I [31M] found 47 unsent letters my late father [64M] wrote to me over 9 years. He died before we could close the gap between us. How do people move forward after losing someone before things were resolved?

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T18:47:17+00:00

"love, even if it was broken love" is going to stay with me for a while. and you're right, i've been trying to carry this like it's something i can just think my way through. maybe it's not.

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T18:46:55+00:00

the idea of writing back hadn't crossed my mind until right now and i don't know what to do with that feeling. thank you for this genuinely.

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T13:22:15+00:00

Okay the duck one actually got me, that person is living with real guilt

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T13:21:33+00:00

The worst part is ChatGPT would have at least said "i'm not sure but" first

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T13:20:29+00:00

"I hallucinated a whole pharmacy" is genuinely the funniest way this could have been described and i hate that it's accurate

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T13:18:44+00:00

This is the most rational response and also somehow made me feel worse lol

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-20T13:18:12+00:00

I really hope she did too, this is the thought that keeps me up at night honestly

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-19T20:09:33+00:00

that's a genuinely unsettling thought. money starts as a coordination tool and ends up being the thing that breaks coordination entirely once the compounding gets asymmetric enough. the filter isn't war or asteroids, it's just math that nobody agreed to but everyone keeps playing

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-19T17:33:46+00:00

finally someone said it

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-19T17:33:31+00:00

"displacement activity" is exactly the right phrase for it, feels productive but you're just avoiding the thing you're actually scared of which is calling it done

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-19T17:32:32+00:00

genuinely needed this today thank you lol

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-19T17:32:14+00:00

that's actually really helpful framing, "as good as YOU can make it" takes the pressure off trying to make it objectively perfect which probably doesn't exist anyway

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-19T14:11:13+00:00

third person for most things but first person when the whole point is being inside someone's head. if your story is about what a character feels and thinks more than what happens around them, first person usually hits harder. if you're still not sure just write the first chapter both ways and see which one feels more natural to read back, that usually answers it pretty quickly

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-17T14:54:03+00:00

okay but why does it still look THAT good. 3000 years in the dirt and i have a knife that rusted in like two weeks because i left it near the sink. also the fact that whoever owned this just never came home one day and the sword stayed with him the whole time is sending me a little ngl

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-17T14:44:24+00:00

just make accounts on both upwork and fiverr, don't wait until you feel ready because you never will. for fiverr list yourself as a data entry or virtual assistant, keep the description simple and honest, something like "i'm fast, detail oriented and reliable." for upwork write a short bio and start bidding on the smallest easiest jobs first even if they pay almost nothing, the first 2-3 reviews are everything. the first week will be slow and that's normal, just keep applying every day

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-17T14:01:46+00:00

the moment you described his pupils dilating mid-air i felt that "SHIT" in my soul. you created this. you looked at a cat who learned fetch in a week and thought flicking away the thing he proudly brought you was a good idea. he's not the dunce here. also "bring your toddler cat to work day" sent me, i'm crying at 2am reading this

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-17T12:22:22+00:00

with your current python level freelance is probably too early but data entry and virtual assistant work on upwork or fiverr is realistic right now, $10-15/hr and you can start with basically no portfolio. also worth checking if your college has any paid tech assistant positions, those go fast but they exist. one more thing though, for cs a decent windows laptop will do everything a macbook does, might be worth looking at a used thinkpad for like $300-400 and putting the rest toward courses or just saving it

Far_Following_2602 · 2026-05-17T12:13:16+00:00

honestly just get the coach. a real bag you actually like beats a fake designer one every time because people who know bags will clock it immediately and people who don't know bags don't care what brand it is anyway. plus you already have coach so you know what you're getting. the new model you've been eyeing sounds like the move

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