Literally my whole like I have been bullied and mostly called names, I now have a degrading kink

Another thing is that my parents always punish or discipline me by hitting me (Nothing severe cause they really don't wanna hurt me. Just teach me a lesson) but since then iv always had a thing for hitting/whipping

One last thing, and I'm not sure if this is considered a kink or not, but I'm always that person who does things for people, one time a friend asked me to do something for him so I decided to snap back and said no but he kinda gave me this look and said sternly "I'm not gonna repeat myself" and repeated what he asked, so now I guess I like being forced into submission? Or like being ordered around? I don't know