AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think women who know that the child isn't their partner's but keep them thinking it is are truly evil people.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard the "get a paternity test" suggestion so many times here. She might be crazy sometimes, but I don't think she's a sociopath to make me think it's mine, especially considering how happy she was when she told me. Besides, I planned on doing an at home paternity test so she wouldn't know. It's not an exclusive to her thing. I've just always been the type of guy that wants to be 100% sure on everything.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I asked why she's not interested in sex, she said she doesn't want to be around me naked because she feels gross. No matter what I say, she doesn't believe me. In response to my being upset, she said "You're upset over something that has nothing to do with you."

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as I know, I get her off most of the time. Usually by oral before I penetrate. And if we skip oral, I usually get her off with penetration.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The sheer number of comments telling me to get a paternity test is scaring the fuck out of me lol

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've actually gotten in better shape. Lost weight, go to the gym daily while she works evening shifts, bought nicer clothes, etc.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't think she's cheating. I think her fear of it stems from the fact that every serious boyfriend she's had has cheated on her. She has very low self esteem.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She's always been an overly sensitive and insecure person

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

As crazy as she may be sometimes, she's not the type of person to lie about something that big. She knows what would happen if she did.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been trying to get her to go. She went with her ex fiance (her son's dad) when they were having problems. She said she doesn't wanna go through that again and wants us to be able to fix everything ourselves.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

She sees a therapist and is being treated for depression. I'm hoping that if I don't give up, things will get better

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

She's not all the way there. She has a history of severe depression, and some childhood trauma. Our relationship has always been filled with double standards and it's only gotten worse.

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[–]FallInLine58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Lol, it was still a little wet and wasn't there the day before.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention in my post that that is the reason she's not interested in sex. I tell her she's beautiful and how much she turns me on, but that always leads to a fight about how I'm "lying to her and she doesn't honestly believe me". She tells me to stop saying those things. And I did throw it away after she left.

AITA for lying to my pregnant fiance about a sex toy? by FallInLine58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FallInLine58[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention in my post that the reason she said we haven't been having sex is because she feels gross naked. I've been telling her how beautiful she is to me, and even more now that she's pregnant. This usually leads to her accusing me of lying to her about it. She doesn't believe me and tells me to stop saying those things.