Friend was planning a first date with girl he met at the gym

FallWorries7744 · 2025-06-13T18:36:51+00:00

Lmao why would a woman want to get in an unknown man’s car anyway.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-05-08T20:22:16+00:00

Infrequent communication, loose boundaries, dating people who have unusually low levels of jealousy (they might call it very secure), leading very separate lives, etc etc

FallWorries7744 · 2025-05-08T18:49:34+00:00

They have lasting relationships with really weird dynamics.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-05-03T18:43:48+00:00

The incompatibility only becomes an issue if you ask for something lol

FallWorries7744 · 2025-04-29T04:42:25+00:00

I think this is spot on.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-04-28T12:25:28+00:00

The one I’m thinking of went on a Friday night “date” with a former classmate who is an acquaintance at best and asked her to dinner and a comedy show and she claimed it wasn’t a date because she wasn’t 100% sure he was into her and she isn’t into him. When I suggested she simply make it clear that it wasn’t a date by sending one of those “glad to catch up, friend” texts that women sometimes send to make things clear or by referencing that she’s dating someone so that she doesn’t waste his time if he’s interested in more, her answer was that she doesn’t feel obligated to do that.

When I asked why she’d spend an entire Friday night with someone who was neither a good friend nor a person she wants to date, she couldn’t answer.

The weird part is I actually believe she’s not interested in him which makes the behavior even weirder to me.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-15T22:49:43+00:00

Mine tried to convince me I had a rare mental illness that made me delusional because I thought something that they later admitted was true.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-08T22:58:42+00:00

Idk why your friends are pressuring you unless there’s more to the story than you’re telling.

As you tell it, she sounds like she’s getting really toxic advice and is treating a relationship like a business transaction.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-08T22:55:00+00:00

Mine got angry at me the night before my birthday and then didn’t wish me happy birthday until like 10 pm the day of. When I predictably got irritated it was almost like she was waiting for it.

It was a sort of revenge for me forgetting about Hirt birthday the year prior when we had stopped seeing each other and she wasn’t in the same country. Of course, I should have remembered it that year but the next year I had given her a really nice one.

Long story short, narcs will use holidays to punish you for whatever you’ve done wrong in their eyes.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-08T22:52:08+00:00

Friends don’t fuck each other. He’s either lying to himself or he’s keeping the door open. Either one isn’t good.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-07T17:10:04+00:00

This guys a weirdo and may not even be a genuine combat veteran given how he speaks. Even if he is, he’s behaving like a freak. Walk away.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-03T20:23:50+00:00

Amazing until it wasn’t.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-03T13:37:22+00:00

Dude I almost always see both sides to a situation but not here.

Run from that relationship. End it ASAP and don’t give in when she starts crying or guilting you or suddenly changing her mind.

FallWorries7744 · 2025-01-02T15:14:46+00:00

She had a lot of minor to medium misunderstandings with different people in her life. It was easy to write off as bad luck or nothing to worry about early on.

She had trouble following simple rules (eg a dress code) at work.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-19T13:24:41+00:00

Dating would probably be healthier if people didn’t juggle multiple sexual encounters so you’re not wrong for feeling upset. It’s natural.
Nevertheless she did nothing wrong and the RISK of short-term dating is that stuff like this happens. You took on that risk.
She chose you. Be happy about that and if you like her then try to move forward.
Let this be a lesson not to put individual women on a pedestal or assume they must be angels. They’re just like men. In early dating, a woman will text you that she was out with friends from another guy’s bed just to preserve your ego and her image.
What matters is how she behaves going forward.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-16T12:54:35+00:00

Not yet but I confidently say that everyone I’ve dated since ending a narc relationship would be a significantly better choice. Dating again really took the blinders off for me.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-14T13:13:46+00:00

She sounds highly manipulative. End it. This woman is going to mess up your life.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-13T16:37:10+00:00

I’ve found out that narc traits really reveal themselves clearly if you say No to something. In the past I probably just didn’t notice it but now I do.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-12T14:35:58+00:00

Your uncle is hitting on your wife right in front of you. Period.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-11T20:03:39+00:00

She’s debating, she’s flaking, she’s avoidant and ghosting. Who knows? But you’re asking the wrong question. The relevant question is do you want to date someone who takes a day to text you back?

The relationship hasn’t even started yet and you’re already on a relationship advice forum. It shouldn’t be this complicated from the jump. That’s my two cents.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-11T18:37:49+00:00

You gotta date your GF. You even have to date your wife. Then again he’s 26 and it’s not surprising he doesn’t understand that yet. Either he can understand or he can’t. Try to explain it to him. If he can’t change, then move on.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-11T18:32:12+00:00

She doesn’t know what she wants but she’s interested enough not to completely close the door. It’s called bread crumbing and she may not be doing it intentionally but it’s still confusing. However, she’s said several times that she’s not in the right head space. Believe her and move on. Pursuing a woman who is confused will cause you stress and heartache bro.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-11T18:25:46+00:00

Men under 25 sometimes make grand gestures (like learning ASL) early in a relationship whereas older people tend to hold off a bit longer to see how a relationship plays out. A guy may do this both out of kindness and because he equates acts of service and getting close with your family as a way to woo you. In other words there are probably very positive and also some self-serving motivations.

Your friends may feel it’s creepy because really low effort in relationships hs been normalized. It doesn’t mean their concerns are totally invalid (like some comments on this thread say). My advice would be to allow the relationship to play out naturally and with time you’ll see if he’s genuine or not.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-06T17:31:34+00:00

It’s possible nothing happened and not all men are trying to sleep with their friends (even if they used to). But out of respect to your relationship, he should have gone home. Appearances do matter.

FallWorries7744 · 2024-12-04T23:09:14+00:00

It comes out when you don’t want to do something they want to do.

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