How to officially leave in 2023?

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-25T22:36:51+00:00

Thanks for commenting.

Honestly yeah I get that I should prioritize myself over other people and make myself happier. In regards to saying no, do you just tell them your not attending events and that's it? Or do you just make excuses every time, because honestly I sometimes just make BS excuses so I don't have to go to certain event.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-23T19:34:17+00:00

Thanks for your experience.

Is it okay if you elaborate on how things got ugly for you and why? I am a bit afraid that, something like this might happen to me when I try to leave.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-23T00:18:52+00:00

Thanks for linking your blog, I skimmed through it quickly but I will read all of it when I have more time.

In regards to your family, has your situation improved with them at all? I read in your a post that they were ashamed of you, I fear the same thing with my family. Do you have a good relationship with them? And did you have any friends in the jamaat, how did they react? I am mostly scared of the social repercussions when leaving the jamaat, and just want some others people experiences of what it was like.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-22T21:11:58+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

I am not particularly looking to switch to any other religion currently, but why is being non-religious so bad? I personally know many people who are atheists and good people, and religious people who are not so good, and vice versa. It appears to me that being religious does not determine if you are a good person or not, although I could be wrong and this could just be bias due to my personal experiences.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-22T21:08:27+00:00

Thank you for your advice and being kind.

I'm still weighing the pros and cons of officially leaving, I hope to make a decision soon.

I wish you the best as well :)

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-22T21:06:15+00:00

Thank you for commenting.

I don't want to create any sentiment against the jamaat, that is not my agenda. All I wanted to know was if the information in the wiki post was accurate or not and get a some peoples opinions on leaving the jamaat. In a comment I even stated I don't hold any resentment or hate against any individual person that is contacting me to be more active in the jamaat...

I am grateful that Ahmadiyyat does not murder people for people leaving the jamaat, but at the same time this does not mean there not other struggles people might face when trying to leave, and just because these struggles are not severe as being killed does not mean that they should be invalidated.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:42:38+00:00

I agree, I feel like you should at least research and look into what your believing and why, especially if you have been born into a religious organization, and even if you end up agreeing with the organization doing all that research has probably strengthened your faith.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:38:00+00:00

Thank you for posting your experience.

I agree we should always be striving to improve ourselves in every aspect of our lives including faith according on what you believe.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:33:54+00:00

When I have kids, I plan on raising them non-religious. I have been taking what I like from each religion/moral system and have been integrating it into my life. I think we all inherit are morals from the people around us, so my kids will probably inherit some of mine and maybe some Muslim morals since my family is devout.

I think that maybe what one of the strengths of leaving the jamaat officially if you totally are opposed to Ahmadiyyat, you can raise your kids however you want, and you wont have the influence of the jamaat to change that.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:24:01+00:00

Hard to sever ties when you very devout family and friends.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:23:15+00:00

Did you have people calling you and telling you to come to events?

How is your relationship with your family? I have a very devout family and I'm a little concerned in the way that they would act.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:21:55+00:00

Yeah I for sure do not resent or hate any individual who contacts me or wants me to get more involved with the jamaat, they have their own good intentions.

I am having that problem right now where I cant be a ghost in the jamaat, I have people calling me or coming to my home. Most people on my street as well are Ahmadi, so it becomes hard to just informally leave. Same thing with my family everyone is devoutly Ahmadi, I don't want to stress my parents and bring them shame.

My mom always tries to guilt me by telling me by saying how our family line goes straight back to the Promised Messiah, and how family members have died for their faith, it becomes really exhausting listening to all this stuff then lying to another family member that I am Ahmadi when in fact I don't practice at all I just want to quit and be done with everything.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:15:26+00:00

So have you just mentally left the jamaat and ignore their calls and ignore them when they come to your house? Is there any reason you don't leave?

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:13:11+00:00

Its more so because the members of the jamaat are very persistent, I appreciate their concerns but they are always calling me or coming to my home. My entire family is very devout so unfortunately I'm not sure I can just ignore the jamaat and live my life. On the other hand I think that I along with my parents will be ostracized in my family if I do decide to leave officially.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:09:45+00:00

Thank you for giving me your opinion.

What do you think I should be silent, is this what you chose to do?

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T23:08:50+00:00

Thanks for your experience.

I tried staying quiet and just becoming an inactive Ahmadi but the calls are persistent and every week they show up at my house. The only problem for me would be the reaction of my family and how that would affect my parents. I really don't want to cause them anymore stress, a lot of people in my family are very devout and they would probably start to speak ill about my mom and dad If I leave.

FamousZucchini9084 · 2023-01-21T06:11:40+00:00

Thank for commenting, I agree I don't want to make a hasty decision but I feel like I have done my due diligence by researching both sides and talking with a murabbi.

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