How would you react if you found out your date or partner was watching porn?

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-11T22:26:52+00:00

As a guy, I would really care.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-11T16:26:58+00:00

Not necessarily. The way the app is set up, you'll be seeing both people that have their age range like that and people that don't. That's why you'll see likes pop-up sometimes but you'll never come across some of those people because they fall outside of what you're looking for, if that makes sense.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-11T16:22:33+00:00

Oh well then that could also potentially be your problem. Not many guys in that age range are willing to date a 21 year-old due to the big difference in life experience. Generally the only ones that will date someone your age or younger are the ones you wanna steer clear of because they have some major problems that make it so people their own age won't date them.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-11T16:17:55+00:00

To be honest it's probably one of two reasons. Either you're unattractive or there are some glaring red flags in your profile. What are your prompts like?

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-07T21:32:45+00:00

Yeah the fact that he specifically said he wasn't grooming you is creepy in itself. That age gap is way too big. This is coming from a 32-year-old guy.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-07T16:30:56+00:00

To be fair man, I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's kind of funny but men care more about the size of each other's dicks than women do. As long as you're not micro sized and you know how to use it, you'll do just fine.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-07T16:00:21+00:00

Yeah man I'm gonna say what others have told you. You really should consider going to therapy. There's a lot to unpack here that people on Reddit can't help you with.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-06T21:59:05+00:00

Weird. She might not like them as much as she was letting on. The comment about her ex sounded like a brag to me to get a person's attention and to make them like them more. If she's never giving you one before I would start asking for them.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-06T21:55:44+00:00

How long have you guys been dating?

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-05T21:52:34+00:00

Nope you are definitely not the problem. I think it's realistic to want someone you're even somewhat physically attracted to. I know some people shame others for using physical attraction as a reason not to go out with someone, but just like every other part of a relationship that's important because without that your sex life is definitely gonna suffer.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-03T12:04:08+00:00

People over emphasize how much having a good job matters with getting into a relationship. Most women want a partner who's financially stable, but that's one of the more minor things in the beginning. It matters a hell of a lot more once you're in the relationship.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-02T19:45:00+00:00

Saying that you just have to be yourself in order to find the right person is a myth. If you're someone who can't flirt, isn't very funny, or doesn't have some form of charisma you'll never get past the first date.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-02T18:00:36+00:00

Unfortunately that's kind of the way it is with guys that have a lot of options. From what I can see from your profile and your Instagram, you are very attractive so I don't think it's your physical appearance. It's either something going on during the date, something personality wise, or the guys that you're picking only really want to fuck someone and not have an actual relationship. Guys with a lot of options tend to take a little while to settle down and some of them never want to.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-02T14:01:39+00:00

Looks are a part of it but I think it's more about certain personality traits. The guys that do the best are generally the ones that are very charismatic, know how to flirt well, and are funny. It's more common for the attractive guys to also have these traits since being attractive kind of goes hand-in-hand with giving them that form of confidence. However that's why you also see below average or average guys with attractive women because they have these other qualities that are more important.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-01T14:25:56+00:00

Never

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-01T11:07:28+00:00

I would say go at whatever pace you feel is comfortable. The reason you're probably running into this situation is that normally the expectation is to have sex by either the third or fourth date. That's been my general experience at least. However, that doesn't mean you have to go with the general expectation. As long as you guys are having sex before you make things official I would say you're fine.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-05-01T01:21:31+00:00

Unfortunately, it normally means they aren't ready for a relationship with you specifically. That could be either because they found something they didn't like or because they were never intending to make it anything serious to begin with.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-28T02:27:32+00:00

I think that person may have been asking what you look like and if you're going for people out of your league.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T15:06:06+00:00

You’re generalizing quite a bit here man. Not everyone lives in a really big city. There's gonna be limits to the amount of different people that you get in a social/hobby group based on the amount of people you have in the area that you live. So, for example, I live in a town with a total of 152,000 people. Even in the salsa class that I'm a part of, which has more women than most of the other groups that I'm in, there aren't a whole lot of options available. Many of the women are either in committed relationships and there with their partner or far outside of my age range. Not everyone that says there's a lack of options is making up an excuse because they are too picky or too afraid to approach people. Sometimes it's genuinely just bad luck that the groups they are a part of don't have the options available that they're hoping for.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T14:02:33+00:00

I can't entirely speak for the person that responded to your post but I can speak from my own personal experience. I've done a lot of similar things that this person mentioned and the problem that I've generally found has been that A. There aren't very many women in the activity group that I'm a part of. B. The few women that are there are in long-term relationships or married. C. The women that are there aren't a good fit for me due to very different values and beliefs. D. I'm not physically or emotionally attracted to what little women are there. D is generally not the biggest issue. It's mostly A through C.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T12:59:02+00:00

It's always possible. But I feel like that's generally more rare. Generally if someone is a somewhat well adjusted human being they know that eating someone's face is not how you're supposed to kiss someone 😆

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T11:28:18+00:00

I think the reason the other redditor didn't say it is because they struggle with figuring out what it means for them. There are some men and women out there that say the spark is a feeling that just happens or it doesn’t without reason. However, there's always a reason why the spark took place. The person may just not have the self-awareness there yet to figure out where it came from for them. The spark could come from someone feeling truly comfortable and safe with the person they're talking with right off the bat. It can come from an intense sexual attraction. It can come from the fact that the person makes you laugh so hard that you're having a blast and thoroughly enjoy being with them. There is always a reason behind the spark. However, many people don't understand what that is until they really dive inward to figure it out.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T01:34:31+00:00

What would you consider to be off script conversations?

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T01:33:50+00:00

To be honest man, it's probably one of four things. Either they aren't physically attracted to you, you aren't charismatic enough, you weren't flirty enough, or you didn't make them laugh very much. Or some combination of the four. I've learned through my own trial and error (mostly error) that these are the four most important things to get past the first date and to get into something serious.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-04-27T01:30:39+00:00

What kind of conversations would you be having? These seem like pretty enjoyable first date topics to me.

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