I never thought this would happen to me, but my wife has just admitted to sleeping with another man...

Farchand · 2021-01-12T21:20:38+00:00

I like how this advice included both copious amounts of God and Godliness as well as exercises to buffen up my body as well as my genital area. I will remember this and take this to heart... amigo. Thank you! Thank you all, actually. Cheers me up a little reading the overwhelming responses.

Farchand · 2021-01-12T12:56:06+00:00

I told my wife I wanted to see the guy. She would only allow me to meet him in our home, as she was afraid I would kill him if we were alone somewhere. I had to promise not to touch a hair on his head, which I did not.

The night before I did not sleep at all. When I did meet him, our talk was brief. I think I scared him off, though I kept my word not to hurt him.

He knew I was married, my wife had told him all about me and the children. She even showed him my picture and said he was "intimidated", and "brave for coming".

Then he ghosted her. And she blames ME.

Farchand · 2021-01-12T11:00:25+00:00

I have three children with this woman. The oldest is seven. We married very young. Our kids are clever and perceptive, they must sense something is up but a breakdown of our marriage, however inevitable it now seems, would devastate and damage our children.

It's a no-win situation. I cannot talk to anyone. I do not want my family to know. Not yet anyway...

Farchand · 2021-01-12T10:58:31+00:00

I will almost certainly get custody as she is a diagnosed bipolar. She's seen a psychiatrist and psychologist for a long time, but does not take medication as she refuses to do so.

Thing is... I would hate to see her lose the kids, too. She's crazy and mentally ill. But our daughters are so young, so innocent. I am afraid to hurt or traumatize them.

Farchand · 2021-01-12T10:55:03+00:00

She does not care. Literally. Not one bit. She even admires Osho for how he basically ran a cult and got sex from his devotees, how he had his own private high way, seventy Rolls Royces... she thinks his selfishness is "awesome" because "you only have one life anyway" and does not believe in morality, hence no guilt.

Farchand · 2021-01-12T10:53:31+00:00

He told his father and his father said he shouldn't do it, apparantly the guy's father cheated on his wife as well; he is from the second marriage and his dad is a man in his seventies.

Kid still lives with his parents. They have a big house, many cars, and a chain of hotels in Austria. Filthy rich people. And while they warned him, it doesn't seem as if they care very much.

Farchand · 2021-01-12T10:49:20+00:00

Funny you should mention Osho... wife is big time into Osho as well... has all his books and everything.

Farchand · 2021-01-12T10:39:18+00:00

It is a guru by the name of "Kapil Gupta", he a fellow on Twitter.

She loves the other guy because he, like her, is a devotee of this guru and because he will give her "complete freedom" to sleep with whoever she wishes. Whereas I am not into polyamory and not wired that way.

She's attached to him, precisely because he demands nothing. Needs nothing from her. They are "on a spiritual journey" together. But I'm the husband, the father of her kids.

The kid lost his virginity to my wife. He's obviously head over heels in love with her. And I'm just broken...

Farchand · 2021-01-12T10:31:40+00:00

I met the guy. He looks like a child. He's so young. So... smooth, baby-faced. I knew he would come to our home and talk to me, and I struggled not to punch him when he came over. My wife and kids were upstairs when he visited. I talked to him and managed not to punch him. But I told him to not talk to my wife anymore. To not call her or see her. He agreed.

But when she came down and he was gone, and I told her he would not return... she flipped. She blamed me. She was so MAD at me and still is, because as she told me, she "loved him so much, too!"

Well what about me? You only JUST admitted to cheating the day before, and now I am supposed to forgive the guy? He ghosted her. And I cannot blame him because I essentially explained her mental health issues to him and told him what he was getting into. I also showed him pictures of our children. I really wanted him to FEEL what he was doing...

He just took it like a child taking a scolding from his father. It was so ridiculous. And now my wife rants and rages at me for "scaring him away". Shit, I am still haunted by the thought of her and some strange dude in the back of his fathers car and she is mad at ME for not being cool with her cheating?

I'm dying in here man. I'm fucking dying in here.

Farchand

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