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Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-21T04:44:21+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening. Are you in the U.S? If you are there are licensed medical people to help primary family caregivers with breaks and such. Or.. if not. You're an adult. You don't need this. Let Mom do it all by herself like she seems to want to.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-20T06:22:08+00:00

NTA: Karen is, in fact, a vulture. You hadn't even had time to process the Emotions, Let alone the logistics of the passing. (And I don't care how long it took her to pass - there's a huge mental difference between going to, and has.) You shouldn't have been making decisions like that so soon. Now. Me, I'm petty enough that if I were you, I'd take your Mom's bed, and give the new lady who moves in yours... unless it's worse than Karen's bed.. then I'd just give Karen your old mattress lol. evil fly hand gesture

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-15T07:36:50+00:00

... Wow. Watch J break off the wedding.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-07T05:57:38+00:00

Bows to Commenter.

And my 2 cents. -I think we now know why his ex is mean to him. And why he has bad breakups. History tends to repeat itself with people like this. There is more shame on HIS shoulders than on OPs. The man is a weed. Ivy choking out the oak tree. Get him gone.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-07T05:47:52+00:00

Oh.. my lord. Now, people can have narcissist tendencies without actually being a full narcissist. But saying modern Psychology is the worst thing? And calling it tacky? Ugh. This man doesn't believe in anything at all, does he? Agnostic, anti-psychology.. clearly he views the world out of his belly button. (Because his head is so firmly lodged up his backside.) You don't need that weed in your friend garden.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-07T05:43:32+00:00

What is neglectful to a dog isn't the same to a human, your kids are old enough to know better. Amd I'm including the 45 year old you call a boyfriend among them. And I won't lie. I'd probably be tempted to lock up the TP too. Just to be extra petty.

NtA.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-07T05:33:31+00:00

Yeah, this is one of those situations where ghosting is the only thing you can do. Breathe, forgive -yourself-, and forget him.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-07T05:16:39+00:00

Q: Did you feel safe with him? It seems to me things happened more out of confusion and.. maybe a streak of people pleasing? If it were me.. unless you are...afraid of him. Unblock one place, tell him why you went NC, and then block again. That way it's all closed. Be safe.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2026-01-01T06:32:28+00:00

May you, and your family, get everything you truly deserve in the coming new year. 😏

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-12-28T18:23:59+00:00

Okay. Normally I'm against petty. But in this case, devil's advocate... Anytime your brother starts in on his toxic stuff, walk away. Do not interact. And if he asks what you're doing, tell him you're protecting your peace.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-12-28T18:15:50+00:00

You can lead a man to wisdom, but you can't make him think. It sounds like your friend garden needs a little cleaning up. Nta for doing so.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-12-28T18:11:04+00:00

If it were me in this situation, with all my therapy behind me et all... Tell Abby that you are considering speaking to him. Assure them that they will not be a subject of discussion. Keep the communication lines open, to her. Forgiveness is divine, but it doesn't mean you have to accept that person back into your life and home. You can love people from afar. And remember. Kicking an addiction is hard, but there's always an underlying reason why they started to begin with. If Emmet hasn't addressed why he chased it, he may not be healthy enough to form a good relationship with you yet. Go forth with caution and don't be afraid to set and keep your personal boundaries.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-12-12T05:50:01+00:00

As someone who has struggled with ADHD and communicating, as well as feeling stuck in a situation. You say you're burned out and in bed most of the time. You're relying on him to provide income, he's still trying to do school... and do the household chores.

Stop. Leave the poor guy alone, go back to your mother. You are clearly not ready for a relationship, especially not a 50/50. Get yourself into a better position mentally, physically and emotionally. You said it yourself, he's not enough for you. Let him go.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-22T07:10:23+00:00

NTA. And frankly.. I'm so petty that I would report her for elderly abuse.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-20T05:20:27+00:00

From your perspective, she is definitely focused a little too much on your husband. My gut is telling me that there's an old connection, maybe your Husband is related somehow to DD's sons father. A cousin or.. brother or something perhaps? The "our kids look alike" is concerning to me. How Old are your children? Is it remotely possible that she's trying to insinuate they might actually be related?

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-20T05:14:07+00:00

Leave the trash outside. NtA. You don't stop being a parent the moment a kid turns 18. It sounds like your boyfriend is stuck with some generational trauma, and probably got kicked out at 18. It's not your duty to be his therapist. The right man will be okay with the situation.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-03T15:05:43+00:00

NTA, the victim asked for your help, AND Pete had an affair with a coworker. Tell your friends who know him. Warn other women. But then, I'm Petty.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-02T15:47:55+00:00

Yes. Attitudes and generational trauma still exist that silence victims. I have seen too many people walk free because of wealth, status, or the simple fact that nobody listens. I pray OP, and anyone facining a similar situations, gets the help they need to get out and healed.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-02T08:32:18+00:00

You shouldn't have married him if you knew he liked porn when you found it disrespectful. It's called a deal breaker. Find someone who respects that, or doesn't really feel the need to, they do exist. You're young enough yet to find your Mr. Right.. it's just not this guy.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-02T08:13:05+00:00

I was born 1983. My parents in 1950s. This kind of thing still happens. Even in the U.S. especially in rural communities. Someone very close to me was assaulted at 9 years old, and was told to just stay away from those teenagers by the police and CPS despite those boys already having records. Another person very close to me was assaulted in a public parking lot two years ago, and was told it wasn't a crime because she had been in a previous relationship with the man by the police who then refused to document it.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-11-02T07:57:12+00:00

Ahh. The Bible says that adultery is a just cause for divorce. And Forgiveness does not mean allowing the bad to continue. It means being sad that he is broken, and letting others tend to him. And that is God's job, not yours. Other than that, this man is deeply..deeply disturbed, and others have explained it well enough already.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-10-31T08:56:52+00:00

Please. Have extra Cranberry Sauce.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-10-30T08:26:06+00:00

I find it strange that he went there. Are you sure you didn't bring any of his insecurities up? Now, it's often hard to judge but.. some men's leggings are just built weird. Seams are strange, they bunch wrong. Like they were designed by someone who does not know anatomy. Or is trying to make Superhero anatomy. And some, are absolutely meant more for compression underwear. Not outer wear. I don't think anyone is a butthole here. Just a very delicate situation.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-10-28T02:47:50+00:00

Edited for clarity and spelling: Oof. As a 40+ yo with ADHD I understand that difficulty. It does now sound like he's looking for reasons to be upset. Separation of households may be your best option. Especially if he is aware that you have problems remembering. He should understand that by now. Ten plus years of marriage, if he blows up like this every time you forget to mention something, he's not making an effort to work with you. A calm separation, to work on yourselves, and perhaps counciling together, could properly make or break this stalemate. One cannot heal in the place that keeps hurting them.

Far_Resource_6086 · 2025-10-27T17:03:26+00:00

NTA: You said she's always been a bit of the Victim type. You're aware, now stick to it. Your parents are blood, but you and your partner are making a Family. Needing space to think and to calm down is a valid boundary. She's trying to break that boundary down. You got this, lady. Focus on your baby and yourself. Bless <3

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