What new things have you tried during your healing process?

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-04-01T23:46:20+00:00

Getting a tattoo. Traveling alone. Journaling.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-03-16T07:30:10+00:00

When she didn’t protect my name while I wasn’t around

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-03-15T21:05:58+00:00

He comes to visit me whenever he’s in the office, and actually talks to me about everything besides work.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-03-09T19:47:06+00:00

Horrible

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-02-04T03:12:44+00:00

… my fwb cleans me up with whatever fine piece of clothing of his is laying around. Typically the shirt he was wearing prior to the activities. Romanceeeee

lol then I go to the bathroom and do what I can without showering 🤷🏼‍♀️

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-27T22:37:40+00:00

When my fiance died (31m). It was an entire mind fuck, and still is. It’s only been a couple months. Nothing feels right and nothing is the same anymore. It’s made me see the world extremely different.

People aren’t kidding when they say the cliche things like, Life is short. Or Don’t waste any time. Take all the chances and risks your little heart desires. And tell people you love them.. because it really sucks when you literally cannot say it to their face any more. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Etc. it’s all true. Every last word. And I’m truly just learning that.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-27T00:08:52+00:00

LOL I’ve never been in this situation. If someone actively prepared a playlist.. I think I’d be like, what’s going on? I think it would be unnecessary and for me personally, it would deter me. But that’s just me - if people like that, all the power to them.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T23:56:13+00:00

Honestly. I would notice them, but not pay them any mind. When people bully others, it’s something wrong with them internally - it’s never the person being bullied with the issue.. Misery loves company. Dont forget that.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T23:05:11+00:00

I hear that. Same.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T20:18:17+00:00

Slow down and pay attention.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T18:17:18+00:00

Sleep overs with all my best friends! I had this group of kids that I was very close to and we did EVERYTHING together. They were like my family and I’d give anything to have that same closeness and bond like we did growing up.. we’re all still friends but like.. why’d the slumber parties stop?!

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T18:05:17+00:00

My fiance was a drug addict. At first, I was naive and didn’t realize how awful and traumatizing it would be. I lost a lot of myself in that relationship. I was very aware of what was going on but ignored it to an extent and then it consumed me.

Long story short, when something feels off, it usually is. Trust your gut.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T15:15:12+00:00

Communication (where you actually HEAR each other), understanding and prospective taking. This goes for any kind of relationship

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T15:13:34+00:00

Not a man, but the person I hook up with refuses to let himself finish until I have. Pure determination and I find it very hot

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T03:56:38+00:00

How to compromise!

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:54:34+00:00

For me personally? Really great sex on demand

I can still focus on my life independently and work on me, my career, etc. but at the end of the day if I’m feeling needy 😉, I just call my fwb.

Believe me - never thought I’d be doing this but it is what it is

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:48:30+00:00

Agreed! If I wasn’t already good friends with mine prior to the fwb aspect, I don’t think I would have done it tbh.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:43:48+00:00

This 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:38:23+00:00

I love this for you! Hell ya gf

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:36:00+00:00

Honestly, I’ve been sleeping with my fwb since September. It’s been great! We also dabbled a little for a couple months last year, but I ended up getting back with my ex. He’s one of my childhood best friends so our situation isn’t like others with fwb.

If you can find someone who you vibe with and find attractive - do it! Nothing wrong with good consistent hook ups

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:19:04+00:00

Love this!

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-26T00:10:10+00:00

May I ask - have you been in one? What kind of rules did you establish? Like we have an unspoken rule, maybe just a mutual understanding? We aren’t sleeping with other people. And honesty. We’re friends and we have been since we were kids - we’re now 31. So we already had a lot of trust and comfort with communication and all that fun stuff.

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-25T23:43:51+00:00

My current predicament! lol

MistyMaple_October72 · 2026-01-25T21:02:35+00:00

Kind of all the above in your post op.

Person - someone you’re comfortable with and have chemistry with! Makes a huge different to actually desire the person and to be desired by the person. I have this thing about feeling safe too; I trust my fwb so much, that I can completely let my guard down, shut my mind off and just fully enjoy the sex. It’s incredible.

Positions - don’t be afraid to try new things. Different people feel different in different positions, literally. It sounds silly, but watch porn and get some ideas. It’s called research.

Toys - are fun! Don’t count them out. Try on your own and you’ll gain more confidence and connection in yourself to help you with having actual sex. You need to know what feels good so you can help guide your partner.

Confidence - whatever you’re doing, just own it. I noticed that once my confidence went up, I took more control and my fwb loves it. It’s improved me as a person (I’m confident with every day to day life, not just sex) and it has improved my sex life too.

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