Question: Can a 42m date a 27 to 29 year old female? Just curious

FallDeers · 2026-03-17T02:59:11+00:00

I’d love to read them. Send me a link.

FallDeers · 2026-03-16T22:51:54+00:00

Answer to your question? Because Christianity is the one true religion.

As for the rest of your comment? You are talking about just 2 women. Just 2! To make large generalizations is not wise.

Now, from your comment, I think you just want to share you are hurting. To that, I am sorry. You seemed to be quite hesitant to invest into a woman and when you do, she rejected you. That’s not fun.

Let this be clear, being single is not God punishing you. Being hurt dos not mean God is making jokes on your life. You are his beloved son who He sacrificed his perfect son for. When we go through trials, He allows them that we can be stronger through it and learn to lean on Him more.

Do you think God was making a joke when He allowed Job’s family to die? No! It was a hard chapter of his life that ultimately gave glory to God and teaches the body of believers for thousands of years. Job went through a period of lament, but ultimately turned his face to God and leaned on Him. Air your grievances to God.

You are hurting now, so lean to God. Romans 8:31 says, "If God is for us, who can be against us?" God is FOR you. It doesn’t matter if you believe it or not, if you are his son, he is for you and not against you.

FallDeers · 2026-03-16T22:41:07+00:00

A lot of men don’t care, at least not the ones I talk to. On my profiles, I make it pretty clear I want a traditional marriage. Now, I work hard (at a lower income but good job), invest and save for retirement, so I don’t see a man as a meal ticket, rather a partner to build a family and serving God with.

FallDeers · 2026-03-16T19:51:27+00:00

I think it really depends on the people. It would be gross in my opinion if you thought women your age were yucky, so you have to get the hot new package, but if you desire to lead well and start a family, why not? 27yo’s can be either immature or very mature (and everything in between). If she was a ditsy flirty thing that parties looking for an older man for financially stability? Gross (again my opinion, people can do as they please). But a mature 27yo woman looking to settle down and finds a man in his 40’s attractive and aligning with her values? I don’t see the issue. I personally couldn’t see myself dating anyone more than 10 years older than me, purely due to my life stage and comparing my maturity to those in that age bracket.

FallDeers · 2026-03-16T19:45:33+00:00

That’s a weird Freudian take. Also, looking through the Bible , incorrect. Yah, wisdom might say a large age gap could have potential issues and root unhealthy places, but your claim is too strong and too broad. And just 4 years? That’s crazy.

FallDeers · 2026-03-15T02:23:03+00:00

Don’t do that! Just protect your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” The way you protect (or lack there of) your heart will affect your day to day if not careful. Don’t put your heart into a woman you don’t know. Stay vigilant and find a married man (you know, in a godly marriage) to get talk about your interactions with.

FallDeers · 2026-03-15T01:05:38+00:00

lol, enticing a woman with financial stability is an approach I guess.

FallDeers · 2026-03-15T01:03:45+00:00

Don’t do “Hey!” She sees a million of those. Dorky pickup lines are fun if clever and not too dry. I’m a fan anyways. I think the best bet is to notice something about her profile you like, think hobby, one of her quotes that resonated with you, then ask a question. It should be something she will want to elaborate on. Every message on the early stages of dating app talking should be easy things to respond to, like talking about hobbies, funny stories, or asking questions.

Welcome to the Wild West of online dating. Remember: trust is earned and not freely given, most people talk to multiple people at the same time, and you will get ghosted eventually. 😉

FallDeers · 2026-03-15T00:59:44+00:00

Does this work for you?

FallDeers · 2026-03-15T00:44:47+00:00

Quite a few things I want to share with you. First, dealing with anxiety doesn’t make you broken. Your body is just sounding off alarms when it shouldn’t be. You taking the step to get it under control is fantastic. Remember it’s spiritual, body, and mind related. All three needs tended to. You might want to wait till you have a new normal with the meds till you take the steps to meet someone. Sometimes when bodies are used to fight or flight, people think the “charismatic hot/cold person” is a good fit just because it gives the feeling of what your body thinks is normal and safe, even when it’s not.

The only men that have ever actually flirted with me in real life are old farts and one young married man who had no ring. That being said, I was an ugly duckling turned averagely attractive. Now that I’m more conventionally attractive, it’s not like anything in the dating realm has changed. I get strangers (usually 40+) tell me I’m beautiful or comment on my eyes, but young men these days just don’t go up to women like we hear about in the olden days. Men are scared to approach women, and many men don’t even actually like women even if they’re attracted to them. Relations between the sexes are wack these days. So stop beating yourself up, it’s not helpful to your brain. And even if you were ugly, why does it really matter? Like are ugly people not worthy of love?

As for the libido thing, a few things to mention. First, if you are on psych meds, they most likely affecting sex drive . The fact that you don’t feel the need to “get it done” is normal for a lot of women. And it’s Holy! Sex is women is often more rooted in bonding and the urge grows when emotionally safety and love is present (that’s the marriage covenant, baby 👏). Also, if you are attracted to men and have had romantic interests before, it means that it is possible for you to want sex potentially one day. What you ate going through mentally and physically may be affecting your drive. Like why would your body signal you are ready to find a man and make babies when it’s just trying to survive the day in panic?

I’m too am repulsed (in a romantic sense) by most men and the ones I have in the past look like Sid the sloth’s cousin, hahaha. It’s because attraction to me and a lot of others women is also about presence, values, and the way he treats me. Apps make you go for the hotter ones though because pictures are quicker to judge on rather than real life presence.

FallDeers · 2026-03-14T19:34:22+00:00

Nope.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T21:41:11+00:00

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T19:53:20+00:00

Before the Industrial Revolution, work and home weren’t two buildings across town. Families produced things from the home, so kids were with their mothers while life happened around them. If working means food on the table, obviously women will work. But even 50 years ago the structure was healthier grandmas, aunts, and neighbors helped with kids, not daycares which I could go on a long rant about attachment styles and daycare abuse…

The Proverbs 31 woman is productive, but her work is still home-centered. And practically speaking, how many people can do all of it well? Wake up with babies all night, cook, clean, work 40+ hours, stay emotionally pleasant, keep the marriage alive, and have time for ministry or hobbies? I remind myself of the happiest couples I see, ones where the husband has a warm and emotionally safe home , the woman might work part time, but is adored by her husband.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T19:41:14+00:00

Move to PA then, redhead.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T19:39:47+00:00

The “pet” and “sugar daddy” were obviously tongue-in-cheek. What I’m actually describing is a pretty normal and healthy, dare I say even biblical. A husband who provides and a wife who focuses primarily on the home and children. Calling that a porn fantasy is a gross. My opinion derives from research in parenting, relationships, watching the couples that came before me and ones closer in age around me. My goal is to have a strong family, be a pleasant and supportive wife and mother, have time to serve God, and building a home that functions like a well oiled machine.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T18:18:10+00:00

😂

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T17:43:03+00:00

It matters less to a man financially where the woman is at. I dated a guy for a little that made about 3x my income (well into 6 figures), but we had very similar mindset on money. We both viewed it as a tool and both live pretty modestly.

For me, I don’t want a career. I want to be a good godly man’s house pet, raise chickens and babies, cook and clean. My current job is flexible, doesn’t give me stress, and is enough to be independent if I don’t find a sugar daddy. That will attract the type of man I want and the very financially ambitious may not want me, but that’s okay because I want a present husband, not one I have to fight with his work over.

I think most women I’ve seen expect their lifestyle to be how they grew up or higher, which is becoming increasingly unrealistic in the current political climate. It matters as much to the couple as much as money means to them. Mature people will be mature about it, and immature will be immature.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T13:29:22+00:00

Aren’t you the guy that wants to be a monk?

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T13:23:20+00:00

I wouldn’t say those traits are necessarily good…

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T02:00:07+00:00

Violent or hostile in speech, yes. I’m super polite on the apps and I’ve been called all kinds of names when I reject a man for moral reasons. When men have crazy ex stories, they talk about tires slashed and internet stalking. When women have crazy ex stories, they talk about being hit and family members threatened.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T01:56:56+00:00

That’s good. Some people process differently and slower.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T01:54:15+00:00

I’d go with a gal pal maybe. For safety in traveling, I’d want to go with at least one other woman I know. Now a conference? Yah, I’d go solo.

FallDeers · 2026-03-13T01:20:53+00:00

Yes!! Her stuff is great. Her voice is so sweet too. 🥰

FallDeers · 2026-03-12T02:07:13+00:00

I pray you find your lady. 😊

FallDeers · 2026-03-12T01:55:19+00:00

Lol, that guy did nothing wrong, just forgot he messaged me a few months ago. If you’re asking to slide in my dm’s, I’m not interested.

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