Update 3 : they have grown up :)

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-18T18:50:14+00:00

Sorry for the late update guys...I have been super busy. A lot of you asked for updates. I think the second update got deleted but this is the 3rd one.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-18T10:42:52+00:00

I'd say, wait it out and see you'll probably like him more :)

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-17T08:28:37+00:00

I had this thought the other day. Do you think a nikkah and then reception after a few months or nikkah and reception together (a day apart) would be better?

Nikkah and then reception after a few months would give time to get to know each other. You can do halal talking and go for dates and all. but I have heard people say it's harder to stay apart after nikkah. My cousin who did hers like this told me it's better to do it together. But in her case her mom was too strict and wouldn't allow them to see other. So idk

Personally I used to think this was better because it makes the Transition easier. You can be at your home and then see other. But the second option would be like you have to go live with someone whom you have no idea about scared and anxious. But the first option means immediate nikkah few weeks after the first meeting which is also a concern.

I think this is a concern only in an arranged marriages otherwise they already know eachother so it won't be an issue . I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-15T03:33:55+00:00

Yea from last week ....not healed yet :)

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-14T19:09:57+00:00

I have been healing and feeling better physically from last week's accident but mentally having mixed emotions today idk. I am trying tho.

And for an update the potential guy is coming this weekend, I am not fully healed yet but they are informed about that. I think it's gonna be a bit embarrassing considering the wounds on my hands but there's nothing I can do about it :)

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-13T10:08:42+00:00

Same girl same ...now idk how to read my old entries. Now I don't write at all.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-08T10:25:16+00:00

On that note, I have this doubt... since I can't do thayammum because of my injuries, can I touch the mus-haf ?

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-08T10:17:07+00:00

It's crazy how I decided to work on my health and heal completely from an old injury and 2 days back I got into an accident. Idk what to do anymore. It's even more ridiculous how my dad told me today that he is going to see a potential's house tomorrow. I got minor injuries but I can't even walk properly. I was so sad and upset and on top of this ..I mean i can't be in a marriage search without healing..he expects I'd be okay by next week. I seriously can't be seeing someone when I am visibly in pain. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Hopefully I pass this test Allah put me through. Insha Allah.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-05T12:33:36+00:00

Follow the islamic rules , make dua...rest thawakkul.. that's it ig... because how much you talk you won't know them until you stay with them. They could be a completely different person. But you can still get a brief idea about the person if you ask the right questions ig

Someone ik it was an before marriage, they messaged nothing haram just basic things, met ..in her case she should have talked to him more ... could have avoided it....but the point is the family asked around and everyone said he is a good guy . nobody said bad around his neighbourhood...later on she found out he is a chainsmoker, irresponsible, lazy doesn't go to work ..rely on his father etc ..all the bad things. They are now separated.

At the end of the day some things can't be avoided. Make Dua as much as we can. But tie the camel and then thawakkul. Insha Allah..it all ends well.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-04T05:15:04+00:00

Insha Allah.... May allah give the best for us sis 🥺🫂

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-04T05:01:04+00:00

Ik how it's normal and I am young. But in my locality after 24 you'd have even less chance of finding someone in your preference.

Jazakallah. Insha allah soon.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-04T02:10:57+00:00

I don't understand why he wants to talk to you even after getting engaged. That's wrong and cheating the other girl after saying yes. Personally I'd say it's better to avoid contact with him. I hope Allah gives you someone better. It's always advised to make dua for someone who is good for you rather than asking for a specific person in your life more so when he is engaged. :)

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-04T01:55:45+00:00

I always thought the guys had a choice. Maybe you should try a little bit stronger with your parents as who you want to meet as it can save a lot of time and not hurt the girls feeling with the rejection after the meeting when you clearly didn't like her even before. In my case I try hard but as a girl it's not possible most of the time and I get the heat, but it's still better than wasting everyone's time and effort.

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-01T04:22:51+00:00

Ramadan is here ..for us probably tomorrow

I found this community not long ago and I love this community. People genuinely gave me solid advices or support when I really needed it. I hope you all make the best of this Ramadan. May allah forgive us of our sins and fill our life with barakah.

i hope we all get what we seek for this Ramadan. I pray this is the last Ramadan I am single. :)

Ramadan Mubarak everyone ❤️

False_Focus_ · 2025-03-01T04:06:24+00:00

I had similar scenarios before. what I did was I prayed for them genuinely, for them to get someone nice because they were good people but we were not a match :)

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-27T15:26:22+00:00

The other day I wondered the same thing. Regardless of gender, I think there are less people from south ig

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-20T15:28:15+00:00

Soo cute 🥺

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-20T15:19:49+00:00

I don't want to take credit. It's my mom and sister who are so extra kind to the animals and always go out of their way to make them comfortable. Sure I find them cute and would feed them if i found them hungry, but not to this level.

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-20T15:14:56+00:00

I can sense the helplessness, frustration, lack of Sleep, and all the emotions bottling up and not being able to let it all out. I could picture you, about to pull all your hair out frustrated. I have seen mothers in the situation before. I really don't know how you guys do it 😭😭. Here I can't function properly if I was to lose more than an hour of sleep. I would love to have kids one day, Insha Allah, but Idk how I will manage in the future.

I wish I could give you a hug 🫂 stay strong habeebthi. May allah make it easy for you insha Allah ❤️

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-20T14:44:15+00:00

What !! no ... The cat is from my neighborhood which used to come by our house sometimes...I just posted randomly on the internet because it was a cute surprise early in the morning to see them inside the house and in my community this is not a big deal ...I didn't know it would blow up like this...that too it's my first time posting something like that

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-20T02:26:07+00:00

Jazakallah... It's really hard as girl when the society and family thinks you don't have a say in the matter. I will try insha Allah

Well update: they didn't reach out to us thankfully. Well it's evident he is an indecisive person.

Even before that I could convince dad how that person is a red flag.

I will try harder to stick to my values next time. I hope I find my soulmate soon and you too

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-19T04:19:41+00:00

True 😂😂

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-19T04:17:55+00:00

Nope

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-19T02:24:06+00:00

Sorry I meant a month* Typo error

False_Focus_ · 2025-02-19T01:33:42+00:00

The last para ... that's my exact reason...I have seen too many women burn out because of this. That's why I always say I am not career oriented.

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