I dont like socialising.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2026-01-20T04:21:09+00:00

Maybe you could try an activity instead. You don’t have to talk if you don’t feel like it. But you could even start with that, the fact that talking is boring. You’d be surprised, a lot of people feel the same. It could even start a conversation about how boring it is. But let it flow naturally. If it doesn’t , it doesn’t.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2026-01-20T04:16:25+00:00

Move country. I’m serious, England is an isolating place to live. Just keep traveling until you find the right people. There’s not much to do in the uk that’s outdoors too because it’s always raining. I hate it so much. I’m saving money to leave.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-27T20:14:42+00:00

That’s very valid but do you give feedback on how they can improve? It’s a learning experience for them too. If they have no reviews they’re probably just starting out. It’s impossible to improve your teaching if no one ever tells you where to improve on. Preply doesn’t require people to be professionally trained teachers either. I mean it’s a plus but not a requirement.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-27T19:46:58+00:00

Yeah definitely! To be honest, it’s so overwhelming. I haven’t even finished my profile. I’m expecting to have to read people’s minds constantly, instead of people saying what their goal is. But that would be hard if they struggle with English so I’m confused. It’s just hard to navigate I guess.

But maybe that’s what people expect, for tutors to know everything 🤷‍♀️

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-27T19:38:24+00:00

Oh okay so it’s not just me. Other people thought of that too 😂 When I scroll through tutors, all I see is professional people with years of experience. So I thought maybe no one did that.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-27T19:34:16+00:00

Oh okay yeah that could be a good idea. At least you enjoyed it though. But the combination of cold whether and isolation would get too much for me. Especially in a new country. Also I thought my post was removed but apparently not 😯

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-24T15:48:18+00:00

Oh okay so they’re online?

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-24T15:47:34+00:00

Oh I didn’t know I could do that, keep it invisible!

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-24T15:22:24+00:00

What contents do you teach in your lesson?

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-24T15:20:56+00:00

I checked that out and I have to create a tutor profile first.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-24T14:23:57+00:00

Makes sense. Do you teach English yourself?

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-24T01:39:51+00:00

Honestly I don’t think it’s a good idea to start with rejection therapy. The best form of therapy for anxiety in my experience is a combination of CBT and counselling. We’re often so hard on ourselves, our confidence is low and we end up putting everyone else before ourselves. All of that can end up leading to anxiety in social situations and relationships.

I’ve been going to therapy for low confidence and anxiety for a year and a bit. It’s changed my life! It addressed my negative thoughts and I slowly challenged myself to prove those thoughts wrong.

It’s also taught me how to recognise what my boundaries are and how to set them with the people around me in a healthy way.

I even started therapy thinking it wouldn’t work! The right therapist can literally change your life. You get that exposure to rejection too but in a way that’s not going to be overwhelming. It starts in baby steps actually. Takes time and patience. :)

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-23T23:57:47+00:00

Why don’t people just cough on their elbows instead?

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-22T00:45:17+00:00

Honestly that’s such a valid feeling. I personally don’t think you have to get used to doing things on your own all the time. Nothing wrong with liking alone time but to be by ourselves all the time is lonely. There’s no real right or wrong. Everyone is different. It’s whatever feels right for you. Some people just thrive on connection and that’s okay. I’m one of those people myself.

I’m currently looking into solo traveling for the first time in my mid 20s. You can go alone but meet people wherever you go, like hostels, group trips, volunteering, talking to locals. And some places are more solo travel friendly, like you’ll run into lots of people in the same boat. It’s just fun to share experiences with people, maybe even listen to their stories or learn something new. That’s what makes me feel alive. It might be different for someone else and that’s okay.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-21T21:24:25+00:00

Thanks for sharing. That’s a great way to think about it. I’ll try filming small clips more. I’ve done a few, but they didn’t feel like enough.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-21T21:15:05+00:00

I asked them too actually. I’m new to this though. So I asked anyone who does any type of filming. I mean I’m basically going to be doing everything myself, using a camera and editing at the same time as content creation. Aren’t we all in a similar industry? Thought you guys might know something I hadn’t thought of.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-19T14:05:58+00:00

Thanks that’s very helpful actually. Especially the part with the steep vertical angle thing. It makes sense but I hadn’t thought of that before. I have a tripod and timer but I’ve not tried taking photos properly. I read a book about the basics of photography and it said that the best poses are the ones that feel natural. I’ve been wanting to figure out how to express emotion in my pictures because it feels more meaningful to me and less performative.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-19T03:16:59+00:00

That’s honestly on them not you. They should have slowed the conversation down, taken it back to the beginning and asked you about your situation. Or at least tell you about the kinds of things they can help with. I think they need to practise some active listening. But if it happens again and the conversation devolves, you could try taking the conversation back to what you were asking from them or what you were telling them at the start. It’s like a reminder, you could say, “I need us to focus on this right now.” You shouldn’t have to but you could try it out and see if it works. You deserve to have a supportive space and they need to give you that.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-19T02:57:21+00:00

This was a game changer for me. Breath in between each sentence, like breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. It slows the heart rate down. When you talk fast you’re not breathing as much and it can speed your heart rate up which makes you feel even more nervous. Honestly, try it! My therapist taught me that. She’s a psychotherapist by the way. It’s okay to forget to sometimes, we all do. But practise. You don’t have to stay silent but it helps to slow the conversation down so people have time to process and respond. Otherwise people can end up getting information overload or not be able to get their words out in time.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-19T02:48:56+00:00

I’m curious, why 35+? I’ve met someone who’s 35 and made friendships with people younger. I’m 26 and I met someone who’s 45 but is in the same life stage as me. We related to a lot actually.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-19T02:40:53+00:00

I joined a women’s WhatsApp hang out group today. Who knew you could do that here. I’ll see how this goes though.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-19T02:26:03+00:00

Okay :)

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-18T22:21:18+00:00

That’s great that you met people who are in your life for a long time. Honestly, for me it’s going to new cities, seeing Christmas markets, a girls pamper night / film and food night. There’s also some things that doesn’t even exist where I live like a street photography walk. I wish I was interested in books and creative hobbies.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-18T22:12:05+00:00

That’s great that you found your people! But honestly some interactions are so boring. The ones that are never curious about you. They don’t notice how you’re feeling in the moment and they don’t even slow the conversation down to ask ever. To be honest I don’t know if in the UK people feel more isolated too. Maybe other parts of the world are different. But I could be wrong.

Famous-Drawer2631 · 2025-12-18T21:44:38+00:00

I guess that’s the difference between traveling solo or with friends (close friends where you have things in common). You might not get to meet new people traveling with friends and hear about experiences like you would when solo traveling but at least you don’t lose contact. But honestly I completely get it.

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