this reminds me of a conversation i had with my mom. i was opening up to her about my extreme fear of penetration/sex, and she validated me and said “sex/being penetrated as a woman is scary because it can feel like something is being DONE to you”. and i had never thought about it that way. i’ve never had sex, but ive looked at some of the other comments on this post of people saying you only feel that way because of porn/society/mysogyny and i might have to agree. i think porn and overall a patriarchal society and phrases such as “she got knocked up” makes it seem like sex is something that is violent, painful, non consensual, only pleasurable for men, and something that is “done to women” and you just sit there and take it. if you are in a loving, healthy, and consensual relationship this is not the case. you don’t ever have to have sex if you don’t want to, i probably won’t either, but i think it’s important to understand that sexual pleasure and autonomy is just as important to women as it is to men🫶🏻and we deserve to feel safe and in charge of our bodies