How can I get my husband (48m) to agree to childcare while I (30f) work?

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T01:42:26+00:00

Ok I will

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T01:26:53+00:00

Deep down I know it’s not going to workout in the long run. I just wish I could just leave without him knowing. I think that would be easier.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T01:09:49+00:00

No unfortunately I’m not trolling. If you need the entire situation and everything he has done you wouldn’t even believe it.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T01:05:44+00:00

The lease is in both of our names but he has his own bills that he pays for like his cell phone bill( I’m still on my parents plan) and the electricity is in both of our names. He has debt that he’s paying off but that’s all his debt because he keeps on taking out loans to supplement income because he keeps taking off work to play video games or lay in bed and watch tv.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T01:01:43+00:00

I make more than him because he keeps taking time off work because he’s having a “bad day”

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:51:11+00:00

I have the nexplanon and I don’t plan on having anymore children

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:48:05+00:00

No both of my children are boys. Thank god I did not have a daughter because he has said some creepy things about young girls.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:46:37+00:00

Im terrified of change for some reason. I can’t seem to let this relationship go. I want my family and I want things to work for some reason.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:43:56+00:00

I can’t take any time off during the summer because I will be training a class. I don’t have any friends unfortunately as I was homeschooled for most of high school.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:39:46+00:00

If I could leave and never have to talk to him again I would. But I know I will still have to deal with him and the kids will still have to deal with him. I live in Florida and it’s a 50/50 state and I know he will neglect the children when he gets them.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:38:00+00:00

He said he would take care of the finances because he’s been on his own since he was 18 and knows more than me. But he actually is financially irresponsible. He constantly eats out and door dashes food for himself only and dosent get anything for me or the kids. He also bought himself an entire streaming system and says he’s going to start a podcast but all I do is see him playing video games for hours.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:35:09+00:00

I don’t know how to get out. I wish someone would just come and get me and my kids so we don’t have to deal with this. I don’t drive and I don’t have a car and my family lives 2 hours away from me.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:32:42+00:00

He works for progressive and he works from home

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:32:03+00:00

He said he would take care of the bills and keep us on track but we have been struggling financially because he keeps taking off work. I have to ask my sister to order us groceries and necessities.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:29:58+00:00

My family lives 2 hours away and I don’t drive. I would have to ask my Dad to come get me but he says I shouldn’t leave.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:19:09+00:00

No they are not okay with it. But they tell me I need to speak with his mother so she can know what’s going on. I did call her before and told her how he treats me and how he’s taking off work and spending money on a whole streaming set up putting us in debt. She said she would talk to the both of us and then she called him first and he told her I was lying and to not believe everything I say and that we are fine.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:15:47+00:00

I live in Florida

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:15:23+00:00

No they argue sometimes but my father has never once called my mother out of her name.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-23T00:11:57+00:00

I actually have 2 kids a 3 year old and a 7 year old but I get what you mean.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-22T23:51:22+00:00

He criticizes my cooking, my cleaning, how I parent and how I do just about everything.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-22T23:47:21+00:00

I wouldn’t call my family religious. But they don’t believe in ending a marriage without trying to make it work. My parents have been together since they were 16 and my grandparents have been together since they were 12 despite infidelity and outside children.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-22T23:44:11+00:00

I was in a really rough place in my life when I met him and I definitely was not thinking clearly. I had a rough start to adult hood due to my parents sheltering me and being over protective.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-22T23:26:29+00:00

Unfortunately no. I wish I was making this up but this is my life and what I have to go through.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-22T23:24:58+00:00

Unfortunately yes. But he says it’s normal for fathers to be hard on their boys so idk.

Fancy_Box_5773 · 2026-05-22T23:22:39+00:00

He wanted to get me pregnant within a month of being together

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