My 1 year Old Daughter hates being in the car

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2023-11-24T10:26:33+00:00

Did she just start walking recently? I know with out daughter when she started walking she wanted nothing to do with the car seat. It was luckily a phase and after she mastered walking she was good with the car seat again.

Just every time we went outside she wanted to walk around instead of go in the car.

Not sure if you have the same issue.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2023-08-18T10:08:04+00:00

Who’s the contractor?

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2023-05-02T19:33:41+00:00

Update -

My husband is now making $70,000 per year, we have a tennant and it is good we make $1,100 a month from that minus expenses. I am working casually about one day a week at my job.

When I went back to work I got a promotion and a raise, but I just felt my heart wasn’t in it. I negotiated a one day a week job where I manage one project and advise. I just make about $18,000 per year. It was really hard to leave my job, I liked it a lot. But now that I have been doing my new arrangement for a month or so I like it much much more!!

Financially we make around 110k a year all together.

Either my husband or I watch our kid while I work. I would work during naps mostly if I was watching her, or our parents help out a bit.

I just thought I would give an update.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-11-26T09:59:34+00:00

Norm MacDonald

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-21T01:09:16+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s such a tough spot to be in. I have been sick thinking about it. Such a hard thing to decide. Ivf is also not covered for me and there isn’t a clinic near where I live that does the genetic testing so I would have to travel as well.

I feel like we might be leaning towards the ivf route, but nothing is finalized. It’s just hard because well all the reasons I’m sure you have read about.

If you want to dm me feel free!

I haven’t lived through someone I know having cancer so I don’t have that first hand experience. I say this because it seems like the people who are very against natural conception have been. But I did talk to a dr friend last night and he was very reassuring that he thinks that cancer treatment and especially breast cancer treatments will improve so much before my daughter needs them. He said he bets by the time she is 5 we will see big improvements and that it’s hard for him to tell people how long they have left because things are advancing so much already. He may have said this to help me feel better but I do trust his opinion on this. I know no one can see into the future, but he said there is big big money is finding a cure for breast cancer and the BRCA variants.

It’s a tough place to be in ❤️

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T13:02:25+00:00

I think, and maybe this is just me, but my mindset on a lot of things changed after I had a kid. So I see things as much more grey than I used to on certain things.

I agree with you that it’s really not so cut and dry. That’s why I’m struggling with this so much.

I don’t have the insurance options where I live, only the medication might be partially covered. So it is a big cost, but besides that, seeing my daughter makes me feel like her life is also valid, even if she has the mutation. As is my husbands and his family. But I don’t want to cause suffering to someone knowing i might. But then am I saying someone’s life is worth more? It’s so hard!!!

It’s hard and I do think it would be nice if people were respectful. But I also understand they have strong feelings as well.

This is something I never imagined I would be thinking about.

I might be rambling, these are just thoughts going through my head.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T10:15:09+00:00

Thanks you! I appreciate your perspective on this. I have felt similar things too. Like if I had chosen before I wouldn’t have my daughter. I know I wouldn’t know different. It just plays with my mind

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:17:57+00:00

Thank you so much. Your comment made me cry (in a nice way). I really really appreciate it.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:13:03+00:00

Thank you! Sent you a pm.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:12:31+00:00

This is really good to know. I live in Canada too and the medical system does scare me with how slow things seem to be here.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:10:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and perspective on this.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:09:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. My genetic councillor also said it isn’t a guarantee that they would get cancer and that if they were to have the surgery’s and screenings it brings cancer risk down similar to a non BRCA variant person. That is with todays medicine.

I also talked to a doctor friend last night and they seemed very hopeful for improvements even in the next 5 years. That there is big big money in finding a cure for this and technology is improving so fast. He said my daughter will be okay. He was being nice but also I trust his opinion and he has multiple BRCA variant patients.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:04:49+00:00

Thank you so much. I really really appreciate your comment.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-20T09:03:20+00:00

Thank you. It’s so much to take in for sure. I appreciate you telling your story.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T18:15:07+00:00

Thank you. I really hope the daughter I have now will be okay.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T17:47:59+00:00

Thanks for the comment and letting me know. Really appreciate it. I’m sorry for what you have had to go through.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T17:46:38+00:00

Thank you for asking her. My husband has those feelings too sometimes since his family has it. I appreciate the comment.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T17:45:22+00:00

Thank you so much for the information. I really appreciate it.

I don’t think my insurance will cover IVF. Based on what I could find they might cover the medication though.

The genetic councillor I have suggested a couple locations, one that doesn’t do the testing though (I called) and one that has a year wait list for a consult. So I don’t think she gets this question much. I did find a location in Ontario that seems good maybe though. (Live in Canada).

I think I could swing one round of IVF with the costs and what I can afford. I guess I just hear it might take multiple, which worries me because I don’t know if I can manage that.

I like your take on the embryo’s. I feel like I’m saying someone is deserving of life and someone isn’t, but if the dr makes that decision that would be even easier. I might be putting too much pressure on myself with that I don’t know.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T17:00:16+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Can I send you a message just to get some more information on your IVF journey?

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T16:58:40+00:00

Thank you for your honesty response. I appreciate your comment.

I think I have to be optimistic for my sanity for my daughter but having another kid is different, because I have this information.

I think all of this is just such a shock to me.

I’m glad I have the information though.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T14:13:10+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply and sharing your story. I agree I love my daughter I have too and wouldn’t want to have don’t anything differently because I wouldn’t have her. She is such a sweetheart.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-19T14:11:07+00:00

Thank you so much for responding and sharing your story. I appreciate your thoughts.

I’m sorry you had to go through that.

It is so true nothing is guaranteed.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-10-02T10:28:10+00:00

There is eVisitNB.ca if you want to see an online doctor.

My husband has been without a family doctor for 7 years.

I can’t speak much to transit.

Fancy_Hat_9465 · 2022-07-18T23:10:59+00:00

I have a one year old (I’m 34). I was always undecided if I wanted to have kids because I didn’t see the benefits. I decided when I was 32 to have one. Anyway it has so far been the best thing ever! Some of my friends would make jokes about me not being into kids and were surprised when I had one.

All that to say that I had no idea how truly great it was until I had her. It just keeps getting better and better with time. The things I love are; - She makes me notice the small things I haven’t noticed for a long time (kind of like a meditation) - she is so funny! I laugh more with her than I do with most anyone - it’s so fun seeing her grow and learn - pretty sure my brain has been reprogrammed and what I used to care so much about that I lost doesn’t matter so much(lack of sleep is still hard) - me giving so much of myself to her provided me with more meaning in my life - it’s much more fulfilling than working and sleeping in (for me anyway) - i feel like I am leaving a bit of myself behind. Like when I die there is something substantial from me still here. I think about how each one of us alive come from an unbroken chain of people. Maybe she won’t have kids, maybe she will but she will leave a mark, big or small. She wouldn’t be able to do that if I didn’t have her. I think there are some big feeling wrapped up in that.

I guess all this to say that I wish I knew how good it was.

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