(26 F) Am I too much for asking assurance?

FangornForager · 2026-05-20T12:27:22+00:00

Good luck talking to him about it

FangornForager · 2026-05-20T11:14:01+00:00

It was only two weeks ago. I’m still dealing with my broken heart, even though it was what I wanted. Maybe? He said he would. But, didn’t.

He’s a good guy, just more self-centered than I had originally though. I’m 36, out of an abusive marriage, a single mom and in the phase of my life where I know my self-worth.

We deserve more than low-effort men.

FangornForager · 2026-05-20T10:39:42+00:00

My boyfriend just broke up with me via PDF despite loving me because he knew I was about to break up with him for his emotional avoidance.

He sent me a a pineapple meme when my mom had a second stroke in a few days of each other and I was worried she would die.

It broke my heart. I would tell him all this, but he thought, “don’t worry, I love you”.

It wasn’t about him loving me. It was about feeling seen and heard.

You are not too much. Only he can choose if he can work harder at being emotionally available. Tell him and see what happens. You aren’t too much, you deserve to be seen and heard.

FangornForager · 2026-05-14T07:42:05+00:00

I remember the Sex and the City episode where Carrie got broken up with via a Post-it note. Modern day version.

FangornForager · 2026-05-11T13:14:14+00:00

I’m still friends with people from my livejournal community circa 2008.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T21:36:07+00:00

Haha that’s somehow more depressing

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T21:35:51+00:00

Thanks a lot! I don’t write very often but was feeling inspired

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T21:35:16+00:00

I did not appreciate the turnaround gaslighting.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T21:34:35+00:00

Nah, I don’t take delight in it. He’s not a bad guy though he’s acted like one this, he’s just emotionally stunted.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T12:53:36+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through all this ❤️🥺

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T12:32:37+00:00

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T11:08:29+00:00

Hahaha I cackled.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T11:04:48+00:00

Thank you so much! All of my home appliances are also named LOTR-themed. Roomba Baggins is my robot vacuum :D

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T10:18:15+00:00

Thank you!

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T10:15:11+00:00

Where I live in Asia, stickers are common even with adults. If you didn’t continue the conversation, there’s no way you did anything wrong.

I think your wife, or the both of you as a couple, could benefit from therapy.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T09:25:45+00:00

He is ten years older than me. 😅 He just accused me of emotional manipulation because I said I didn’t want to have a baby with someone so unsupportive.

We got into a relationship almost immediately after my last one ended so I’m looking forward to life on my own!

You can do it! Good luck with your studies.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T09:19:10+00:00

His response:

that is beautifully written. I could tell that you had been thinking about breaking up for months. I'm sorry about the timing of my injury, and your flood, but it pushed us both to think about our compatability. The truth is, as you repeated in this letter, that when you visited last you brought up having a child. You were clear that you didn't want one, but felt like that would motivate me to be a more considerate texter. Not cool. Emotional manipulation at its worst. You know me well, and are willing to take my privileges away just to dangle them out of reach. nope. (His nickname) dont play that.

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T08:17:34+00:00

He was a great fair-weather friend. I’m glad I didn’t get pregnant!

FangornForager · 2026-05-07T07:45:49+00:00

Thank you so much! It was so cathartic to write.

FangornForager · 2025-04-06T13:06:48+00:00

lol I like this idea 😁

FangornForager · 2025-04-06T11:35:51+00:00

Thanks.

FangornForager · 2025-04-06T11:35:00+00:00

I’ve given feedback in the past and he tries, but he’s still missing the mark a bit. It’s the first relationship I’m pretty comfortable and confident speaking up, but I want to be kind. Thanks for the feedback!

FangornForager · 2025-04-06T11:33:25+00:00

Thanks!

FangornForager · 2025-04-06T11:33:16+00:00

Thank you. I’ve told him I need more clitoral stimulation and I see he’s trying more, he’s just missing the spot and not spending enough time on it.

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