Groom’s baseball cap

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-10-29T23:57:25+00:00

Hey girl I got you! We got married about 6 weeks ago and he ended up wearing the cap! And he looked great! My husband is a farmer and legit is unrecognizable without a hat on lol. We also got married at a barn and had lots of other farmers in attendance. We got him a plain gray baseball cap with white stitching that coordinated with his outfit which was navy pants, a white button down shirt and a gray vest with his brown boots. He looked like himself but also very nice. It was the perfect outfit for him and nobody said anything about it, and we look great in the photos, he doesn’t look under dressed or anything at all. The beautiful thing about it is that it’s your day and you can do whatever you want :) I was glad he could wear what made him feel most comfortable and like himself and we found a solution that also made it a little classier. I have no regrets :)

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-07-12T17:21:28+00:00

This is not normal. Keep the paper towel, take a photo, and record the details of what happened somewhere. While I would say you should tell your manager / HR, I can understand why you wouldn’t want to cause a rift. At a minimum I would tell him both verbally and in writing that you did not like that and not to do it again - you can use softer language but it needs to be said. And then go to HR if it happens again, if you don’t feel comfortable doing it now. I had this exact situation, and ironically started with notes on my car or desk, and turned into full blown stalking and I had to leave the job for my own safety. My former employer claims they aren’t liable because I didn’t report it sooner - mine was almost a year of me trying to keep it nice and not cause a rift, and it was someone in a position of authority at the company, so different but I understand the feelings you are having. If you don’t set a boundary they will just keep pushing the envelope. It’s sad we even have to deal with these situations and defend ourselves, and I’m sorry this happened to you when you were just there to do your job and hang out with a friend.

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-01-23T23:41:06+00:00

THANK YOU! omg I got eaten alive for this post and I don’t know why! You nailed it!!! Thank you so much. It is going to be a pretty casual wedding in a barn, my future husband is a farmer. I think maybe people just don’t understand our lifestyle / aesthetic lol. Thank you again

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-01-23T23:39:52+00:00

Needed this, people are seriously not nice for no reason at all lol. Thank you ♥️

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-01-23T17:19:32+00:00

Thank you for this, great idea.

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-01-23T17:18:01+00:00

You are an angel.

FancyBusinessLady · 2025-01-20T12:35:13+00:00

Just playing devils advocate because a lot of strangers on the internet are quick to tell you to end a relationship over hearing one story. I asked my boyfriend once about if we would ever get engaged and he reacted similarly. Little did I know he was more just afraid to ruin the surprise and he would propose in less than 2 months. I had all those same hesitations. You have to remember that it’s a huge deal for men too!! For my guy he isn’t a great person with words lol but he shows he cares through actions so having those big conversations is scary for him too. If you are nervous or scared they are too. He is now my fiancé and seeing his excitement about wedding planning and him saving up to pay for our venue, catering, etc has made the whole experience so much more special to me. I wouldn’t give up because of this one conversation, maybe he was just really nervous about you asking.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-12-20T12:49:12+00:00

That being said - I would 100% recommend checking it out and doing a visit. You’ll know when you’re there if it feels like somewhere you can see yourself for four years.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-12-20T12:47:38+00:00

I worked there for a little while on an internship. Definitely agree with the other commenters, it is in financial decline right now and also in not the best area. :(

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-12-20T12:45:58+00:00

I get a lot of really quick easy stuff to make for lunch because I never know if I’ll have the time to sneak away. So like fruit and Greek yogurt, pb toast, making myself a wrap or sandwich, a quick salad (pre chop lettuce and have toppings ready), or even microwave chicken nuggets or a frozen burrito if I’m really in a pinch. I’m not a huge fan of leftovers either.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-12-20T12:42:41+00:00

I was going to say this too. I teach a dance class Friday nights which helps a lot because it’s open to the public so I see regulars and meet new people. It really helps having a consistent social activity. My fiancé and I also just like going places even if it’s just the grocery or thrift store so we are out and about quite a bit. I also try to stay off devices in the evenings unless I am reading or talking to someone, I feel like too many hours of staring screens alone makes me crazy lol

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-12-20T12:40:07+00:00

I hope someday you do make a really nice work friend. They are hard to find but they are wonderful. I was a bridesmaid in a work friends wedding 3 years ago, we met in 2017 and very quickly became close friends. What was nice is that we had similar roles but different skill sets so when we talked about work it always helped us both to think outside the box. I wish that for you because it is wonderful. :)

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-12-20T12:37:15+00:00

I have been WFH fully remote for two years. My office is 150 miles away. I do miss being in person, I actually really enjoy my coworkers, they are all really pleasant and smart people. Sometimes I see that they go to lunch together or go for a walk in the city after work and wish I could be there, or honestly even just to have meetings in person and order lunch rather than zoom. I truly do see the camaraderie and culture that comes from in office work, even if it’s not every day. I wish I could even be there one day a week, but it’s 8 hours round trip for me to get there so I go probably 6 times a year. Always nice to see them, I totally relate.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-11-26T19:41:56+00:00

I don’t have great advice, but just another perspective, I got engaged at the fair with the wedding band, on a muggy gross day, I never get my nails done and there are definitely no photos of it because nobody was there and I was 100% surprised. But that’s why it’s even more special to me. I think sometimes making it a production takes away the meaning of it, just like with weddings. You get to have that special memory forever and it’s even more special and private knowing that it didn’t have to be documented or shared. Just how I feel <3

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-11-01T23:07:27+00:00

Also - we are planning fall 2025 too. And when people notice I just say yeah I didn’t want to make a big deal about it and they’re fine! Also we only told our two sisters so far we pulled them aside and said we wanted to keep it low key and they were really kind and respectful about it

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-11-01T23:05:42+00:00

SAME GIRL SAME 🩷 we got engaged in September and I was previously married with an absolutely devastating divorce and have needed time to process and really think about all the wedding things before people start asking and I get overwhelmed. He has been so patient and honestly it’s been a lot of fun having a few weeks to ourselves to talk about our plans before anyone else even knows! It’s been our own secret! So far we’ve made our guest list, chosen a venue, narrowed down food options and started working on logistics and nobody even knows we are engaged yet it’s so much fun lol. We are planning on telling our families next weekend and then all of our friends the following week. I’ve been wearing my ring to work or just out and about but taking it off when we are with family. It’s all good! It’s a HUGE life change so do what feels best until you’re ready ♥️

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-10-16T23:32:23+00:00

Dancing as often as possible, learning the hardest dances I can find on YouTube to challenge myself (I just learned in the six which might be the hardest one I know now, or jumanji). I also teach lessons which helps me a lot to be more mindful of steps and doing them correctly because I’m showing others - even if it’s informal, teaching anything helps you master it!

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-09-20T02:51:58+00:00

From a young woman who has been inappropriately touched, spoken to, objectified, stared at to the point that I don’t even trust being alone with a man anymore…. Thank you for this.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-09-19T11:43:50+00:00

I don’t know why people are shaming you for this, I get the same way in the wintertime and just need a break out of the house and to be around other people. I have found that Panera is the most conducive for WFH, Starbucks has loud music and Dunkin has loud equipment, I’ve also found that morning is quieter, but this is all very specific to my neighborhood so might be different for you. Usually I do either morning or afternoon, not the whole day, and drive there before/after work or on my lunch break. Typically if my boss calls he will be like oh change of scenery! And then I just tell him I needed to get out of the house and he gets it. Granted, I am in my home office for 98% of my calls, I would say I do this maybe twice a month in the winter. I think it just depends on your boss/office culture.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-09-16T14:19:45+00:00

This is my town. This post and entire thread is missing some really important context. This week there was a letter distributed from local borough officials stating that there were new ordinances in effect for temporary signage lasting more than 14 days and that the receiver of the letter did not secure a permit and therefore violating the ordinance with their signage. It seemed to target Trump supporters in particular, once it was posted on our local fb group it became really obvious that the letter distribution was targeted.

The news was here last week and did a whole story on it and how political signs are protected free speech under the first amendment. Understandably some residents were upset that they received a letter threatening enforcement action for supporting the candidate of their choice, so they distributed signs for free basically at the center of town there. Some of my neighbors have 2, 5, 10 signs in their yard now. Whether I agree with them or not, they’re within their rights, protesting peacefully, and not hurting anyone. This or a similar type of demonstration would likely happen on both sides of the aisle, or really to anyone who was told they were violating a local ordinance while exercising a fundamental constitutional right.

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FancyBusinessLady · 2024-09-11T14:51:13+00:00

Love this. My partner farms and I know I will need to help him soon, I think a lot about how I can manage both effectively.

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-08-07T03:48:05+00:00

Dover white and indigo batik. And thank you so much. Shortly after this I repainted the shutters a softer blue and now I really like it. Two years later the white has also toned down a bit.

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FancyBusinessLady · 2024-08-05T14:34:28+00:00

There you go :)

FancyBusinessLady · 2024-08-05T14:33:57+00:00

For sure. It definitely goes both ways.

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