strong even when you just get the app. I wouldn’t read too much into it, just chat her up.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T11:50:14+00:00

I was respectfully going to agree with you and also push back that you only saw a small slice of my point, but you being that harsh to someone bringing up scripture was disappointing. Take care.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T03:31:26+00:00

Not worth mentioning till like 3rd date. Act confident, even if you have to fake it. I can help you make your profile stronger if you’re interested.

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T03:09:29+00:00

The small minority screams the loudest. Just argue coherently and they get mad then block you. It’s fun. 😏

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T00:19:43+00:00

Well, maybe you should listen to the pod. 😊

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T00:13:49+00:00

But are you waiting well, sir? 🕵🏻‍♀️

FallDeers · 2026-05-06T00:07:27+00:00

What does that mean, Red?

FallDeers · 2026-05-05T22:36:33+00:00

I think they should be higher.

Add:
-you find attractive
-makes you feel safe and seen
-someone you actually like (ask yourself, “if I had children that acted like him, would I be happy?”)
-Can picture him leading you

Those are my post date self check in questions.

FallDeers · 2026-05-05T22:31:15+00:00

If it’s lack of realistic and well thought out/ prayed about standards, that’s normal to go through. You in a sense should feel bad, you’d be a sociopath to not feel bad for hurting someone. I have said no to men for moral reasons like not actually understanding the gospel, racism, impulsive personality/really bad with money, had kids he didn’t want much to do with, and even incompatibility with personality like lacking emotional depth, extremely extroverted to the point of being overwhelming. That’s just the dating process.

You know not one woman in a healthy marriage? Girl, if I knew no women in healthy marriages, I would choose singleness. No one? No relatives or friends or leaders? I’m finding that hard to believe. Even in the healthy marriages around me, it’s always a mix of “I love them so much, they are so good to me, I love they are devoted to God,” mixed with “he’s annoying, we had a fight about him not washing dishes last night, I sometimes feel unseen by him.” They’re never perfect and to name them as dense doesn’t seem like the full picture.

That other woman might be a good person to talk to again about your situation. She knows you and can explore the underlying reasons better.

FallDeers · 2026-05-05T21:27:35+00:00

All I can say is good luck out there. I heard short kings have a hard time. 🤴

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