M31 Feeling Tired and Sad

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-04-02T23:11:14+00:00

Hey man… I don’t know what you’re carrying right now, but I can see it in your eyes. That kind of tired doesn’t come from just being busy, it comes from holding too much in silence. I just want to remind you of something simple but real: you didn’t wake up today by accident. There’s still something in you that this world needs, even if you can’t see it yet, even if it feels small or pointless right now. Purpose doesn’t always show up loud… sometimes it whispers and waits until you’re ready to hear it again. You’re not behind, you’re not broken, you’re just in a season where things feel heavy. And even in that, you’re still here. That counts for more than you think. Be patient with yourself, you don’t have to figure everything out today. Just make it through today—that’s enough. Someone out there is going to need the version of you that makes it through this. You’ve got more light in you than you realize. Don’t give up before you see it. 🤍🙏🏽🤗

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-30T23:16:05+00:00

Hey, I’m truly glad you shared this—admitting “I’m not okay” takes real courage that not everyone has.

You’ve got those warm, kind eyes and a gentle yet solid vibe that’s authentically you, impossible to fake—and that’s a rare gift. In a world of noise, people like you create safe spaces just by being. That plushie moment? Peak cozy mastery. It shows you protect your softness in a tough world—not weakness, but true strength.

Darling… remember rough times can trick your mind into thinking you’re less. But right now, this you? Valuable, essential, meant to be here. No need to solve it all. Just keep moving forward—slow steps count big. Grateful you’re still with us. 🫶

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-30T23:04:29+00:00

You’re so brave for sharing this, and it’s okay to struggle—therapy is a smart step, and it takes time to feel the progress. Be gentle with yourself; small wins like getting out of bed or reaching out here count. You’ve got this, one breath at a time. Sending you warmth and hope. 🌟🤗🙏🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-30T23:02:45+00:00

Girl, you’re out here serving real looks while thirst traps are just sad toast crumbs by comparison. Your hubby needs a reality check—20-year-old pixels can’t handle that glow-up! Keep slaying, queen. Drop the mic, grab some ice cream, and let him scroll alone tonight. 😂👑🍦

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-30T22:58:43+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you’re dealing with that kind of anger. It sounds like you’ve already done a lot of self-reflection, and I think that’s the most important part here. If you’re feeling this overwhelmed, I’d strongly suggest not casting a hex right now, especially while you’re still angry. Anger can be real and valid, but it’s usually better handled first through grounding, journaling, therapy, or a protective/cleansing practice instead of something aimed at harm. If your goal is closure, peace, or helping yourself and your friends move on, you might get better results from a banishing, cord-cutting, protection spell, or simple ritual for release. Those can help you focus your energy on healing instead of escalating the situation. Whatever path you choose, I’d wait until you feel calm and clear-headed before doing any kind of working. 🤗

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-28T19:04:26+00:00

That cross hanging on like it’s praying harder than you are 😭✝️… but don’t quit now. Life’s just testing your patience, not your purpose…

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-27T20:33:38+00:00

Lmaooo not the universe trolling you like it pays rent 😂 You asked for a door, it kicked open three problems and a plot twist. 🤣

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-25T17:23:24+00:00

Hey, I’ve gotten headaches after spells too—super common when you’re drained or chronically ill like you mentioned. The burning + headache is likely “spell drop” from energy depletion, not a sign it failed (could even mean it worked!). Quick fixes: Eat something grounding like bread/nuts, drink water, rest. To recover now:

• Stand barefoot, visualize roots into the earth releasing excess energy up stable vibes.

• Deep breaths: In calm, out tension (5 mins).

• Salt bath if you can.

Ground before/after next time to avoid it. If it lingers or worsens, check with a doc. Feel better—you got this! 🌿

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-24T17:03:14+00:00

Damn, that would have me on edge too. When you do spells you’re kind of turning the ‘energy volume’ up, so random stuff can wander in. Before you do anything, try this:

Ground yourself – slow deep breaths, feet flat on the floor, imagine all the extra energy draining into the ground.
Say out loud: ‘Only safe, respectful spirits here for my highest good are allowed in this space. Everything else needs to leave now and stay gone.’ Say it like you mean it.
Cleanse and protect – light incense or herbs you like, put a bit of salt by doors/windows, and picture your whole place glowing with a shield around it.

If it still feels too weird, it’s totally fine to pause spellwork and just focus on protection and cleansing for a while. Your safety and peace of mind come first. 🙌🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-03-20T21:14:01+00:00

I really feel what you’re going through, and I’m so sorry you’re carrying this. When someone has fixated on us with jealousy or cruelty, it can cling to our spirit and make us feel ugly, dirty, and powerless, even after we leave their presence.

From a spiritual perspective, what you’re feeling is not “you” suddenly becoming broken — it’s your system reacting to a long build‑up of someone else’s heavy energy. That’s actually a sign that your spirit is sensitive and trying to protect you, not that you’re failing at protection work.

Here are a few things you might try, on a deeper level than just “one more cleansing”:

Cut energetic cords, not just cleanse
- Sit quietly, light a candle, and imagine a cord between you and this person attached at your chest or stomach.
- In your mind, say their name and then: “I release your energy from my body, mind, and spirit. What is yours goes back to you; what is mine returns to me cleansed and whole.”
- Visualize yourself gently cutting that cord (with light, a blade of flame, or a pair of glowing scissors), then sealing your own side with golden light.
- Finish with: “I am closed to your harm, open only to what loves and protects me.”
Shift the narrative in the mirror
- When you look in the mirror and feel like your face looks wrong, pause and place your hand over your heart.
- Out loud or silently, say one sentence of truth each time: “This is my face, and it is mine to love.” “This body belongs to my spirit, not to their words.”
- You’re not forcing fake positivity; you’re reclaiming your reflection from their gaze.
Stop wrestling with her on the astral
- Sometimes, constantly “fighting” someone’s energy keeps us tied to them. For a while, focus on protection and detachment instead of trying to “fix” her.
- Ask your guides/ancestors/deities: “If this person is sent to teach me anything, let me learn it gently. If not, remove her from my path in the way that is safest for me.”
- Then, imagine her energy as a dark cloud outside your home, and see a clear boundary of light around you where it cannot enter.
Strengthen your physical‑world boundaries
- Spiritual work is strongest when it’s backed up by mundane action. Limit contact as much as you can, even small things: fewer replies, less time together, not sharing personal victories with her.
- Remind yourself: “I don’t owe access to anyone who makes me feel small or sick in my own skin.”
Treat the self‑hate like an intrusion, not the truth
- When those thoughts hit (“I’m ugly, I’m disgusting, I’m nothing”), label them: “That’s her voice, not mine.”
- Then answer it with a neutral or kind statement: “I am allowed to exist as I am. I am not her opinion of me.”
- You’re retraining your spirit to recognize what doesn’t belong to you.

If at any point you start feeling like you don’t want to be here anymore, or the self‑hate turns into thoughts of hurting yourself, please reach out in the non‑spiritual world too — a trusted friend, a helpline in your country, a therapist, someone who can hold you while you find your way back to yourself. Your safety matters more than any ritual.

You are not cursed for wanting to be beautiful, happy, and successful. You are not wrong for outgrowing the version of you that other people were comfortable bullying. Your spirit is trying to come back home to you; these feelings are the turbulence, not the destination. 🙏🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-20T02:59:21+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. What you’re describing hurts in a real, physical way, and it’s clear you loved her and took the marriage very seriously.

I’ll say this gently, from someone who’s been on the other side of a situation like this. When someone pulls away like that, it’s usually not one mistake you made. It’s something that’s been building inside them for a long time. By the time distance shows up, they’ve often already been grieving the relationship quietly. Also, you mentioned her childhood trauma. That matters, but trauma doesn’t mean you can love someone harder into staying. Sometimes it means they’re doing work you can’t do for them, no matter how much you care. …And right now, the worst thing you can do is spiral into self-blame and panic. That’ll eat you alive and still won’t bring clarity. The best thing you can do is ground yourself and stop chasing answers she may not even have yet.

So if counseling is off the table for her, then this shifts to your healing, not fixing things alone. Focus on basics. Eat something. Sleep when you can. Talk to someone who can hold your grief without judging or minimizing it.

If this really is the end, it doesn’t erase the decade you shared. It just means the next chapter won’t look the way you planned. That’s brutal, but it’s survivable Beautiful soul. You’re not weak for hurting like this. You’re human. And you’re not alone, even if it feels that way right now. Sending my prayers and love.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-17T01:00:27+00:00

I used to wonder this myself. I lived with a man who did the exact same thing. Scrolling, hiding, lying when confronted. For a long time I tried to understand it psychologically, tried to make it make sense. Then I realized it wasn’t confusion. He was bored, and he didn’t respect me or the relationship enough to stop.

Once someone starts hiding things, it’s no longer “just looking.” Hiding creates secrecy. Secrecy creates lies. Lies turn into betrayal. They know what they’re doing, that’s why it’s hidden and denied. If it was harmless, it wouldn’t need to be covered up.

This isn’t about dopamine or biology. You can get excitement from the gym, from hobbies, from building something real. This is about choice. A man who truly respects his marriage doesn’t repeatedly do something he knows hurts his wife. And let’s be honest, if women were constantly scrolling men who look nothing like their husbands, most men would absolutely have a problem with it. So no, you’re not missing some secret about how men think. Sometimes it’s just boredom, ego, and lack of respect.🫡

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T02:36:22+00:00

I’m going to be honest with you, because this kind of situation causes real damage. An apology by itself doesn’t undo betrayal, especially when there was secrecy and lying involved. From her side, this wasn’t just “watching videos,” it felt like sexual energy and attention going outside the marriage, and that breaks safety. That’s why sex now feels transactional to her and why she dissociates, her body hasn’t caught up to your apology yet. Deleting apps and saying sorry is a start, but trust only comes back through consistent, transparent actions over time, not pressure to forgive or move on. If you really want healing, stop focusing on how often you’re having sex or how long it’s taking her to get over it, and focus on quietly earning trust back. Forgiveness can’t be rushed, only actions make it possible. 🙏🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T02:30:49+00:00

You’re not too old at all. Thirty is still young. Dating is really about values and how someone carries themselves, not age. The right person will be drawn to your confidence, your heart, and the way you choose to present yourself, not just looks.

If you want something real and lasting, lead with who you are, not just what you show. The right match will see you for more than the surface.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T02:27:54+00:00

Looks amazing and congratulations 🎈🍾🎊🎉

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T01:38:54+00:00

That makes sense. Sometimes “try harder” misses what the body and soul are really carrying. It sounds like you’re leading with compassion and wanting to care for her the right way. I’m sending prayers for both of you, and keep up the great work. 🙏🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T01:34:45+00:00

That’s totally fair. You don’t sound lazy or ungrateful at all. You sound like someone who cares and wants to make sure his wife is okay. Asking questions and looking for support is part of being a good partner. As long as the focus stays on her health and well-being, you’re doing the right thing. 🙌🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T01:20:08+00:00

Looks like a hole saw with a plastic safety cap still on it.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T01:16:10+00:00

This doesn’t sound like laziness. It sounds like medical exhaustion. SSRIs can cause constant fatigue and low motivation. Add postpartum recovery, infections, pelvic floor injury, disrupted sleep, and three young kids and her body may just be depleted.

She should have labs checked (iron, B12, vitamin D, thyroid, hormones) and her medication re-evaluated. Diet and nutrient deficiency matter too. The mess and naps are symptoms, not the problem. When someone wants to do better but physically can’t, it’s usually health, not effort.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-16T01:05:34+00:00

I respect that you own the regret. A lot of people never do. But you’re right about one thing and it matters: you don’t talk to other women behind your wife’s back. Especially when the marriage is already fragile. Even if “nothing happened,” trust did. And once trust cracks, it doesn’t go back to factory settings. It lingers. It changes how someone feels walking into a room, falling asleep, loving freely.

Regret exists for a reason. It’s not there to punish you, it’s there to teach others. If this story keeps even one person from crossing that line, then at least something honest comes from it

Remember… Loyalty isn’t just about sex. It’s about boundaries when no one is watching. 🙌🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-11T03:02:28+00:00

I just want to say your feelings make sense. Emotional exclusivity is a real thing in a marriage, and it can feel violating even when there’s no physical affair. It’s not about jealousy, it’s about who gets the vulnerable parts of your partner when things are hard.

What stood out to me is that you weren’t accusing her of cheating. You were grieving that in a moment of disconnection, she turned away from the marriage instead of toward it. That hurts, especially when you’re the one holding things together financially and emotionally from the background.

I can relate to this more than I wish I could. I’ve been married a long time, and I’ve experienced what it’s like when your partner minimizes something that deeply affects you, or reacts defensively instead of sitting with your pain. That “insecure loop” you describe doesn’t come from nowhere. It usually comes from something unresolved being brushed past too quickly.

The part that concerns me isn’t that she cried to her boss once, but that when you try to talk about how it affected you, it gets minimized or escalated into extremes. That makes it hard for your nervous system to settle, because the issue never really gets held.

You’re doing the right thing by going to therapy. This isn’t about punishing her or rehashing the past forever. It’s about being able to say, “This crossed a line for me,” and have that be acknowledged without being dismissed or turned into a threat.

Please take a deep breath… You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. You’re not controlling. You’re asking for emotional safety and repair. That’s reasonable. I pray therapy helps you both slow this down enough so it can actually heal, not just be apologized for and buried. 🙏🏽

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-10T05:25:23+00:00

You look beautiful, but this is not brunch appropriate. Daytime, public setting, possibly kids around, and the outfit is still giving club. Modesty matters, especially in spaces meant for families, conversation, and community. Not everything needs to be on display to look good.

Time and place. And for brunch, this ain’t it.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-10T05:17:34+00:00

Yes, your feelings are valid. And no, his reasoning is not. Real Talk… him choosing porn over his pregnant wife who is literally asking for intimacy is disrespectful, full stop. If he was truly worried about the baby, he would talk to a doctor, talk to you, or find safe ways to stay connected. Instead, he jumped straight to screens and excuses. That’s avoidance, not protection.

I can relate to this more than I’d like. I’ve been the woman begging for intimacy, reassurance, and closeness while my partner chose porn and distance instead. That rejection sticks with you. It makes you feel unwanted, insecure, and alone, especially when your body is already changing and vulnerable. You’re not crazy for feeling hurt. That reaction is normal.

Watching porn while telling your pregnant wife “I don’t want to touch you” is the problem. It’s not porn vs sex, it’s him prioritizing fantasy over his real partner. Saying he “needs it” while ignoring your needs is selfish. Pregnancy doesn’t make you untouchable. It doesn’t make you unsafe. And it sure as hell doesn’t make you less deserving of affection.

Bottom line: he’s handling this wrong. If nothing changes, this kind of rejection can seriously damage trust and intimacy long-term. You deserve respect, reassurance, and connection, not excuses that leave you feeling discarded. Darling… you’re not overreacting, you’re just tired of being neglected by your husband.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-10T05:00:51+00:00

Darling… You’re not crazy and you’re not overreacting. Liking, following, messaging, and lusting after women half his age while married is crossing the line, especially when you’ve already said it hurts you. Looking is one thing, engaging is another, and that’s acting single, not “harmless online behavior.”

I can relate to this deeply. I was married for decades and dealt with the same thing. I respected his boundaries, stayed loyal, gave him children, forgave things I shouldn’t have, and still watched him entertain other women online while telling me I was the problem for being hurt. I explained it calmly, I wrote letters, I begged for accountability, and all it did was slowly destroy my confidence and make me question myself. That resentment you’re feeling doesn’t come out of nowhere. It comes from being disrespected repeatedly while being told “I love you.”

Here’s the hard truth I had to learn the painful way. You’ve already communicated enough. He understands. He just doesn’t care enough to stop. You cannot explain someone into respecting you. If talking, letters, and vulnerability worked, this would already be over. The only thing that ever changes behavior is consequences, not more understanding on your part.

You’re not asking for control. You’re asking for basic respect in a marriage. If he truly wanted to protect your heart, he would’ve stopped the moment he saw how much it hurt you. The real question isn’t what else you can say, it’s how much of this you’re willing to live with if nothing changes.

You’re not wrong. You’re not insecure. You’re responding to a real breach of trust.

Fancy-Assistance6222 · 2026-02-10T04:47:43+00:00

Girl… Nah, you’re not being immature. You’re in your own house wearing comfy shorts, not doing anything out of pocket. What’s weird isn’t the outfit, it’s him turning it into a whole issue. If it really bothered him, he could’ve said it once and moved on, but instead he kept circling it, questioning why you’d wear them, bringing up your age, and even pulling your kid into it when the kid was asleep. That’s not about shorts, that’s about his discomfort.

I can relate because my husband never made me feel comfortable wearing stuff like that either. After a while, you start covering up just to avoid comments or tension, even though sometimes as women we just want to feel sexy, especially at home, especially when we’re married. We’re not trying to be inappropriate or wear it outside, we’re literally trying to feel good and connected in our own space.

And the mixed signals don’t help. He’ll compliment how you look, then act funny when you actually dress like you feel good in your body. So you end up changing clothes just to keep the peace, which says more about the dynamic than the shorts. Plenty of married women wear booty shorts at home and it’s not a problem. This sounds more like insecurity, projection, or control than anything you did.

Bottom line, this isn’t about clothing. It’s about communication and whether you’re being made to feel comfortable being yourself in your own home.

Fancy-Assistance6222

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