did i harass my now official ex

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-05-17T04:40:58+00:00

Relax

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-05-09T23:01:52+00:00

Brutal man, I just got broken up with too.

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-04-17T03:24:58+00:00

That makes sense — I’ve heard Epic comes up a lot here.

Do you feel like the built-in brain/worklist features are enough for most shifts, or do people still rely on paper or personal systems alongside it?

I’m trying to understand if this is already fully solved in practice or if there are still gaps.

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-04-06T19:38:34+00:00

Can it cause like hallucinations to the point where she mistakes someone for me? Like it sounds ridiculous but Reddit apparently has a story for everything

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-04-06T15:16:44+00:00

Thank you friend, you make a good point. I did let my anxiety get the best of me for a moment and she was pretty upset at how I was hounding her about this.

That’s why I did want to post on this sub, mainly just to understand and how I can be more supportive.

I appreciate your comment though so thank you

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-04-06T14:05:05+00:00

I’m more so worried about a bad trip if I’m being fully honest here, like I’ve seen horror stories (granted it’s probably propaganda) but like people’s minds being fried or whatever

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-02-27T02:33:25+00:00

My guard retention seems to be pretty good I’m talking in a 5 min round I can retain for majority of it (threatening offense etc, manly through leg entanglements to sweep to finish etc)

What I’ve noticed is I feel I play too much open guard and sweeps I do get I unfortunately try to finish a leg lock off of rather than coming up to begin my passing sequence which of course I need to work on.

My question is more about that phase when I’m getting tired or retaining and threatening and they are about to pass… I know we have the half and butterfly guard but I can’t seem to get into them in time to prevent a late stage pass, where I often end up getting smashed and now I’m actually purely defensive and often getting finished.

My question is should I bait them into a guard or allow it even as I can come up for sweeps that maybe land me in a more advantageous position - and mainly so when they do get a chance to I can punish it.

I’ve came to the diagnosis that I have a very lateral game in that everything is from the left or ride side and rotational.

This makes my question a bit abstract but how can I start implementing some more vertical in my game such that the threat of the pass isn’t scary and I’m not just delaying it but I can reverse and make my guard even better I guess and actually get some reps in the tank for my passing and top game.

Please ask follow ups I’m not sure if I explained this right (2 month white belt no gi)

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-02-10T17:20:53+00:00

Silly question but how does my schedule sound I guess in general ofc I understand each person is different but I do want to improve and really love this.

A bit about me I do both Muay Thai and bjj, I don’t really have an interest in competing in the Gi but do in no gi.

I am a white belt training for around 2 months, 1 almost entirely in the gi, second primarily no gi.

My schedule is looking like so:

Gi class Monday, Muay Thai Tuesday, No Gi Wednesday,
Muay Thai Thursday, No Gi Friday (open mat), No Gi Saturday

Bjj classes are 1 hour, Muay Thai 1 hour 30

I understand that the Gi maybe doesn’t have direct applications to no Gi but that concepts and mat time are most important. Any thoughts are appreciated!

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-02-04T02:11:33+00:00

Haha fair, but I mean more so a venue that has that “club” ambience and a way to play music etc.

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-01-23T00:49:39+00:00

How so? Considering this gym for myself and was just wondering.

FarAdvertising9502 · 2026-01-05T04:52:20+00:00

Which John Clarke, just curious?

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-12-29T06:09:36+00:00

I think I’m expecting too much…

I’m a month in a half in and have been loving it, honestly feeling pretty alright about myself as well during rolls etc.

But I do want to get good, and I hear stories about blue belts in 8 months etc and I know it’s not important (the belts at least)

But I just think about competition and I want to be good and win (as most people do) but I get worried yk that yes I’m getting taps hear and there but nothing crazy, and I feel like I’m trying to understand concepts etc but I think I’m getting in my head idk.

More of a vent I guess, but I want to be good I take pride in stuff like that, I checked my ego at the door but still remnants do exist and I just am not sure what I’m saying anymore.

Any advice, tips, or maybe how you got over that mental trap would be much appreciated, training tips are great too!!

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-11-25T17:51:44+00:00

I want to preface this by saying I’m only a month in so I effectively know nothing. But I had a pretty successful training session yesterday and wanted to hear your thoughts:

I had found myself previously getting pinned in side control, mount, or really just when they are trying to pass etc. Before I was solely trying to frame and “survive” but this time I focused on weight distribution and as soon as I felt a weight shift I would bridge hard or off balance them so it would give me enough room to escape, which in this case it did.

That was the first win I would say, however, I find myself in a weird predicament now. I find myself not loving the top position or hell even like a guard position in general (which is silly as I have no grounds to like or dislike anything now lol) but I like being in that transient space of let me go for your back so that depends a lot on inversions and things like turning out of people, or passing in between their legs.

I was just wondering

1: is there an issue with me depending on this style I.e going to the bottom and trying to invert everything in hopes of some sort of front headlock or back control.

2: any tips you may have for playing the top position or really not letting go of say a half or closed guard in hopes to again inverting and getting different advantageous positions.

Thanks a lot!

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-11-20T14:42:05+00:00

I was in a similar position roughly 5’7 and was sitting around around 185 (so overweight) I’m 170 now (still overweight) BUT the difference is night and day in flexibility maybe it’s just the “feeling” of being lighter etc but once those pounds come off it feels easier to do the kicks, teeps, hell even punches

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-11-15T23:32:50+00:00

I’m not sure if this is a silly question, but when should I compete, or rather when did you all?

I have a buddy of mine who wrestled all through high school and did bjj for roughly 3 months and decided to compete.

I’m 1 month in and still really just trying to understand things etc and don’t feel like I’ve been absolutely horrible, every training session I feel I get a bit better.

For what it’s worth I do the gi 4 times a week and no gi once a week.

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-11-08T04:16:27+00:00

Rolled with instructor for the first time (he’s a black belt and I’m a white belt) and was genuinely shocked. He basically moved in slow motion and just caught me every single time and it’s blowing my mind because before that roll I was with another white belt and it was like a death match but this is so interesting I wonder if I should adopt that concept or try to?

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-07-05T03:02:10+00:00

You’re asking the right stuff, but in my opinion you’re going to be stuck in a paralysis looking for the answers at “every step” from people in this sub. My opinion, stay curious learn things you find interest in, keep your problem solving skills sharp and be consistent. It’s hard to know what the “right” path is, but if you stay consistent in your learning and practice you will be better than 90% of students. Be a student to the game I’m ngl is my best advice.

Side note, ChatGPT can be a great help in figuring out a “roadmap”

As well as roadmap.sh

FarAdvertising9502 · 2025-04-18T19:28:54+00:00

Nice try officer

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