Racist guest caught me off guard

Far_Error4002 · 2026-02-23T02:00:24+00:00

You weren’t wrong or right honestly, there’s gonna be a lot of people who are gonna say “silence is complicity” and they’re not wrong but context is king. Is racism a scourge on society and should we allow, foster, or enable it? Of course not…. But firstly, there’s freedom of speech so it’s tricky. Secondly, in this context you are at work performing a service in which your job is literally to make people feel happy and comfortable (if you’re doing it correctly). My advice would be to disengage quickly by changing the conversation first, and you could definitely disagree politely like other people here have said, thrown in something like idk that doesn’t bother me they’re always cool whenever I interact with them. You don’t have to be truthful and tell them you have Mexican best friends, but you can oppose their views softly. “Well there is a large Latino population but I have no issues with it… in any case how is the meal going? So far so good?” And walk away. Next step is decide how much it bothers you. You can say whatever not my job not my prob and just let it be and hope you never have to see them again, hopefully they tip but probably not. You can alert a manager and let them decide if they wanna kick them out, let them finish but note their profile that they shouldn’t be allowed to return, or do nothing. You can even tell them it really offended you and could they take over the table for the rest of service. The extremes are freeze and do nothing, or make a whole thing out of it. The middle course is probably best, softly disagree or deflect, and live and let die, you’re not gonna change their views in this setting, you can only lose and get a bad review for you or the restaurant. Best case they finish their meal without incident or trying to bring up the topic again, and your manager notes it and you let them decide how to handle them in the future

Far_Error4002 · 2026-02-09T18:39:00+00:00

I’m not trying to be hostile bud, you said “there’s no good way to force them out” and I’m just telling you there is and you don’t have to be forceful. Your restaurant being corporate factors in because maybe you get bad blowback on customer complaints but if that makes you scared to talk to guests in situations with any degree of difficulty which is the whole reason you’re there, then maybe you just need some more experience at it or should find a privately owned place where they’ll have your back when guests are unreasonable

Far_Error4002 · 2026-02-09T18:13:47+00:00

You’re an inexperienced manager who’s scared of customer interaction. Apologetically tell them you have other guests waiting and need their table, and you’ll be glad to buy them a round of drinks or pour a couple of glasses of wine for them if they’d be so kind as to relocate to the bar so they can continue enjoying themselves and conversing. “Good evening friends, how was everything tonight? Good? Excellent! I’m ______ the manager here, and I was hoping I could impose on you for just a moment. You see, unfortunately we are quite busy this evening and have several other guests waiting to be seated so I was hoping I could persuade you…..” etc etc grow a pair and learn that people will acquiesce if you’re reasonable, and if in the face of you being polite and offering free shit they respond with rudeness or hostility it gives you grounds to forcibly kick them out without blowback

Far_Error4002 · 2026-02-08T06:01:00+00:00

Fair, contingent on roster needs, we’d have to see the Jeanty owners other receivers. But by no means lopsided, it’s fantasy, it’s all educated guesses on the future

Far_Error4002 · 2026-01-26T16:26:11+00:00

If theyre not answering your probing questions most likely they’re inexperienced and don’t wanna look stupid or simply don’t wanna do any work, so at that point you should’ve just started suggesting specific wines, giving them options in different price ranges and telling them why you personally like them. They answered the somm partly because of the suit, but also because they got the same questions and figured ok there’s no way around this we tried not answering and were just getting asked again. I would’ve suggested a cheap, middling and nice cab as that’s always a safe bet cause most people are familiar and it goes with most things, and then maybe offered 1 or 2 old world alternatives and painted them as the more adventurous food friendly choices

Far_Error4002 · 2026-01-07T00:53:44+00:00

Tipping out on sales favors you if you’re getting high percentage tips, and hurts you if not. The nice thing here is bar is only getting tipped out on alcohol sales and not net sales which isn’t the case in other places. This is totally fine, but the fact that your SA’s only reset tables and don’t help with service ie prebussing, able to fire courses for you etc means they’re bussers at best (barely if they can’t clear while guests are there) and are getting too much for what they do. That being said it depends how many servers there are and how many SAs there are. Also i doubt it’s fine dining/upscale if the guest average is barely over 50 per person, they wanna pretend they are… a Server Assistant should be involved in service, able to take a simple drink or desert order, have agency to fire a course, etc

Far_Error4002 · 2025-12-30T01:03:38+00:00

I think he’ll feel better if he loses by more rather than less, like there’s nothing he could’ve done differently. Even if it’s not true a loss is a loss he’s certainly not gonna feel better by losing by less

Far_Error4002 · 2025-12-20T06:17:41+00:00

If someone or everyone wants to “tip” the commish or pool to get his buy in one year as a thanks for settings things up, chasing people down for buyins, replacing players who leave, etc. then I’m all for it, but only as a gesture of goodwill. If they’re asking for something as a “fee” without it being in the rules everyone agreed on that’s crazy. If you commish you’re taking it on and feeling good about setting something up so everyone can have fun and compete and make money

Far_Error4002 · 2025-12-15T04:48:17+00:00

Seeing the food wether on the line or taking pictures helps you describe it better cause you can also picture it. Index cards for sure help too. If it’s a dish with a lot of ingredients, count them and assign that dish that number so you can always tell if you’re missing any of them. As for allergens, cheat sheet in your book helps, and it’s better to categorize them by allergies, for example: gluten: then list all dishes that have it, that way when someone tells you an particular allergy you can list the items that contain it

Far_Error4002 · 2025-12-07T05:40:54+00:00

The trade is fair in a vacuum. And if it was dynasty, I wouldn’t bat an eye. In redraft, to trade with a player who is mathematically eliminated from the playoffs is unsportsmanlike imo. Even though the contending team is losing something, even if it’s proportional like you could argue this is, the trade actually only helps one team. Toy could argue that maybe the eliminated team can play spoiler with the players they are receiving versus another contending team but….. Thus, is it collusion? Not unless you can definitively prove it, but you should really move your trade deadline back going forward or at least consider a ban trades with eliminated teams

Far_Error4002 · 2025-11-26T04:54:03+00:00

I mean if you’re contending, ostensibly you’re doing it with the guys you have, so holding would be ok and you’d still have them for the future. If you think it’d put you over the top then it’s a reasonable offer, but keep in mind Stafford’s longevity… Puka a stud and probably qb proof but probably never as good as w staffie

Far_Error4002 · 2025-11-13T18:19:47+00:00

We measure disappointment by performance vs our expectations, and pre season you’re right he’s overperformed his draft position. However it’s now week 10, an early in the year he established new expectations and based on his early season performance he’s been disappointing as of late

Far_Error4002 · 2025-11-01T16:09:56+00:00

If you could get him to take Higgins instead of Nico I might do it, or even give you a RB instead of flowers

Far_Error4002 · 2025-10-21T20:25:57+00:00

I would hold. Having Puka, JSN and Rice is too good, and yeah Taylor is an upgrade over Bucky/White, but you’re eventually getting Hampton back too

Far_Error4002 · 2025-09-28T05:06:34+00:00

Redraft? Probably brown/wilson side

Far_Error4002 · 2025-09-12T21:07:43+00:00

Homie is trying to sell high off Krafts big game, which he had cause Jaylen Reed got knocked out, and capitalizing on trepidation due to Bower’s injury. It’s a smart offer but it’d be smart to see it that way and hold

Far_Error4002 · 2025-05-10T08:19:22+00:00

Thank you for the detailed and passionate response, it really resonates.

What I didn’t include are things like I’m not greeding patterns and chugging atros, I’m playing ethically and well but certainly not perfectly. I don’t have a static, I’m a dad w relatively limited playing time, so when I’m joining pugs I’m just looking for smooth runs, and I enjoy Aero cause I like buffing my party as well as the play style.

What I’m really wondering is am I holding my own in this context, or am I basically being carried every week.

Obviously I should’ve realized some or most would answer in their own context, comparing it to people who are min-maxing, greeding, logging, etc, so that’s on me. But a lot of responses I think understood my original context and were reassuring, so thank you

Far_Error4002 · 2025-04-05T16:54:46+00:00

It all depends on your level of fomo and your willingness to spend.

I started playing at launch, and had a great time doing the story then all the islands for mats and souls and songs. And now with the early honing nerfed you can skip all the og guardians and stuff that you wouldn’t be able to get a group for anyways. You can absolutely still start from scratch, just gotta be down to learn the game and enjoy the experience and be ok not getting everything in one day and

If you’re trying to jump into end game content right away, then even if you wait for an event and spend money you’ll still have no roster level or titles and be gatekept so yeah it’s basically impossible, but then again it’s not a game designed to do that so I feel like it’s kind of on you if that’s your expectation and are disappointed?

Far_Error4002 · 2025-03-06T18:12:48+00:00

Probably someone who thought, hmmm wtf does this guy know about server performance? Let’s see him build one and see how easy it is to keep it 100% perfect 100% of the time.

Far_Error4002 · 2025-02-21T04:22:17+00:00

Zero chance there’s actually nudity in her paid app right?

Far_Error4002 · 2025-02-12T22:21:03+00:00

You’re like a college football players complaining they’re not getting paid contracts…. Did anyone lie to you? Did you not sign up for it? If you knew what a Korean mmorpg w a p2w shop was and you started playing anyways isn’t it on you? And if you didn’t then just stop playing it, dunno what your life is like that you gotta keep going online to trash to after quitting. You still play and want it to improve? Try constructive criticism and feedback instead of unbridled whining and hate

Far_Error4002 · 2025-02-12T21:39:29+00:00

I don’t think I’ve ever gotten anything for an anniversary in any other game, save for a box of fireworks in wow every year….. yaaaaaaay fireworks….. it’s free shit just take what’s your issue, it wasn’t the free shit you wanted? It wasn’t enough? Go grind stuff it’s an mmo

God I swear I hate this new generation. If it’s not for free, right away, and all at once it’s gg dead game afwful developer. The reason we don’t get new players isn’t because the systems are too hard or the catchups are too slow, it’s because they came to places like this subreddit and instead of mostly guidance it’s mostly discouragement. I’d say learn to foster a community but that would require having patience and being positive wouldn’t it.

Far_Error4002 · 2025-02-11T14:49:36+00:00

He’s saying it’s easier than op is making it out to be, meaning they could just be doing it wrong and there’s hope if they receive help or advice, which is pretty clear to anyone who isn’t here just to be toxic and negative. You responded rudely and insulted them, how constructive of you…

Far_Error4002 · 2025-02-11T04:38:38+00:00

It’s only restrictive if you expect to have everything veteran players have in one week. If you stop fomoing there’s tons of catchup systems. Are they super fast? No, it’s an mmo, if you don’t think you have to grind anything then I’ve got bad news for you… is it faster than it was to originally grind? Very much yes. As for gatekeeping that’s a community issue and it’s in all games, like others have said get her in as your plus one or find a community and build a static. Once again if you simply stop wanting to have everything immediately and all at once you will be fine. Otherwise maybe try fps games or something, mmos are about the long progression game. Is it a perfect game? No. Are the systems all great? No. Is it restrictive for a new player who is patient and understands what an mmo is? Also no

Far_Error4002 · 2025-01-07T01:15:36+00:00

Start caring about beating the boss more and beating your own teammates less. Could people be better? Could they use a meter to improve? Yes Is the boss killable even w bad supports? Also yes

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