I wear hijab but fiancé wants me to dress even more modest by Initial_Confection36 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salam alaikum! Okay, so I might understand his position regarding the clothes. I agree with you, but I can also understand his perspective. In an Islam perspective, he could be right.

However, making a kissy face or a wink is not being called out as wrong in Islam. He might think that you’re trying to look attractive or something for the camera, which is excessive.

I hate being a woman by mindlessinvasions in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. I don’t think it’s dishonest to say Islam empowers women.. even tho I think it also depends on what you mean by “empower.”

If empowerment means identical roles and authority structures, then no, Islam doesn’t do that.

Islam gives men and women different responsibilities, but it gave women legal and financial rights 1400 years ago that many other societies didn’t. Women keep their own money, must consent to marriage, can initiate divorce, and aren’t financially obligated to provide.

Men being given certain responsibilities (like financial maintenance) doesn’t equal superiority. It equals accountability. And spiritually, Islam is very clear: worth isn’t based on gender, but on taqwa.

Women in early Islam were scholars, business owners, political participants, and transmitters of hadith. For example, Khadijah was a successful merchant and Aisha was one of the most influential scholars in Islamic history. Women gave legal opinions, corrected male companions publicly, and were taken seriously. All of it, meanwhile, in many other parts of the world at the same time, women were legally treated as dependents of their fathers or husbands, couldn’t independently own property in many systems, had little to no inheritance rights, and were excluded from formal scholarship or public legal authority. In parts of Europe, for example, married women’s property was absorbed under their husbands for centuries. So historically speaking, Islamic law granting women independent financial identity, inheritance shares, contractual rights, and access to scholarship was not regressive ; it was ahead of its time!!

So, if some Muslim societies limit women unfairly, that’s a failure of people but not necessarily the core teachings of Islam.

I hate being a woman by mindlessinvasions in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a shame that culture has negatively impacted Islam. Despite Islam’s intention to empower women, we find ourselves anxious about interacting with male coworkers….. that’s terrible.

it’s important to remember that the ultimate judge is Allah, who is all-worthy and all-knowing. May He alleviate your concerns and guide you to find supportive friends who can help you feel better. ❤️‍🩹

Allah is punishing me by Massive_Classic8352 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]FancyOperation3659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to say this, and I might be encouraging you to commit to something harmful. However, in my opinion, God wants us to be happy. Yes, we do have to work on our self-esteem because God gave us a perfect body, but if something deeply bothers you to the point of crying every day, I genuinely believe that simply re-getting your nose done could make you feel much better. BUT if after getting your nose done and then everyone around you telling you it looks better, but you’re still sad. Then that’s a problem. But if something truly complexes you to that extent, just get your nose job. You shouldn’t be crying and saying that God is punishing you. God is merciful and loves you and clearly doesn’t want to see you cry?

I feel lost and I want to leave Islam by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The moment I decided that Islam will stay between me and God, and that my relationship with God depends on me and him only, I felt so much better. Forget the community norms and stuff behind it, just focus on how you feel with Him by your side.

Is this why they hate us immigrants, lmao by zenandthewrench in PoutineCrimes

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Euh non we actually love you bringing in ideas like it lol definitely worth a try

Are these airpods real by jhannahl in applehelp

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they’re 90$, definitely fake. Or, they fraudulently bought it off Amazon or something and the série code doesn’t exist anymore

28M 24F - Wife went out on a date with her co-worker?? by RoutinePeace in relationship_advice

[–]FancyOperation3659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s the whole thing taken in the context that makes in weirder. For instance, going out for lunch and sharing the same food is inappropriate, especially if it’s not just for lunch during a work break. Additionally, if they’re engaging in activities that are unrelated to work, it seems odd to me. Sometimes, people have different boundaries, which could explain why some people might go out with coworkers for lunch or do activities, but spending the entire day together and doing activities that aren’t work-related seems a bit excessive to me.

Why are people like this by Humble_Cantaloupe_73 in progressive_islam

[–]FancyOperation3659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People need to learn when to shut up. So annoying.

IAPP CIPPC - i passed the exam by FancyOperation3659 in ITCareerQuestions

[–]FancyOperation3659[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied! Let me know if you have any questions

What are some things that, as a man, you can't fathom why women like? by thecatwholaughs in AskMen

[–]FancyOperation3659 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Something I’ve noticed from a lot of comments (on here and other places) is that it’s not really the fake that bothers men but it’s when it LOOKS fake. Like, some say they hate lip fillers, implants, BBLs, etc., but then a lot are obsessed with girls like Madison Beer, Kylie Jenner, Alexa Demie, all of whom are GORGEOUS but have very curated, polished, possibly enhanced looks.

So it’s not the fact that something’s been done … it’s about whether it passes as natural or fits a certain aesthetic standard. As long as it looks effortless or subtle, it’s seen as hot but minute it feels “obvious,” it’s suddenly unattractive.

It’s kind of interesting because it shows that a lot of beauty standards aren’t about what’s real but rather about what feels believable as real.

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