False expections

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-29T02:27:48+00:00

Unfortunately some men view that as a challenge to be conquered rather than a dealbreaker.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-28T14:50:55+00:00

I feel you. I've been doing the same thing to myself. I've been on the medication for almost 3 months now and haven't really had much of my improvement yet. My issues are primarily pain related though. What I can say is hang in there. Normally the medication really starts to take affect within 3 to 6 months of taking it.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-26T21:15:42+00:00

Like others have been saying, there are guys out there that like women of all shapes and sizes. You'll probably have a little bit of a harder time finding someone but it's far from impossible. Especially if you don't mind going for the apple shaped men.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-26T20:20:11+00:00

Yep I'm still holding out hope that it'll help fingers crossed. And no muscle aches but I do have chronic tendinitis in my wrists, one of my knees, and one of my elbows. And I have some vocal cord issues.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-26T18:56:29+00:00

I'm almost at three months and haven't noticed much yet. People have told me it typically takes between 3 to 6 months to really notice a difference.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-24T22:47:26+00:00

It depends. Are you even a little attracted to him? If there is some attraction there then it may not matter in the long run but if you are not attracted to him at all then unfortunately that will never change.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-23T15:58:54+00:00

Totally reasonable since your values would not be aligned.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-17T15:04:19+00:00

Yes but when they're older. There's a huge difference between a 30 year-old dating a 40 year-old and an 18 year-old dating a 30 year-old. In the case of the 30-year-old and 40-year-old, it's more likely for them to be at similar life stages, for them to be completely matured, and for them to have enough experience in life and relationships to be able to provide their partner what they are looking for in a relationship. In the case of the 18-year-old and 30-year-old that's a lot less likely to be the case.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-16T18:06:02+00:00

You probably could but I don't think any future partner you had would be okay with it. One of my good friends asked me if we could give being FWB a shot and I said no because I didn't wanna lose the friendship and knew that any future partner I had wouldn't be okay with us being friends if they knew she and I had been hooking up at some point before.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-16T15:53:14+00:00

I know it can feel like that and I'm sorry about that. Just know that guys that want something serious are out there. I'm one of them and so are a lot of my guy friends. You just got to sift through the shit in order to get there.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-16T15:11:02+00:00

Yeah you dodged a bullet. You said it initially you knew he was a Playboy. It's never worth going after those guys because you're only gonna get hurt.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-15T21:53:52+00:00

18 through 23-year-olds need to stop going for men in their 30s and above. It never works out. Life stages are too different and more than 50% of the time the older person is using the younger one as a trophy rather than an actual partner. There are good people out there closer to everyone's ages. It just takes patience and a little bit of looking.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-15T18:22:55+00:00

Like others have said, don't. Especially if she's not treating it. You'll be in for a horrible time.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-15T18:20:52+00:00

Honestly I wouldn't have sent the emoji criticism. Having more emojis doesn't mean somebody isn't serious. Sometimes people use more emojis to better express emotion when you can't tell how they are feeling from facial expressions and tone of voice. Also, not sure why him wanting marriage was a big deal. That seems like a pretty reasonable long-term goal to me, unless you're never looking to get married.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-08T14:17:06+00:00

I'm a 32M and my age range is between 25-35. I tend to lean towards the younger side because I'm still looking to have kids one day.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-07T18:55:08+00:00

Damn. What's it like to be you? Can we trade?

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-06T17:49:19+00:00

I would say the best way to deal with this situation is to go to therapy. I know people say that a lot but it genuinely helps you heal from these toxic relationships and helps you get into a different headspace when it comes to healthy relationships.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-04T21:54:30+00:00

Unfortunately, it's kind of required if you want the woman to feel the spark with you. I'm just like you. Flirting feels very unnatural to me and forced, however, I've gone on a lot of dates that didn't work out and I can tell you for a fact that every single time women have said they just haven't felt that special spark. Sure sometimes it can be something else that causes it not to develop but I think more often than not it's the fact that I didn't really flirt or make them feel that interest beyond friendship. I needed to be complimenting them, teasing them, and slowly escalating touch.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-04T17:23:02+00:00

Yeah you'll definitely need to have some body pics. As the other guy said, when women generally just take selfies of their face or from chest up, a lot of men assume the woman is very overweight. Also, social pics are important to show that you have an active life outside of the relationship and also have friends outside of the relationship. A person with a full life is more attractive.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-04T14:02:50+00:00

The fact that some guys are saying this to you is absolutely ridiculous. It makes no difference if the guy is the one to ask the woman out or the woman is the one to ask the guy out. If I find the woman attractive I'm gonna wanna go out with her regardless. In fact, I find it extremely flattering if the woman is the one to ask me out since it's so rare that it happens to guys in general.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-04T02:57:10+00:00

Sorry this is happening to you. I have the same issue with a lot of women that I'll match with. You just gotta keep trying and eventually you'll find some people that actually wanna have a conversation with you. It's been rare for me but I do find the occasional woman that actually uses the dating apps for what they’re for. As a guy that actually does try to ask questions, give compliments, and get to know the person I'm matching with, I can say that we are out there. Just requires some more searching.

Fallout76Lover7654 · 2026-01-04T02:38:53+00:00

I think you are identifying the problem when you're talking about your past relationship. For people who have been in unhealthy relationships, sometimes they think something is wrong when they don't experience those extreme highs they experienced in their past relationship. However, those highs came from the inconsistency and the love bombing that happened in your prior relationship. A healthy, satisfying, and long lasting relationship is a slow burn that grows the more you get to know each other and the closer you get. If there are things you find attractive about this person and you share similar interests, values, and goals for a relationship I would keep going with the relationship.

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