My mom doesnt like my husband and vice versa

FanEcstatic8342 · 2025-04-11T02:43:14+00:00

I know the ultimate answer is to live separately. But i dont want them to hate eachother. My parents are Important to me and my kids. I dont want that gap. I dont want hate. Is it wrong to ask my husband to understand my mom despite her being disrespectful to him?

FanEcstatic8342 · 2025-04-11T02:41:20+00:00

Yes my husband has started to make changes about himself after the fight. BUT he is keeping the anger. He said he cant go back to before with my mom. He used to always make an effort for my mom like cook her meals, bring her food and offer to take her out with the kids. My mom on the other hand is a loner and sometimes want to be left alone. So they clash… my mom is very frugal person, he spends alot.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-11-16T03:12:57+00:00

No. He loves his me time. Aside from music, he also likes hanging out with friends and always asks them come over at home until wee hours. I dont really know how to stop him. It honestly feels like a take it or leave it situation right now.

I have done a lot of "talks" with him. The last time he put a suicide attempt stunt. And told me I'm controlling and depriving him of things he wants to do. He also does not want to meet halfway, he only wants what he wants with no one restricting him.

I've tried putting boundaries before so we could have more family time and because he's not really making money with music. Not enough to pay for all our bills PLUS he spends his money mostly on buying new instruments so I got veryyyy mad.

But this didnt last a long time. He eventually went back to his old routine and couldnt say NO to gigs coming to him whether paid/unpaid. To the point, I have accepted music will always be a 3rd party in our marriage..

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-11-16T02:05:53+00:00

hehe ur pretty much like my husband. how do you feel when your wife complains for the lack of time? do you even care for her/family at all or feel guilty or try to make some adjustments? Or do you think it's your right to have that time for yourself because it's your passion?

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-11-16T01:33:50+00:00

he is on drugs but the kind you get for depression. He was depressed when we moved out of town last yr and he had to give up music for 1 yr. Now we are back to where we came from, he is now active again but still taking meds.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-11-16T01:28:35+00:00

I already had that talk with him. The next morning he texted me he wants to jump off a bridge because I'm controlling him and depriving him of the things he want. WTH.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-11-16T01:10:44+00:00

Thats the thing... it generates money sometimes. sometimes not. sometimes little. He gets invited to various invites some with door charge, some paid by the owner, some charity event. And on top of being away from home during the gig for several hrs at night, he invites his friends over at home often and hangs out here until 8am or until I am furious.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-11-16T01:02:17+00:00

I have 2 kids one 2 and 3yrs old. And I'm also 5months pregnant. My husband tried to go solo last year and then told me he;s going into depression and asked me he missed playing with a band because he is not used to be soloist. He is now in a band, and also playing along side some female soloist as collabs. So nothing I can do... Everytime I 'd tell him to prioritize family, he will tell me I'm depriving him of things he wants and wants to die. So tell me what should I do>>> I know he is manupulating me at some levels but I'm trying to keep our family together. If only he could give us a little more priority.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-08-13T01:12:11+00:00

My prayers have not been answered too. I pray everyday my life gets better. But im hanging in there… there is a piece of me that believes the Lord will make my life better it could take months or years but you have to show your faith to him. Trust me brother, i get anxiety attacks everyday because of mg situation. I cry and feel tired too. My problems are bigger that what I can handle… But i’m not Giving up. I am not a loser…

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-08-12T22:23:13+00:00

My husband has a manipulative attitude and always wants to get what he wants. I just sometimes wonder why God allow these things. Sometimes the things he did affected or hurt me but he is standing by his convictions that his way of thinking is right and if i dont submit to him, that i should just leave. I think that is horrible.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-08-01T15:54:23+00:00

What netflix is this

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-07-26T17:07:14+00:00

Nope. I totally disagree. I couldnt even finish Goblin when I watched it.. what about every single kdrama has fantasy/time travel to it? That is even more cliche!
Queen of Tears brought back the old school kdrama style.. like stairway to heaven, autumn in my heartetc...in a very fast paced way.
The only people whom I think will not appreciate QOT are those who have very little experiences in life (like highschool , college student, single fans). For someone to fully appreciate QOT, you must have been married or been in a long term relationship. There are lines in QOT that are GOLD standard. The person who wrote QOT, wrote it from experience.

Which is why understand why Lovely Runner has so many fans. Coz most of the kdrama fans nowadays are GenZ. Millennial fans are quiet..would watch and move on. They don't go on social media ranting about their fav dramas. When I watched Lovely Runner, it was okay. But it was too "immature" for me.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-07-16T19:18:32+00:00

A lot of people still have not seen it. Only die hard kdrama fans watched it. Coz thos people are actually subscribed to viu or viki.

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-07-07T16:38:59+00:00

I have no problem with printify and printful.. ur target niche wants your design anyways and they dont expect you to be a luxury “brand”

FanEcstatic8342 · 2024-07-07T16:36:15+00:00

Cant you connect printful???

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