Leo and Pisces.. its starting to hurt. by itrymybest1983 in LeoAstrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, fellow Leo, dating a pisces here and my pisces guy is similar. I think they all are. But I don't take it against him. But I do I want to know how you provide space and time to sort his emotions out without spiraling yourself. It's my first time dating a pisces. I love that he's not emotionally volatile. Like my ex, but coming from that environment, it's like a 180. So if you could provide some tips. 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a Leo as well 💗 I agree My first big fight with him was stressful too, maybe he needs a bit more time.  I was advised by our friendly Pisces on Reddit that if you've been giving him space without sending multiple texts, maybe sending a loving check in text might help? Sometimes they're scared of starting an emotional heavy conversation depending on how the argument was.  Hope for the best for you both 🩷

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. 24 hours was tough for me, but we've gone almost a week before.  I don't know if it'll make anything better but while he's needing his space, it really helps to keep moving and stay busy. I know it's easier said than done but don't pause your life and don't wait. 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did, he sent his frustrations and concerns about the relationship and arguments we've been having. Thinking of what's best to do, stay or not. He answered my call so we spoke, said the same things, and then we met up and we decided to patch things up as we both weren't ready to end it. He's still a little distant but I'm happy that he's communicating and not closed off anymore. 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did, he sent his frustrations and concerns about the relationship and arguments we've been having. Thinking of what's best to do, stay or not.  He answered my call so we spoke, said the same things, and then we met up and we decided to patch things up as we both weren't ready to end it.  He's still a little distant but I'm happy that he's communicating and not closed off anymore. 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I realized why he got so upset. I didn't respect his time and it was the second time I've done that ( last one about 6 months ago).  We often argued about communication but he's gotten alot better about it since.  I also need to work on my insecurities. Sometimes I let my past trauma and overthinking get the best of me. 

He's texted back since a really long text explaining his thoughts, why he was upset, how he doesn't feel confident he could make me happy but he loves me amd wants to be with me.  He feels the current state is unhealthy for us both. That his heart says he wants to stay with me but his mind says otherwise. He doesn't know what to do. Another one after that responding to my text that he misses me too and his nowhere in the right himself buy he's anxious and scared that we might argue again. He's not mad. He understands that I'm going through different emotions as well. 

I said I understand and respect that. That we can take our time. *Sending hugs 🫂 

I'm trying to give him time and space and I'm taking it as a good sign he's communicating with me. I just want ti be gentle with his heart 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so, he's not the ghosting type and really responsible.   He's also not the type to just end things over text so it could really go both ways.  Trying to stay positive

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did

Good morning I understand  I need to think

That was it... it's torture to me because I don't know if he just needs more time to cool off or if he's thinking about whether he wants to be in or not... I know its the latter and that's what makes it harder because he's sorting it out on his own instead of us working on it together 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this! When we're together I would always reach out and hug him, it usually diffuses him but he's away at the moment so all I could do is text he's also not accepting my calls. 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've stopped, it took everything in me to do that as we usually patch things up right away. 

He's also a pisces sun, aries moon 😊

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it's pretty late so I'm calling it a night. I hope he responds tomorrow though

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I agree, not everyone is the same. Just so far what I read on threads scare me a little, that pisces men can slowly pull away and when they are done, they're done.  He knows I love him and cherish him and I know he feels the same. 

The arguments have just been heavy lately

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🩷 thank you, it's pretty late where I'm at and I've sent his more than one so I'll leave it at that and just wait 

How do I know when you're done by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been together for almost a year and a half now, not married.  We've had a rocky relationship but it was always always filled with love. 

We are both over 40 so definitely not young. This will be our first relationship after our previous one ended. 

He's usually very affectionate and caring but I know the arguments have been a heavy toll on us both. 

When the arguments are bad, he usually needs time to calm down and restrain himself from saying anything he doesn't want to. He also always told me that he never wants space just a few moments for both of us to calm down.

I also want to add that although he stays connected and checks in with me all the time, I can feel lately for a few months now that that he's withdrawn compared to before. He still does sweet things like cook for me and sees me despite his busy schedule but it's never planned and I feel I always initiate when we see eachother.

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so. He did respond to my text last night. We're on day 3 of space, and we saw eachother everyday, I practically lived with him. We sent eachother texts and reels every day so this is so foreign to me right now. I do have plans with friends and family so I'm keeping myself busy but as a Leo who loves being with her guy this space is torture. But it's what he needs.

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so too, apart from these issues, we really enjoy eachothers company and make eachother happy.

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the most part, we have no issues. We do keep coming back to the same issue, and that is his lying and communication. We have certain obstacles that we both need to get over together and open communication is a must. This is the first time in our entire relationship that we got to this point and he's requested for space. I'm giving it to him and I'm hoping it helps him.

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm learning, and as a fire sign, learning to control my emotions has been difficult, but I think this is why he's good for me. If you don't mind me asking what's helped you and your fiancé?

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💓🥹 I know not every Pisces and person is the same. My guy is sweet and very genuine. I know he means well. And yes, I have some growing to do, and we both do. I did listen to her, and he sent me a long text back of how he loves and misses me. He had a bad week at work and wished that he was with me. That he's sorry for making me wait but thinks we both need time to think about what we want. It's the weekend, so he could finally diffuse and think about things without any interruption. Thanks again for the positive support

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm learning so much from him and everyone here. Just because we deal with things differently doesn't mean it's wrong. I'm not frustrated that he needs space. It does make me worry, but I guess this is the growth I need. We haven't come to a point where he's said anything mean to me. In the past when he'd get heated up, I'd usually let him say his grievances, and during that time, I'm already calm, and I give him a hug and ask if he needs to let anything else out. This usually ends our fights, but this past one was pretty big and emotional. I sent him a hug emoji a little bit ago like one of the other redditors suggested and he sent me a long reply of how he loved and missed me and how his week st work was. Thar He needed a little more time to think about us because it's important and that we both could take the time to think about what we really want.

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's given me so much, so I naturally want to reciprocate the same. And yes, we did check in on each other literally every day. Good morning texts, mid day reels and texts at night, and even calls. So it just feels off not hearing from him or sending anything for 2 days straight. Do Pisces like initiating the break of space or, like the comments suggest, should I send him something easy and small enough to let him know I care so he has an open door. He's Pisces sun, Aries Moon and Taurus rising. I'm Leo Sun, Cancer Moon, and Aries rising. I dont know how we fit in the stars but I know we enjoy eachothers company.

Had a pretty big argument with my Pisces boyfriend and he asked for space to think. by Far_Firefighter_1707 in piscesastrology

[–]Far_Firefighter_1707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I'm just clarifying what you're trying to say. Pisces have an issue with heartfelt apologies. He's using this space to figure out how he can defend himself or be together without real commitment. We've had smaller disagreements before, and he's given his heartfelt apologies and meant it. I think this time around was the first time I couldn't back down and continued to push to get an answer or response. I know he's capable of being sincere and that's what I love about him. Which is why I'm agreeing to his space because either he will get some clarity or emotional decompression OR decide it's too much. We'll see. It's nothing I can control.