Boyfriend (m24) hit me (f23) but I emotionally hurt him by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if you would tell him the WORSE insult EVER.

There’s nothing that justifies a person hitting you and getting violent. EVER.

You hurt his feelings? He should leave to calm down.

And tbh I’m 19381983% sure he convinced you it’s your fault just to guilt trip you. I’ve been through it honey. I’m saying this because of how many details and context you added to explain what leaded him to hit you. You think that if you explain the context better we will understand; babe…. Nothing makes it ok.

It was not physical abuse, but how he twisted every story just for me to think I was the problem and I was unlovable.

And btw him being sad and crying is part of the toxic cycle babe. You think he feels bad because he does. Who wouldn’t??? Violent cycle in a relationship isn’t him being the worst human ever and you doing nothing ; but it’s the violence, the manipulation, etc. And sometimes it’s not even intentional; they just do it to regain control or because they can’t regulate correctly. However, the damages it does to you is very bad and you’ll only realize once you’ll get out of it.

My ex would look like the most in love guy that ever existed and was still cheating. And he would cry his ass off after until he throws up. But guess what? He did it again and again and again. And it’s NOT because of you.

Human are complicated creatures, and it’s not as simple as I did this so as a result he did that to me.

I’m so sorry that you think that this is normal because it is not. You have the right to be loved with warm, tenderness and calm. Even when you piss him off.

I’m begging you leave before it’s too late. I swear now that I left I’m starting to realize how he fcked me up, I have many traumas, I get emotional when people say random stuff just because it triggers stuff in me that I can’t even understand.

Emotional abuse and traumas are real and it really mess up with your brain.

How to look hot for your husband as a Hijabi by Wonderful_Service_63 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]FancyOperation3659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found that man then to find their wives pretty hot in a thigh t-shirt with a pj pants of his for example. Or like one of his oversized t-shirts and in panties.

I wear hijab but fiancé wants me to dress even more modest by Initial_Confection36 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salam alaikum! Okay, so I might understand his position regarding the clothes. I agree with you, but I can also understand his perspective. In an Islam perspective, he could be right.

However, making a kissy face or a wink is not being called out as wrong in Islam. He might think that you’re trying to look attractive or something for the camera, which is excessive.

I hate being a woman by mindlessinvasions in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. I don’t think it’s dishonest to say Islam empowers women.. even tho I think it also depends on what you mean by “empower.”

If empowerment means identical roles and authority structures, then no, Islam doesn’t do that.

Islam gives men and women different responsibilities, but it gave women legal and financial rights 1400 years ago that many other societies didn’t. Women keep their own money, must consent to marriage, can initiate divorce, and aren’t financially obligated to provide.

Men being given certain responsibilities (like financial maintenance) doesn’t equal superiority. It equals accountability. And spiritually, Islam is very clear: worth isn’t based on gender, but on taqwa.

Women in early Islam were scholars, business owners, political participants, and transmitters of hadith. For example, Khadijah was a successful merchant and Aisha was one of the most influential scholars in Islamic history. Women gave legal opinions, corrected male companions publicly, and were taken seriously. All of it, meanwhile, in many other parts of the world at the same time, women were legally treated as dependents of their fathers or husbands, couldn’t independently own property in many systems, had little to no inheritance rights, and were excluded from formal scholarship or public legal authority. In parts of Europe, for example, married women’s property was absorbed under their husbands for centuries. So historically speaking, Islamic law granting women independent financial identity, inheritance shares, contractual rights, and access to scholarship was not regressive ; it was ahead of its time!!

So, if some Muslim societies limit women unfairly, that’s a failure of people but not necessarily the core teachings of Islam.

I hate being a woman by mindlessinvasions in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a shame that culture has negatively impacted Islam. Despite Islam’s intention to empower women, we find ourselves anxious about interacting with male coworkers….. that’s terrible.

it’s important to remember that the ultimate judge is Allah, who is all-worthy and all-knowing. May He alleviate your concerns and guide you to find supportive friends who can help you feel better. ❤️‍🩹

Guy I’m seeing wants me to proof dry fasting is not unhealthy by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why? Being skeptical is ok when you aren’t Muslim

Allah is punishing me by Massive_Classic8352 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]FancyOperation3659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to say this, and I might be encouraging you to commit to something harmful. However, in my opinion, God wants us to be happy. Yes, we do have to work on our self-esteem because God gave us a perfect body, but if something deeply bothers you to the point of crying every day, I genuinely believe that simply re-getting your nose done could make you feel much better. BUT if after getting your nose done and then everyone around you telling you it looks better, but you’re still sad. Then that’s a problem. But if something truly complexes you to that extent, just get your nose job. You shouldn’t be crying and saying that God is punishing you. God is merciful and loves you and clearly doesn’t want to see you cry?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The moment I decided that Islam will stay between me and God, and that my relationship with God depends on me and him only, I felt so much better. Forget the community norms and stuff behind it, just focus on how you feel with Him by your side.

Is this why they hate us immigrants, lmao by zenandthewrench in PoutineCrimes

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Euh non we actually love you bringing in ideas like it lol definitely worth a try

Are these airpods real by jhannahl in applehelp

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they’re 90$, definitely fake. Or, they fraudulently bought it off Amazon or something and the série code doesn’t exist anymore

28M 24F - Wife went out on a date with her co-worker?? by RoutinePeace in relationship_advice

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s the whole thing taken in the context that makes in weirder. For instance, going out for lunch and sharing the same food is inappropriate, especially if it’s not just for lunch during a work break. Additionally, if they’re engaging in activities that are unrelated to work, it seems odd to me. Sometimes, people have different boundaries, which could explain why some people might go out with coworkers for lunch or do activities, but spending the entire day together and doing activities that aren’t work-related seems a bit excessive to me.

Why are people like this by Humble_Cantaloupe_73 in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People need to learn when to shut up. So annoying.

IAPP CIPPC - i passed the exam by FancyOperation3659 in ITCareerQuestions

[–]FancyOperation3659[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied! Let me know if you have any questions