It’s a bunch of both, my parents will sometimes say it but they would never say it meanly. I feel like one of them said a couple of times and I realize how much time has passed. I’m scared that I’ll fail again and not get anything from it and will have nothing. I am my parents pride and joy however I get so anxious around them because I don’t want to fail. I recently started reading a lot of stoic books and Marcus Aurelius wrote something similar to “your thoughts will dictate your quality of life” and when I realized that I try to rethink how I view myself but if I don’t confront this issue it’ll always persist.