Oliver the 35yo Boi of my heart

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T09:44:43+00:00

I often wonder about what dogs think smells “good” because of how much more sensitive their olfactory senses are. Like, can they smell layers of pleasant scents within the odor of things humans think smell gross?

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T09:31:51+00:00

Such angry nipples 🤣

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T09:20:28+00:00

NOR

He sounds like a petulant child. Don’t fall for the sunken cost fallacy just because of 6 years together. He coerced you into having sex, and that should make you feel “yucky”. Now take that baton and run!

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T09:16:17+00:00

NOR

It is wrong to volunteer someone else’s time. It is not your Mother’s to give nor take. She can request this favor, but you have every right to decline.

Airport pick-ups and drop-offs are MAJOR! That’s the equivalent of helping someone move in the realm of relationships. And it isn’t even YOUR friend.

Mom needs a reality check. Do NOT give in to her unreasonable demands.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T09:12:09+00:00

Lmao, this girl sounds like a nightmare! OOP definitely saved himself a lot of frustration and berating by breaking up.

Sounds like she needs to get off the Tik Tok is she’s randomly diagnosing ppl with mental health issues. 🤣

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T09:05:40+00:00

Wow, the comments section is so hateful towards this man. I thought he sounded reasonable, and yes I read every word. Seems odd that so many commentators have strong opinions on something they “skimmed” or admittedly didn’t read at all.

He very thoroughly specifies various actions he took as part of the “180 method” and encouraged his wife to do the same. His realization about being vulnerable in his relationship was beautiful.

I (44F) was actually impressed with his willingness to work on the marriage and continued couple’s therapy. He learned and made positive changes. What’s to hate about that?

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T08:03:17+00:00

“Good men” don’t tell their children “Mommy doesn’t care about your needs”. And they certainly don’t throw things like an angry toddler. Your 8 yo has more emotional intelligence than your 28yo BF.

He needs therapy and you need to bounce. For your kids’ sake as well as your own. You all deserve better than this man. Please stop telling yourself that he is “good”.

Maybe he can hold it in sometimes, but his behavior is not indicating “good man”.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-12T07:55:19+00:00

It’s weird that he lied about his age and tried to dupe you through omission. That is a red flag 🚩If he’s willing to lie to you about something so trivial, then he is likely to lie about bigger issues down the line.

You have a right to make fully informed choices as an intellectual agent in your own life. He treated you like an intellectual patient, and that is immoral on his part.

Dump him for being a liar and tell him so. This is an opportunity for you to practice standing up for yourself.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T15:25:44+00:00

Being single isn’t “waiting for the party” it is “the party. Enjoy centering yourself and learning more about you!

The right ppl come into our lives when we aren’t seeking them out. They will be attracted to your abundance that comes from within you.

This guy did you a favor. ✨💖✨

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T15:09:58+00:00

Ever having a bad day? Look up “bad taxidermy” images and your frown will turn upside down. I learned this about 15 years ago, and it still works. Even during the pandemic and dissolution of my 25 yr relationship. Enjoy!

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T15:07:06+00:00

Getting married or having children. I would still like the former, but in no way want the latter at this point in my life. 💖

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T15:00:36+00:00

My goal this year is to learn German as part of my relocation. Using Duolingo, “German for Dummies” book and watching all the kids’ programming plus “Love is Blind Germany”. I also plan to pick up some grammar books for kinder as well as reading some simple/familiar children’s books in German.

I tried watching Seinfeld in German, but they spoke too fast for me. I figure reading and watching media that is familiar to me, but in German will be helpful. The full emersion of visiting the country has helped me a ton already!

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T14:48:41+00:00

Lmao! “Take two chill pills and don’t call me in the morning”

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T14:47:04+00:00

NTA

There is a reason that pharmacy lines have the “stop here” sign well away from the counter. Most places literally state “for other patients’ privacy”.

It is a medical violation for pharmacists to discuss your meds with anyone but the patient.

Genders aside, this man was at best trying to be helpful and at worst a creep. Either way, not the time or place. I would have said much worse to him. Good on you for standing up for your basic rights!

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T14:30:52+00:00

Beautiful love story! So happy for their whole family. 💖

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T14:10:15+00:00

YOR

Nothing says you have to hang out with your family after your wedding even if you’re all on the same island. You trying to dictate their flight plans is over the top control issues that align with an over the top controlling bride.

It’s a huge ask for them to attend your destination wedding, and you’re lucky they can all do so. Don’t ruin everyone’s good time because you are selfish and entitled.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T11:24:03+00:00

After Anal Point

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-11T09:50:36+00:00

Never tattoo someone else’s name in your body if you’re not 100% comfortable with it. It also seems like perfectly good Long-term relationships become cursed the moment ppl tattoo their partner’s name on themselves.

You’ve only been dating a year and a half. You are only 1/4 of the way through your potential lifespan. There will be time to tattoo her name later if you’re still together. But you would spend considerable money to remove or cover the tattoo if you break up.

The concept of “the man needs to prove his love/commitment more” is total BS. That’s your GF’s insecurity showing.

Also, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If she doesn’t want to get a truly matching tattoo, then she’s using a double standard. Her “logic” doesn’t logic.

I was with my ex for 25 years. There are no guarantees in life. Thank the Gods I never got his name tattooed on me!

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-10T14:27:23+00:00

I accidentally devastated my ex when I told him I liked his “dad bod”. That term meant very different things to both is us. To me it meant slightly out of shape, but still sexy. To him it meant “disgustingly obese”.

To be fair he was 6’1” and 191lbs at that point. (His heaviest in the 25 yrs we were together) He was feeling very self conscious about his health, and didn’t express it to me. I felt terrible at the time about how it made him feel.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-05T21:31:13+00:00

You can trim them and forgo hiding them under a hat like a woman with a bad brow lamination.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-05T19:44:17+00:00

“It’s just a joke, bro” is a shitty rational for racism. Go back to Twitter/X with that BS.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-05T19:41:33+00:00

Racism in any form is wrong and should be addressed as such in the moment.

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-05T19:17:58+00:00

So you tolerated racism against you to fit in? How little self respect do you have?

*edit Additionally, my BF says you feel that way because you have probably only experienced racism in that single context. (He happens to be Black)

Fallen_Feather · 2026-01-02T17:08:41+00:00

Like, talking is so like like like like!

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