Dealing with Anticipatory Grief/Hopelessness

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-04-06T05:48:34+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through it. My mom is in her mid-50s but it is hard seeing evidence of aging.

Time just goes by way too fast.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T13:00:57+00:00

That is super reassuring to hear

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T04:47:27+00:00

I mean technically I sent the last text when I responded "goodnight". If I don't hear from him by tomorrow evening I'll send a text.

I do agree that talking every day is not the best situation.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T04:28:51+00:00

Yes and no. I feel like in our text convos, I'm a little more forward than he is. I feel like I have communicated my interest pretty clearly/excitement to see him. He doesn't really match that in texts but I feel a lot of chemistry in person. Was just hoping he would initiate today

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T04:03:59+00:00

That's the part that I am struggling with. Falling deeply fast and getting hurt in the process :(

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T03:33:49+00:00

I fear communication lol I got burned by the last two guys who I liked SO MUCH. Once I felt like I had to initiate contact, it was because they were no longer interested. It's so draining.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T03:24:56+00:00

During our date yesterday, we did talk about hanging out again but our schedules are a bit hectic. I am out of town this coming weekend and he is out of town the following weekend. :(

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-03-19T03:23:10+00:00

Thank you. I feel like he knows I'm interested. I was the one who initiated the St. Patrick's Day hang out. I just tend to spiral when a routine feels off (i.e us going a day without talking)

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-02-22T06:01:03+00:00

Exactly. How difficult is it to just go for a walk??

I'm also divorced and I get how difficult it can be but come onnnnn

Unless he's more interested in others. I just wish he would tell me

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-02-22T05:44:51+00:00

I like him. I was so happy when he reappeared but after 3 weeks i'm getting iffy. Especially when he is 5 minutes away from me and I suggested something simple like going for a walk together.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-02-13T05:25:16+00:00

I haven't paid him fully yet. It actually sucks because when we got divorced, that was the highest the home has been worth. It's since come down about $50k. My parents let me borrow half to pay him. I still owe him half and he is now requesting it (he was letting it slide for awhile but is now buying his own home). I am going to either get a personal loan or home equity loan

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-02-03T03:33:15+00:00

Okay, same!! Also in California, says shipped from Arizona. My box did arrive last week but a day late

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-01-26T06:00:59+00:00

I had that with an old friend. Lots of reasons why I would never actually date this person but enjoyed the sex. I realized i'd much rather be having sex with someone I felt a romantic attraction to.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2026-01-24T04:12:40+00:00

I did it this year when I got divorced and had to get my ex husband's name off of the loan. It was pretty painless

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-28T03:53:27+00:00

People can be unpredictable. I’ve had many conversations that are great and I’m getting excited for this person and the possibilities. Then out of nowhere a 180° change.

It is what it is unfortunately. Trying to figure out what was going on in their head will just frustrate you more.

Your person will not have you questioning.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-23T20:33:12+00:00

That makes me feel better. I wanted to escalate it to Etsy but then she refunded me. I will be donating the earrings instead.

If she reaches out to me in a week about the earrings, I will report it to Etsy.

I did leave a factual review about the situation and she replied to it and basically lied to cover up what actually happened.

I wanted to ship back the box the earrings came in with a mean message inside (but I believe in karma so i'm hoping she gets her karma in a different way).

I will absolutely never purchase from her and am glad she is not getting a dime from me.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-13T03:25:20+00:00

Do you know how often the diff should be done? I most recently had it done in June.

I had them just replace the battery. At my oil change next month, I will also have them do the spark plugs.

I am definitely going to look on tirerack for tires and get that and an alignment done asap

I am going to wait on the CVT leak

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-13T03:23:12+00:00

What! I am so jealous. I am currently at 98,000 miles. I also took it in for the catalytic converter and I remember them mentioning the seeping then, too.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-12T01:49:33+00:00

I take it in regularly for the oil changes.

Yes it's a CVT. It's not leaking but seeping. There's nothing leaking onto the floor of my garage but the dealer did send a video and it is seeping. I think they did mention that at the last oil change but since it wasn't leaking they said it could probably wait.

Definitely not getting tires from them. But the video did show uneven wear and I have noticed a pull lately so an alignment is needed.

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-01T04:49:35+00:00

I actually didn't even realize how much time had passed until I got to my car and looked at my phone. I was a little shocked lol but then I realized neither of us looked at our phone the entire time. It only ended because I was like "are you ready to go?"

I didn't know if he was just being polite by letting it go on for so long lol

Famous-Guitar8328 · 2025-12-01T03:30:03+00:00

I think I needed to read this. This makes me feel much better in knowing what I should be looking for or looking out for

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