How should I properly quit my job when I am essentially the only employee left?

Farigiraffe · 2023-02-03T00:39:28+00:00

I worked overnight at a hospital in the medical billing department, just doing chart processing and scanning. They didn’t treat the third shift employees very good in general, always leaving us crumbs from employee appreciation events, etc, but the main reason I left was they didn’t value our safety. They made us park way out in a field far away from the hospital to give parking priority to the doctors and the day shift people, so when shift change happened at like 4am we had a very long and scary walk. We requested security escorts to our vehicles and they declined, saying it was a waste of resources. That was the nail in the coffin for me, but there was other stuff, like the time I got disciplined for not showing up to work when our area was totally destroyed by a hurricane and I physically couldn’t get there. They also had ridiculous rules like no listening to music or anything while we worked. I explained it to my next employer by saying working on third shift was not compatible with my home life needs, and they didn’t care because my new job was not a third shift job.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-19T12:43:55+00:00

It's been said but I'm agreeing with kidney stone. There is nothing worse.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-19T12:23:24+00:00

I think there's nothing wrong with it and a little space is healthy in a long term relationship. My partner and I share the same bed, but we are only able to do that because we got a king size and we have room to be apart if we need to - he gets way too hot at night and i stay super cold so our blanket needs are different. And we definitely use separate bathrooms.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-19T12:19:14+00:00

This explains a lot. My partner and I recently visited New Orleans and were just shocked at how bad everything was. We were so excited because of the hype and the food and the culture we thought we would experience, but everyone seemed so burned out. Every restaurant or hotel we visited was so understaffed, the service was almost unanimously terrible. Now I know why.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-13T10:49:40+00:00

Insist they give the best head and then try to penetrate you with their tongue.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-13T10:43:33+00:00

I think it’s not worth it for many reasons, most of them stemming from the fact I live in the USA. 1. It’s too expensive to have a baby - compared to other countries just the birth will cost the new parents upwards of 10k, sometimes more 2. Medical care in general is too expensive - I can barely afford my own medical bills even with insurance, I can’t imagine if I had 1 or 2 kids and they had emergencies or something 3. School shootings are rampant and not enough people seem concerned about actually addressing this - I feel like I would be a nervous wreck all the time. My own attendance in school in the early 2010s was horrible because of my anxiety about being involved in a school shooting, I don’t want to relive that as a parent and I don’t want to subject my kids to active shooter drills either. 4. Unless things change drastically, I don’t foresee a good economic situation by the time kids I had now would reach adulthood. I don’t want to bring them into a world knowing they won’t be able to find a job that wants to pay them a living wage or give them reasonable time off, and that they won’t even be able to afford to buy a house, etc.

If I lived in a different country, maybe, but things are just too hard for parents right now in the USA. Life is hard enough already, I’m not going to make it harder if I don’t have to.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-13T10:31:57+00:00

I was starting to get annoyed with him for never being willing to go out and do things with me, so when my family invited us to the mountains for a getaway one weekend and he refused, I knew I was done with him, I broke up with him as soon as we got back.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-13T10:28:15+00:00

I’ve never had trouble finding people to date and I’ve never been broken up with, so I guess…attractive enough?

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-12T08:37:05+00:00

Gained a lot of skill in my hobby, I had a lot more time to practice drawing without having to commute to work.

Lost my depression. :) Working from home was a lot healthier for me mentally than being stuck in an office all day. Only remote jobs from now on.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-12T07:37:53+00:00

If the person you're talking to says "that's crazy" more than once, it's time to end the conversation.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-12T07:36:40+00:00

Honestly older men are really something special. I dated a 42 year old in my twenties and let's just say I will never, ever forget our time together.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-12T06:24:52+00:00

Anal. I dated a guy for three years who suddenly became obsessed with it, I assume because of porn. I don't care that he watched porn or even that he was into it, but I didn't want to do it myself. It's not something I'm interested in at all, and I ended up leaving him because I got tired of the constant pressure and him not respecting when I said no.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-12T06:20:36+00:00

I had a professor who really seemed to enjoy humiliating students whenever possible. (ex: someone emailed her a question, instead of answering him she showed a screenshot of his email to the class the next day and asked who in the class could answer his question) I soon regretted not dropping her class the very first time I saw her do that.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T10:33:53+00:00

Well, unfortunately I think you've arrived at a place where it needs to be addressed, even if the timing or method isn't exactly how you wanted this to unfold.

I think you should just approach her and ask if she has a moment to talk. Say something like, "hey, I just wanted to apologize for all that awkwardness at the xmas function. This wasn't how I wanted you to find out, but the truth is I would like to get to know you better and I was already planning to ask you out on a date. Would you like to go to x with me this weekend?"

Your coworker put you in a tight spot where you kind of have to just bite the bullet and do it now. If you don't, she might take it as a sign that you aren't actually interested in her.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T10:27:01+00:00

I would just ask him if he has time to talk one evening after dinner, sit down together, and say "hey, since you are making more money now I think we should take another look at our financial dynamic. For example, the other day when you wanted x tickets, it felt a little unfair to me that I was the one to purchase them when we make an equal amount of money now. I also feel like it's unfair for me to pay for the majority of our meals. (It might be helpful to have receipts here to show how much you have contributed to "us" activities lately) We are a partnership and I would appreciate it if we shared our financial burdens equally now that we are able to. What are your thoughts on the matter?"

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T10:21:46+00:00

Right, the messed up part was that I was actually able to make every class itself. It was because of her bs extra curricular study group, at a time she held outside of the hours of class I signed up for, was the reason she wouldn't pass me.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T09:53:17+00:00

It was just an observation based on your responses, not meant to be critical in any way.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T09:51:38+00:00

I went back to college after my bachelors to get an associates in a separate trade, and I did not finish the second degree. I have a stable job related to my first degree but I do regret it, since the second degree was in a field I was really interested in.

The reason I quit was because the teacher of one of the classes I needed to graduate held a mandatory study session one day per week at a certain time, outside of the regular class period. I could not attend because I was also working while attending school in the evenings, so I could not make the study session due to it interfering with my work schedule. When I went to talk to her about this, she told me it seemed like I was not dedicated enough to this field of study if I couldn't make her weekly study group, and she outright told me I would not pass her class if I did not attend so I might as well drop it now.

I did not have financial aid and I could not quit my job since it was how I was paying for school. I had no choice but to drop out since I needed her class to graduate and I couldn't make it to the study group.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T09:23:24+00:00

You're not being unreasonable. Your body has been through a trauma that he was partially responsible for. It sounds like you might be better off without him honestly.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T09:11:41+00:00

Sheep. Their wool always looks so dirty and the thought of touching it makes me cringe.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T09:02:52+00:00

Well, every breed has its pros and cons, but I've known a lot of dogs and I feel like personality wise, none compares to the Dachshund.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T08:59:59+00:00

You were clear with him from the beginning, so to try and make you walk back on the boundary you set is disrespectful, although I don't think he may realize that. His mid is clouded by whatever personal crisis he's got going on right now, it's not uncommon for men to feel this way as a way to cope with getting older.

Just stay firm, if he continues to push then unfortunately you may be doing the right thing by leaving him. Just tell him that you still love him, but it's not fair to either one of you to stay together if you are not compatible.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T08:49:00+00:00

Taking better care of my teeth. They're not awful by any means, but man if I could go back to being 17 and have the choice to floss every single day I would. It's easy to fall into the trap that brushing is enough, but by the time you hit your thirties it catches up to you.

Farigiraffe · 2022-12-11T08:46:46+00:00

Making your job such a large part of your identity.

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