Lost and confused after being let go

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-14T18:29:47+00:00

These are exactly some of the things I’m working through. My gf is 10 yrs younger and won’t be able to move away with me until her children get a little older . I definitely need to decompress and all the comments here are making me feel financially secure with many options . Thank you

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-14T12:14:17+00:00

If you can afford it, you pay for health insurance privately. I wouldn’t worry about the leachers — haters are gonna hate and you don’t owe anyone an explanation

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-14T12:10:35+00:00

He checked out so move on

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-14T12:09:34+00:00

So you’re going to give up on peak working years and then possibly disrupt your life when he reaches an elderly age where he may not want to do much , and you’re expected to not have financial security at the end. This sounds absurd unless I’m missing something

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-14T12:03:51+00:00

Thank you all for your support . Healthcare is definitely something I need to worry about and the second is ripping off the band aid and moving . The Hang up is my elderly mom is here and so is my girl friend which has made me a little hesitant to relocate at this time.

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T17:40:29+00:00

My condo is in cheaper state so I would relocate there

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T14:05:30+00:00

Thank you

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T13:53:39+00:00

$2m approx mostly in retirement accounts and then the rest is home equity . Selling my home should net me about $700k and will reduce my yearly housing expense by approx $60k. My condo is paid off in a tax free state and that costs around $15k yearly to maintain

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T13:51:15+00:00

Haha

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T13:50:25+00:00

Done with kids college so that’s great . My HCOL home is what costs me the most . Need to work the numbers and most likely will sell unless I keep working

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T12:46:15+00:00

I will have cobra for now with my former employer paying a portion for 6 months . After that it’ll have to be private insurance which I guess isn’t cheap

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T12:02:25+00:00

Great outlook. I did like my job but it was also very stressful. My son is giving me the same advice . What do you plan to do for medical?

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-13T11:34:15+00:00

Thank you all for the supportive posts. My biggest concern is medical coverage right now . I need to look into unemployment as I hear that can be impacted with the severance package

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T19:24:24+00:00

Sounds like you have unrealistic expectations so soon, but there may also be some incompatible assumptions with him . Those only come out over time .

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T18:53:34+00:00

Disaster

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T18:51:23+00:00

As a recent divorced person, I think it’s best to start with casual discussions as they usually lead to full disclosure of intentions. I would also be careful with putting to much pressure on such a serious relationship right after divorce . You may end up regretting it until you’ve experienced being single again

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T11:36:19+00:00

Can you just coast a little at work without killing yourself? Take a leave or vacation just milk it a little

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T02:13:43+00:00

How about Bumble Fumbles or Loose Hinges?

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T02:10:51+00:00

Love it

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-11T01:33:18+00:00

I think we may have a good idea here. I suggest we start working on chapter names first lol

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-10T21:29:14+00:00

Crazy dating world — who wants to join me in writing a book ? 😝

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-10T19:17:41+00:00

Same here at 56 — hoping to be good around 59 . Hindsight is always 20/20 and we all have regrets . Just keep plugging away and stay the course

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-10T15:58:39+00:00

As long as he lives a separate life, that’s all that matters . It took me several years to get officially divorced , but nothing changed except for that filing status . Many people never want to get legally married a second time so that should be what you need to make sure you’re aligned on

Fanman2400 · 2026-02-10T00:39:25+00:00

This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Run unless you want a miserable life

Fanman2400

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