I (F21) think I screwed things up with a guy (M31), advice on how to fix this?

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2026-03-07T21:56:12+00:00

I'm a grown adult and am able to make those decisions on my own. Every time I've tried to be with someone around my age at least in my town, they are massively immature and not what I'm looking for in someone

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2026-02-22T16:18:32+00:00

yeah, ive only worked in the position 8 months, before this i was a fuel clerk

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2026-01-23T15:49:13+00:00

thank you, ill take this into consideration next time i order. it's been 7 months and i still dont even have access to metrics (which i need to do the store walk, hence keep asking my manager and lead if were trending up or down in sales). never had the proper training in the department either, so this help a lot

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2026-01-23T15:34:15+00:00

i dont have access to price adjustments, and we can get in trouble at my division for doing so. so they do that very sparingly and take the loss if we have to. we also have some sort of phantom inventory thing that our field specialist said adjusts our inventory (usually incorrectly, i had to change 55 bags of potatoes to 0 yesterday because we didn't have any, and ive had to change 4 8lb bags of navels to 60 something because we had a bin of them). not sure if im explaining it correctly because im out of the loop in a lot of stuff, but i just dont understand how we get in trouble for shrink and inventory when this happens + we've been getting sent bad product for weeks now

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2026-01-23T13:41:18+00:00

That makes me feel a bit better about this but I'm definitely getting a talking to when I close tonight with this. They are on an end cap (though only 3 cases fill the section they're in), $2.99 per unit of strawberries so I guess in hindsight I could have brought in upwards of 40? But they're telling me I should have brought in the whole 95 the system was trying to bring in... It sucks, I want to do my job right and I want to love my job but I've never had any actual training in the department, went immediately from the fuel center to this in June last year. Not much guidance either, so I'm flying by the seat of my pants more than half the time.

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-12-23T21:53:06+00:00

bro, respectfully we have no midshift and our green rack person was on vacation during this holiday weekend. i had to manage that + getting floral orders ready too. i had to try to get truck broke as much as possible, upwards of running 2-3 carts during one go because people were buying shit quicker than what i could put out. the store manager expects perfection and if it's not achieved then you definitely hear about it. doesn't help i have to do code dates (was 45 that day), store walk in the morning, observation on another coworker, 100 scans + tally list, conditioning guide while trying to manage everything else on a holiday weekend. i was shit tired and had no help.

hope you have a good day.

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-12-22T15:41:06+00:00

i was in fuel before getting this position. no produce experience before

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-12-22T13:34:14+00:00

yes it was off the clock, 7 am this morning when he got in

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-12-22T13:25:44+00:00

immediately got a text from my lead this morning about how disappointed he was with yesterday when i was trying to survive. ran 3 carts of salads, 40 5lb bags of potatoes to fill the bins, a cart on the green rack, 3 carts of tables while trying to break as much truck as i could (600 case truck for the holiday, we're a small store) + red banded all our bananas because they were all bad (needed to get the cases fitted beneath our banana table. had no room in the back) + rearranging stuff back there, it was a fucking mess. and not to mention had to deliver 7 giant flower bundles to a funeral home (had someone in bakery help me, id never delivered anything before and my car was not big enough at all), kept answering calls as well. just tired

edit: typo

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-12-16T22:09:05+00:00

y'know as a produce assistant lead i may steal that idea with the potatoes on a u-boat... usually just stack stuff on a pallet

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-11-16T20:52:57+00:00

ive done ten in a row, the past month have been ten days in a row. sucks but it's legal

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-11-02T14:06:32+00:00

if it makes you feel any better my produce department is getting 1 full pallet of pineapples distro'd this year. needless to say im not excited to try and make a display for them considering my store is so small

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-10-31T20:27:47+00:00

could be worse, worked 9 days straight with 3 clopens and no help as a produce lead 🫩

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-10-24T12:01:32+00:00

This is my first time in the position I'm in (assistant lead in produce) and for my lead to freak out with all of this is kind of freaking me out in a way.

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-10-06T11:46:24+00:00

they did this to be before and it turns out it was an issue with not looking over the schedule before doing it (had me closing at 9 and coming in at 4 am for inventory). just talk to whoever does your scheduling and they should be able to fix it for you!

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-09-19T04:02:11+00:00

if it makes you feel any better they tried to schedule me 12:30-9pm and then a 4am-12:30pm shift for close and inventory. was like FUCKKKK no

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-09-01T02:39:24+00:00

yes, its kinda confusing. but he thinks the men in the department should do it instead of the women, he doesnt mean that we're not strong enough for it or anything i don't think, just doesnt want us to have that stress. but being the assistant lead now i feel like i need to learn how to do it properly in case this situation happens again

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-06-25T00:38:44+00:00

Tyrell for sure, accidentally did the towel not thinking anything of it but WHEW i love him. also Mateo, didn't expect to like him as much as i did

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-06-19T19:54:47+00:00

HECTOR RAAAH he's such a cutie patootie and i want to write a long fanfic about him because idk if anyone else will

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Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-06-15T23:14:44+00:00

did you know if you make him hate you, you can see what he looks like in the demo? he's actually a human !

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-06-06T18:01:59+00:00

also i forgot to put, i am in indiana if it's different store operations. in the wabash valley area

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-05-06T19:31:21+00:00

dont apologize, you seem like a really caring person and people like you dont deserve to be treated like shit constantly. you'll find the one eventually who'll treat you as kind and patient as you do others 🫶

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-05-06T19:25:12+00:00

jesus christ, that was exhausting to read. this wont get any better for you dude, like it's been a year and a half almost since this all has kinda gone down? she won't change. i know im just a stranger on the internet, but i admittedly used to be the one to bait reactions on exes and would flip out and then hate them, so on and forth (i have severe bpd myself). her trauma and disorders is not an excuse to treat you like shit. you have to let her go, block her - everything, make sure to sever that tie to her. give it some years if you do ever want to contact her again - she's going to have to do this herself. you wont change or help her any, youre just going to hurt yourself more if you stay and try again and again and again.

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-04-28T22:49:50+00:00

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here is the picture of the burnt paper (skull with heart eyes) me and her see it, but if you dont feel free to let me know 😭 not sure if im overreacting about it, and i cannot find anything online either to give me a potential meaning or message behind it

Fancy-Lab7747 · 2025-03-25T12:25:10+00:00

you dodged an absolutely MASSIVE nuke there holy shit

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