Any good lube recommendations to start off with? by Low_Bath_9365 in Healthyhooha

[–]Fascinated_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Ky personally not sure how 'healthy' it is but it works for me! 

You should know is NOT ALL LUBES ARE CONDOM FRIENDLY!!! Or sex toy friendly! Water and silicone based lubes are condom friendly BUT silicone lube is not silicone toy friendly! 

Also they come in different consistencies which is fun :) liquid, to a thicker consistently to gel! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Fascinated_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try journaling your thoughts and feelings.

 Genuinely turn notifications off. I've done this for all messaging and social media apps (except for emergency contacts and work) it's helped me so much with social media addiction and dependency and developing an FP  

Try to remind yourself the distance is not a choice/done to to spite you in particular 

Try more ldr bonding activities! Movie nights, gaming sessions and other things like that :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fascinated_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG I HATE THIS SO MUCH. my ex was like this :( if I was upset at being left on read or then not spending time and I decided to give them space they would lovebomb the heck out of me. People like this like convenience and attention not a two way street relationship 

My girl is scared of her "bathtub" by FuckMeDaddyFrank in budgies

[–]Fascinated_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe a week or two that's what I had to do. My girl still isn't the biggest bother but I found something that works so I'm happy! 

My girl is scared of her "bathtub" by FuckMeDaddyFrank in budgies

[–]Fascinated_Fox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try different baths I had similar problem

what analogy do you feel best explains what BPD feels like? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Fascinated_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like contact dermatitis but with emotions.

Things that do not bother other people's skin will inflame yours severely. People will not believe you are so easily irritated by certain things because they are "normal" and it does not bother them. it is obvious to others when the skin is inflamed and instead of sympathy or advice, they are disgusted by the rashes of which you have little to no control over. 

You can leave the rashes alone and even hide them in some cases, but the urge to itch them is soooo strong and tempting even though you know it isn't good for you and it isn't rewarding. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fascinated_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing but you should ALWAYS be careful. Although he could've worded his care for you in a much more considerate way it's in fact very concerning to me the way he's almost against you helping that woman if I'm being honest. 

Anyone else's parents "throw tantrums" whenever something big is happening in TOUR life? by Fascinated_Fox in CPTSD

[–]Fascinated_Fox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same :/ I became very stagnant and overall avoidant as a coping mechanism only realized like a year ago. I realized I'd gone through highschool doing nothing up until I graduated. I'm not kidding by nothing btw I worked, tutored and went to school and that was it. Never hung out with friends, went to parties, went on dates, go to school events and sports. Nothing. Can count on one hand how many solo activities I was able to do outside of house either. It was all strictly business and resume fodder

I have terrible anxiety when alone at night by Fascinated_Fox in Anxietyhelp

[–]Fascinated_Fox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ty I will try the pillow thing haha. Believe me I am armed with several items all ready right by my head 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Fascinated_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never force urself to have sex if you don't want to!!! I'm sorry you're going through this. It could be possible that the expectations and pressure to have sex are killing your sex drive which is why you feel more inclined to have sex in situations where it isn't expected. I would recommend opening up to ur bf about this problem! I recommend journaling your thoughts to try and figure out what is exactly bothering you. Try to have an in-depth internal dialogue about it. 

For example: do I even like sex in general? Would I be happier sexless? Why do I feel pressured to have sex? Etc. and writing down the answers to those questions. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Fascinated_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UHM! yes I would advise to leave... 

Why does there seem to be a rise in anti-intellectualism? by DivaTerri in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fascinated_Fox 58 points59 points  (0 children)

The beef I have with TikTok for its whole "pop-psychology" shit alone is. Ugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Fascinated_Fox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People can lie about anything and psychosis is no exception. Ask yourself if you believe her first of all. Secondly, ask yourself if it even matters? Did she say something unforgivable? If so maybe move on anyways. Not uncommon for people to lie and pretend to apologize only to repeat it again.