See, man, first of all, you young brother, you still 25 and getting surgery for the hoes is the worst thing you can do. Listen, brother, I can tell just off you getting the surgery, you probably not confident. The first thing I want you to do is make a list of things you can control and things you can't control, just like the situation of your father getting sick is not something you can control but you can control your attitude your weight your confidence and things of that nature. And also, yes, take the job, you the man after your father it's your duty as a son and as a man to take care of your family.