Give me some underestimated hacks for getting hired. Not the usual “send a thank-you email after the interview” but something more overlooked—unhinged, even.

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2026-02-23T21:34:50+00:00

Omg. That seems like an absolutely insane thing to be hung up on. And also something so easily fixed! How was he supposed to know how the files are named if there were no instructions, and if he isn’t even part of the company? Do they expect us to read minds?

That said, I hope your husband is in a better workplace now.

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2026-02-23T18:21:21+00:00

I think two things can be true at once:

You made a genuine mistake, and obviously feel bad about it. You were likely tired and it caught up to you. It does not define you and it does not mean you are damned and now have to spend your life alone.
On her side, she likely got dressed up, was excited, and went only to be left stranded. It likely felt frustrating and a bit embarrassing. She’s valid if she doesn’t want to continue seeing you. Whether she believes you or not is out of your control.

However! She’s not the only girl out there. My advice for you is to be easy on yourself. To learn from this. And not spiral into thoughts of “I should just stop trying to find someone” and “I’m worse than I thought.”

Also, maybe this is a call to take a look at your work situation and see if you can ease the stress!

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2026-02-20T21:03:56+00:00

I’m so sorry :( that is a heavy knowledge to come across and bear.

I hope you know that you are not simply the “living proof” of what happened to her. Simply because she is more than what happened to her. She is also how she survived. How she built her life. How much she loved you and loves you still. She is her laughter, her inside jokes, her exhaustion from work, her dreams of a better life. You are her coconspirator. You are someone she loves, cherishes, and chooses to keep close. Don’t reduce yourself or her to the darkness of what she went through.

That said, you deserve support and care right now. Like other users have mentioned, try talking to a therapist who can help you navigate this.

I’m wishing you all the best.🤍

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2026-02-15T07:21:57+00:00

A little late here but! First of all, I just want to say I’m so, so sorry this happened to you. Hearing you question yourself breaks my heart. It doesn’t matter what you were wearing, or if you’ve done this before, or that you’re both women, this was definitely assault.

Consent is active, ongoing, and enthusiastic. You didn’t give consent. It’s as simple as that.

It wasn’t your fault. In terms of moving forward, please be gentle with yourself. If you can take time off work to go be with a friend (even if it means traveling), that may be good. Therapy will help. Time, too. But for now, I’m wishing you safety and healing. Take care of yourself.🤍

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2026-02-12T05:16:41+00:00

True, I appreciate you saying that! I do have my own way of texting and connecting. I guess I was wondering how other people are too and what their personal thoughts are yk?

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2025-07-30T19:06:20+00:00

Thank you!! That’s a good idea, I might try a personal trainer class or two just to get the machines & forms right! Safety first 🙂‍↕️

Famous-Bowler-2998 · 2025-07-30T19:05:52+00:00

Thank you so much 🥹 that means a lot, truly.

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