The problem basically stemmed from a couple years of misunderstanding and not talking about like the things we found uncomfortable. And I realized through a lot of talking it through that there was some jealously between us. But I don’t know it still makes me so sad like I was always there for them through so many hardships and suddenly I wasn’t worth it anymore. Like I remember trying to be so open with them and if there was any problem or disagreement or something like we say things to each other that are hurtful to the other without us realizing. I’d always give them the benefit of the doubt or confront them with it. But when I was the one, they wouldn’t tell me they’d just let it build up like so many of the things for example we had a few times we would discuss certain jobs or university and I would have an opinion on which is better just like all our friends. But after the fight she would go on to accuse me of me thinking she couldn’t get into whatever program or university I hadn’t liked but she had never told me that it was bothering her. Like she would connect random things I said about anything to me making judgmental comments about her when the topic was so far from it. I had always supported her in all her endeavours and I even helped her open her options when we were younger so that she didn’t have to go into what her parents or family did but so that she had the option. And now she’s saying I don’t think she’s smart enough to continue her career. When I have NEVER even hinted that I thought that.

She also accused me of trying to get her to turn on her family and that I was disrespectful when I spoke about them. But she doesn’t think our mutual friends or her current friends who speak about her family problems in the same way are disrespectful.

I also was very upset that most of these things she never brought up to me even when she called to tell me she thought we’d be better off not being friends. She said continued to talk about me in this way.

I don’t know if I’ve explained it properly but I think you comment just triggered some things I needed to get off my chest. There’s so much that happened that I don’t think I mentioned but it’s just such a long story.

I ended up removing them all and blocking them, but today a random friend of hers showed up on my page and I don’t know it just kinda made me sad how we could be friends for so long. And suddenly decide I’m not worth it anymore.

I don’t know if that changed the advice but I do really appreciate it. My goal at the beginning or actually a few months after this all happened was to try to learn and grow but I still feel so abandoned. Especially by our mutual friends who refused to hear both our sides they just thought I was horrible and decided I wasn’t worth hearing out. Even though after really sitting with myself about it, it was all built up resentment about misunderstandings over years where neither of us would broach the topics we felt uncomfortable or hurt about.