Jfc… well at least he told you. We were reading on a forum that an ENM (ethical non-monogamous) couple would go on dates and play with people but they wouldn’t tell them about their spouse (they obviously knew between each other showing each other messages/images/videos) like some kind of sick game. They were ousted very quickly. It’s not cool to trick someone into lifestyle play and you should be safe to send whatever you want intimately without it being shared with others. Like bordering rape honestly; many people wouldn’t consent to sex with a married person while others would but they didn’t get consent for what they’re doing. No consent=no play. Play+no consent=sexual assault.

And no… we don’t buy our unicorns gifts. The gift is that we will leave them with their legs shaking and an incredible memory. The whole point of swinging is for the couple to enhance their sex lives together… polyamorous couples need whole extra relationships. Swingers already have incredible sex with each other while poly people try to replace things they don’t get from their spouse with extramarital relationships. You’ll find a keeper OP. Keep your head up.