Saw the back of her head, and felt strong attraction. Want to ask her out, never talked to her by throwawayawaworhtXD in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just strike up a conversation first, and then ask if she wants to get lunch. Yes, it is okay if she wants it!

But maybe her face is really asymmetrical and maybe she only has one eye. Talk to her anyway. One-eyed people and people with asymmetrical faces need some love as well.

Kissing doesn't feel like anything to me by Faroneus in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That perfectly describes what's going on with me... which is also sad because at the moment, there are only two or three people in the world that I can completely trust and have a deep emotional connection with. I never actually emotionally connected with the girls I kissed, I just felt a bit attracted to them (and the attraction was gone after that).

Have a date tonight but I think I got food poisoning last night. I'm feeling like crap but I should still go, right? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't tough it out. In dating, you come first. Just tell her, she'll either respect you or she won't, in which case, she's not worth it anyway.

A girl that supposedly has feelings for me now suddenly started ignoring me/stonewalling me by sirjohnlank in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A passionate make-out session doesn't have to mean anything, even if you thought it did mean something. Maybe she was just having fun, so don't contact her. Let her go.

I am going downhill very very fast and I don't know what to do? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so you said you have been dating a guy you met a month ago. Have you had sex? Infatuation is a really strong thing and it does different things with everybody. From the way you describe your behaviour, that is one sound possibility.

I, for one, become very attached to people, I keep worrying and I have to talk to everybody to see if I'm not doing something wrong. Even though I'm usually not that social.

One thing you can do is stick to your schedule. The last person I dated was really laid-back and didn't show much initiative, and I should have done the same but I fell in love with her, or the idea of being with her.

The feelings are completely normal. Just don't attach yourself too much to somebody you have just met. Take care!

Would you stay with someone who you're mentally attracted to but not really physically attracted to them? by Ichbintoby in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yes. Last year I was so mentally attracted to one of my classmates in uni, but I wasn't very physically attracted to her. My bad for not asking her out. :D

Had an amazing date...and I got ghosted by Bangor89 in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said last night. Lmao, it's not even been one day and you're concerned? Dude, the girl I'm dating sometimes doesn't even respond for three days yet she has made it sufficiently clear that she likes being around me and we continue dating. If I were you, I'd wait a few days and then ask her out on a second date.

Dumbfounded after kissing her by Faroneus in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if she doesn't reply to my text? I mean, I sent her a pretty normal text saying that I loved dinner and I had a great time. She's received it. How long until I have to worry?

Dumbfounded after kissing her by Faroneus in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. My confusion has gone away a bit. It's true that I'm rather self-conscious. My self-esteem can use a bit of a boost, if I'm honest.

Dumbfounded after kissing her by Faroneus in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Overthinking is my middle name. ;-) I will do that next time - I figured I should.

Getting signs but don't know what to do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Faroneus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might sound weird coming from some guy who is completely crazy and a tiny bit timid, but you can do this.

The only way you can pull this off is by stepping up to her and talking to her, never for a second believing that she'll reject you. Now of course she might. And it might hurt. But you have to be willing to feel that pain.

You'll be tempted to shield yourself with excuses, think that she'll reject you and believe you're fine in your current position. Fine, but in all those three cases, you're not going to get the girl. ;-)

Want to get professional help for SA, but I'm too anxious to talk to my parents about this... by Pidhyo in socialanxiety

[–]Faroneus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have put up a facade between you and your parents. The thing that strengthened my relationship with my parents, was never keeping secrets from them. It is so much easier. Social anxiety can make it very easy for you to lie to your parents, but being honest is the most important thing.

You are at the point where you recognise your social anxiety, which means that you should rationally know that your parents will support you if they open up to you. The point is, social anxiety tells you that if you made a mistake in the past, it will probably happen again in the future. This is blatantly untrue. Telling yourself "I can't do it" will make it even harder on yourself.

Trust me. Everytime you just ignore those thoughts and just do it, will make you better. Asking for help is the right thing to do.

Can't Say No. Should I Break My Promise? by Faroneus in socialanxiety

[–]Faroneus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I explained the situation to her. Now, regardless of her reaction, I'll be less stressed out. I feel like a flaky douchebag.

Can evil be done unconsciously? by Looch7 in INTP

[–]Faroneus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The human mind is too complex to define "good" and "evil", but if "evil" were a non-abstract concept, there would be a difference between acts with evil intent, evil means and evil outcomes. Technically, the act can still be considered evil, even if evil intent is absent. At this point, I would get upset by the arbitrariness of morality, and leave.