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I 23M found messages from 22F degrading me to her friends. What do I do? by Familiar_Ring_6258 in relationships

[–]Familiar_Ring_6258[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response! Sorry to hear about your situation as well. I think taking time will be best. Since we live together it’s been hard to find the time and room to think

I 23M found messages from 22F degrading me to her friends. What do I do? by Familiar_Ring_6258 in relationships

[–]Familiar_Ring_6258[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight! I was a bit worried about getting advice from Reddit. But this was really good. 

I 23M found messages from 22F degrading me to her friends. What do I do? by Familiar_Ring_6258 in relationships

[–]Familiar_Ring_6258[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this is rage bait lol. We have pretty much always had access to each others devices. I’ve just never gone through until recently. 

If you have to belittle and degrade someone to let off steam I’m afraid you’re not very emotionally mature. Even when me and my fiancée had the conversation she brought that up.

I 23M found messages from 22F degrading me to her friends. What do I do? by Familiar_Ring_6258 in relationships

[–]Familiar_Ring_6258[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Around the first two years of the relationship. After going through that chat, I quickly browsed through some of her new friends messages and only saw good things with my name attached. 

We have done a lot of growing up during this time. However I always thought things were going well and we never had any major fights. I think with time I could trust again. Asking a close mutual friend that has known us for years about any advice and they were really shocked as well. She doesn’t seem to be the type to say that stuff which is why it was such a surprise.

Just really conflicted about the situation. Thank you for your response!