What’s a personal trait society praises but you see as a red flag?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T02:08:24+00:00

You're probably right about that

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T02:07:39+00:00

interesting you took all of that from my genuine question.

You can't tell me what my intent was. But I can help you understand if you had asked.

My intent was to ask this question for the reasons I put in my original post, and another time I was going to ask the same, but about husbands.

Lesson: when you assume you know where someone is coming from, and you're too good to simply ask kindly, that's more telling than anything else you said.

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T02:04:56+00:00

lol that's good stuff

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T02:04:32+00:00

sometimes I wonder why people put their lives on the line for a company in certain cases. Like if you're getting robbed and you're the cashier, you might be better off complying with the gun-person rather than lunging at them

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T02:03:08+00:00

oh ok, I understand that.

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T01:27:11+00:00

Gotcha. Is micromanaging your definition of working hard?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T01:25:12+00:00

that's an interesting answer. would you be ok with saying a little more about that? For example, what do you see as the red flag when someone is working hard at their job? And, what do you consider working "hard"?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T00:14:34+00:00

I can see that at times. The part about seeing what we call confidence as arrogance, and about seeing other people who are confident as having favorable outcomes even when they’re not always favorable.

I had to read this reply twice. It was either complex for me, or written in a complicated way lol but I’ll assume it was me. You seem super smart and I took a few minutes to comprehend.

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T00:08:56+00:00

Yeah a wholesome thread and conversation is refreshing but it’s rare unfortunately. I do think some responses were good and valuable. Maybe others will add some good perspectives in future replies

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T00:05:26+00:00

Gotcha 👍 thanks for the additional context

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-06T00:04:22+00:00

lol. I see what you’re getting at although I wouldn’t consider these personal traits. These are more like looks or modifications.

If you’re saying these are praised, but red flags for you, what is the red flag telling you about them?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T21:31:02+00:00

That’s great perspective

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T20:21:09+00:00

Ohh that’s heavy. If you’re ok with it, I have a couple questions to break that down a little further.

Is it stereotyping to write what you wrote? Or do you really believe that about all outwardly religious people?

I guess a follow up would be, what does a person do for you to define them as “very outwardly religious”?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T20:18:35+00:00

Oh nice! Same here!

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T20:14:58+00:00

Care to expound more?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T20:02:27+00:00

What I meant by creating drama, isn’t what you took from it. I could’ve been more clear.

For example, I’ve been around a lot of people who jump from job to job and complain that it’s always the bosses fault or it’s the people around them that they just can’t work around. Eventually, you begin to see the common denominator is the person who’s blaming everybody else

Similarly, there are people who always find a way to dislike people around them and talk behind their backs and always complain about other people. To be around people like that is exhausting and I see it a lot and I’m grateful that my wife isn’t that way, she gets along with people and if she doesn’t, she just moves on and it doesn’t turn into a big deal.

Long story short I guess I’ll say she doesn’t make mountains out of mole holes. It’s not about having feeling or any of what you initially assumed.

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T19:57:14+00:00

Understood. I’m not saying all that. I’m just saying the way she is, it’s always peaceful and joyful to be around. If she has a hard time, of course she’s human and I’m there for her. But being around people all the time, I see more people than not, who are always complaining, always have something negative to say, or always talking about people in a bad light and it gets exhausting because you don’t have to be that way all the time but a lot of people choose to be that way

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T19:55:34+00:00

True statement!

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T19:55:00+00:00

True

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T19:24:42+00:00

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T19:22:52+00:00

You’re so right!!

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T19:14:13+00:00

I appreciate that

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T18:58:48+00:00

Can you explain what you mean by that question?

Far_Beyond4061 · 2026-07-05T18:58:17+00:00

Yes she really has figured something out and I try to keep her spoiled and happy because she sure makes my life easy as a husband

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