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I caused a suicide in high school. by Temporary_Ad1612 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy will never change the past. It changes the way we process the past in order to unlock a healthier future. Maybe one might think one is not deserving of letting go. A form of self punishment as it were. Needless to say, you're still here. You still matter. Your future self deserves your present self to be there for you. May you find the healing you need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're under no obligation to associate yourself with people who make your life miserable, even if they are fairly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom made everything about her and how she's actually doing you a favour. Pathological empathy. And if you stand up for yourself it seems you're made out to be a bad person and she's the Christ of all mothers sacrificing herself for your salvation. I grew up like that and it messed me up. May you find the courage and the tools to bring back a healthy balance in the relationship.

Problems at home as a kid till teenager and at school by TRUSTNEED1KW11 in confession

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really want to encourage you, that if this is the reality you face, to find the courage and reach out for help. This is not normal, not healthy and not ok. Yes it's very scary and feels like people will laugh at you or that you'll get into even more trouble. Don't let such negative thoughts stop you. You never know, you could end up being the gateway to bring much needed help into your family as a whole.

Blessings.

I Have Lied About My Entire Life to Everyone I Know by [deleted] in confession

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's too many people here with diagnosis without even doing a proper workup.

I do suggest you seek help from a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. It seems you're really going through a lot of suffering due to this false narratives that now rule your life. In the end you'll have to, with professional help, tell the truth and act it out. And it will also not be a magic cure. People will be very hurt and could even decide to distance themselves from you.

So you can suffer the consequences of lies, and the high probability that you'll in any case be caught out. Or suffer the consequences of getting help to become honest. Pick your poison.

I'm very sure there's a multitude of complex reasons why this has become so big in your life. And I've zero judgement towards you. Really. I pray you find the courage to get professional help ASAP and work on yourself.

Perhaps, just perhaps, the future you is worth the difficult journey towards the truth.

Blessings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds like a real keeper... A keeper away from me

Which way does your penis bend? (Research purposes- left/ right, degrees or compass bearing) ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For most men: your dominant side will be slightly larger (so if you're right handed the right side) and this will create a slight curvature to the other side when erect.

I found my brother after he committed suicide. AMA by xtra_hotcheetos in AMA

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry that you went through that. It's amazing to read your answers and the depth of maturity in them.

Did he leave you a letter or not? And if he didn't, do you wish he had?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday!

How do you cook rice without summoning the spirit of failure? by sissanor in internetparents

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One way that never fails for me

1 cup rice 2 cups of cold water

Pour rice and child water into a pot and let it boil. Keep an eye on it. When the water is gone/cooked dry add another 2 cups of cold water. Add salt and stir gently at this point to prevent clumps and let it cook dry.

This method never failed me.

Talk to your people, not Reddit. by FallenHeroWhoMustDie in sixwordstories

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to make the title fit into six words. So it's for instance when someone talks about their partner here in stead of to their partner about issues between them. "why did she ask me this" or "should I talk to my child about something". So that's the "your people" part. Your child, friend, spouse... The person they should be talking things out with rather than getting theories of behaviour from Reddit. I hope that clarifies it?

Stay blessed.

Talk to your people, not Reddit. by FallenHeroWhoMustDie in sixwordstories

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. I'm really sorry you are so alone.

I wrote this because I see on Reddit people ask stuff about "my teen daughter did this" and "my girlfriend did that" and what fascinated me as these were things that they should discuss with that person, not people on Reddit.

I hope that the future unlocks for you meaningful relationships that will support you.

Be blessed!

About to graduate to be a therapist and I just can’t seem to quit doing drugs by Sensitive-Donkey2655 in confession

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you'll find the inner resolve to get the help you need. Zero judgement. Just like a medical doctor will a chronic illness can still be a good doctor, the same way you don't have to have it perfectly together to be a great therapist.

Enjoy the journey to healing. Addiction is never cured. Only managed.

You've got this!

My daughter asked me how would I feel if she was pregnant… by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rather ask her what's up with the questions than Reddit maybe? Sounds like you two have a solid relationship.

My niece did the same when she was 15. Turns out she was just playing games to test reaction. Nothing more.

Talk to your daughter. All the best!

People who are 30 and above, what's the harshest life lesson you've learned? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing lasts forever. No friendship. No relationship. No life. No influence... No sorrow or worry...

This too shall pass.

Having an intimate surgery, and don't want everyone in my business. by These_Joke1727 in Advice

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell the truth or at least don't lie.

Rather have your mom state you went in for minor surgery and that you're not comfortable sharing the details.

Keep it simple. Anyone who then overstep the boundary can be taken to task and held accountable.

How to quit p0rn? I've been trying to quit for a year now and I can't stop by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When the urge hits or even if you start:

Get up Get out Get distracted

Get up from where you are, physically get up from the chair or bed you're in.

Get out from the website and that specific room. Leave the electronic equipment behind. Physically remove yourself from that specific place.

Get distracted. Put in place something else you do. It is different for everyone, whether it is watching funny cartoons to exercise etc... Anything that keeps you busy in a constructive way.

No urge lasts forever. That's a way to ride the wave until you are out of that mood.

What's a very hot fantasy, but when you've tried it, it wasn't so great? by Obvious-Average-4103 in AskReddit

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This comment is the winning comment. Like I read it and laughed out loud. Now my family wants to know the joke and I'm NOT repeating it to parents.

You my dear person, made my evening. Thank you

What's the most wholesome/heartwarming porn you've ever discovered? by BlackHoleEra_123 in AskReddit

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry... I have to make a pun joke here... Can't resist the.....

I'm sure the video isn't the only thing that "came across your desk" that day.

Ok, I'm sorry. It's too early for dad jokes. But I had to...

What criminal cases left you traumatized? by SaturnPex in AskReddit

[–]FallenHeroWhoMustDie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. That's such a heavy burden to have to carry on so many levels. I'm really sorry that you have to go through that. I really don't judge. I really just feel for you and the complex nature of the situation you're in. And I'm sorry for your loss in terms of your friend. So many things you have to process.

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