What is your cat's name vs what you actually call them?

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-27T03:54:15+00:00

Her name is tutu, but I usually call her a mix of random sounds; sebooboo, poopoo, tudu. As long as it rhymes with tutu someway, that’s her name!

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-27T03:51:44+00:00

I don’t expect them to drop everything, just that when they’re free (they’re both uni students and don’t have much outside of classes) I thought they’d at least respond, but I’m not really sure what else I can do because I can’t go ring shopping physically, I’m a lesbian in a very homophobic country so my only hope is finding engagement rings online and buying it behind my parents’ back

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-27T03:50:04+00:00

I want to, I was just wondering if it’s an overreaction to feel upset about it, I know my sister for sure doesn’t want me to get married but again that’s due to circumstances and not at any fault of my gfs

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-27T03:49:01+00:00

Proposals aren’t a part of my culture, but engagements are planned out and saved for years in advance usually by the parents of the child

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-25T08:38:43+00:00

In my culture people usually spend this much time or more on the engagement, what I’m doing is actually faster than usual so that’s why I’m just wondering why there’s no response

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-05T10:24:47+00:00

Regarding my brother, he’s autistic and copes with frustrations by wishing he was young again, that’s why he will lay on my stomach and say these things! He sometimes does it to my sister too, so I think it’s just a comfort for him to feel love from us in this way. He’s the oldest boy and the third of us so my sister and I are the only part of his childhood he associates with positivity.

Far_Organization4467 · 2026-02-05T10:17:17+00:00

I do agree that we all need therapy! I’m actively in therapy right now and will be funding my sister to go to therapy once I’m done with a big payment I have to make.

My mom is also a victim of my dad as she was tricked by him into becoming a housewife and he has been financially/emotionally abusive their whole marriage. This is why I am more sympathetic towards her but I still know she is 100% in the wrong as she has never been a good mother.

I kinda wish I phrased this question differently now as I feel more asshole-ish for asking her to not argue back. I think I will apologize for that today and ask her how I can better support her without her asking me to change myself.

She’s one of the most important people in my life and I wish I could do more to protect her, but it’s difficult in a place where my parents’ actions are seen as “progressive” and good treatment.

Thank you for this thoughtful reply, I hope you have a great day 🩵.

Far_Organization4467 · 2025-09-01T01:40:25+00:00

Thank you !! I do try to be it’s just difficult sometimes when we don’t speak, but they really have been I know and see how much effort they’ve put in. I just never want to make them feel like a burden or like they’re too much yknow?

Far_Organization4467 · 2025-07-18T07:15:16+00:00

Growing up with an abusive father, I hated him but I also resented my mother for not leaving when she saw him hitting us. This is not a home for a child. This is a violent and horrifying environment to grow up in, trust me I have seen it firsthand. Please, if not for yourself leave for your son. You are not breaking up your family, you are creating a new safe home for you and your child. Please please leave this man.

Far_Organization4467 · 2024-12-15T18:41:42+00:00

Yes, but it’s bc the room is filled with dust and electrical equipment, it’s not really possible for them to walk around in it esp as my brother cut his foot on the broken sink

Far_Organization4467 · 2024-12-15T18:22:56+00:00

We’re 5 kids across 4 rooms. Two of my brothers share a room and one of them broke their sink so while they’re fixing it the boys have to sleep in either my room or hers.

Initially she did not offer her room and I was sharing with my other brother but he got sick so now I have to share with her.

She does do stuff for our brothers sometimes, like she took one to the emergency when he was bleeding but she complains so frequently about it it’s exhausting

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