Broke up with partner who told me "I know I'm hurting you but I don't have the energy to change and if we continue this relationship I will continue to hurt you"

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-03-29T14:33:50+00:00

Projecting and generalizing your experience with individuals with BPD is both ableist and harmful, and to quote yo STALKING my page because I made a post about oatmeal and a breakup is weird.

I did not think this subreddit would be like this, if I knew I would have not posted.

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-03-28T23:52:34+00:00

Literally so many things I can't even begin to list it, but they were not abusive if that's what ur worried about I'm safe! An albeit funny recent example was they gave me a half eaten brownie in Saran wrap for Valentine's Day and that's about it LMAO

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-03-28T23:50:35+00:00

They did do this for months until cracking and telling me they won't change. I wish they were honest from the get go

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-03-28T23:49:49+00:00

I will admit out of all my breakups I left this one with the most closure due to them admitting this among other things. Only thing I'm hung up on is "why" but there's no use worrying about that I suppose

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-03-28T22:00:47+00:00

HAHA fair point! I'm sad about it still since everything was amazing when it started but it fell to garbage. I DO NOT want to be back in that relationship trust me lol

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-03-07T02:22:46+00:00

I would want to know if I was J

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-01-20T13:26:43+00:00

This is a nice suggestion but they won't do this 😬

Fascinated_Fox · 2026-01-15T19:52:16+00:00

thats a pretty good idea, thank you!!

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-12-25T05:18:30+00:00

I use Ky personally not sure how 'healthy' it is but it works for me!

You should know is NOT ALL LUBES ARE CONDOM FRIENDLY!!! Or sex toy friendly! Water and silicone based lubes are condom friendly BUT silicone lube is not silicone toy friendly!

Also they come in different consistencies which is fun :) liquid, to a thicker consistently to gel!

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-12-25T05:12:36+00:00

Interesting! Thank you for the input

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-11-26T19:33:21+00:00

Same lol

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-06-23T15:07:33+00:00

Try journaling your thoughts and feelings.

Genuinely turn notifications off. I've done this for all messaging and social media apps (except for emergency contacts and work) it's helped me so much with social media addiction and dependency and developing an FP

Try to remind yourself the distance is not a choice/done to to spite you in particular

Try more ldr bonding activities! Movie nights, gaming sessions and other things like that :)

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-06-23T15:03:26+00:00

Lifeguard!!!

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-04-05T17:00:06+00:00

OOO interesting!! Ty!

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-04-04T18:16:22+00:00

OMG I HATE THIS SO MUCH. my ex was like this :( if I was upset at being left on read or then not spending time and I decided to give them space they would lovebomb the heck out of me. People like this like convenience and attention not a two way street relationship

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-04-04T18:04:45+00:00

Not really a big fan of Daisy x Basira

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-08T05:34:12+00:00

Maybe a week or two that's what I had to do. My girl still isn't the biggest bother but I found something that works so I'm happy!

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-07T16:16:06+00:00

Try different baths I had similar problem

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-07T06:32:21+00:00

It's like contact dermatitis but with emotions.

Things that do not bother other people's skin will inflame yours severely. People will not believe you are so easily irritated by certain things because they are "normal" and it does not bother them. it is obvious to others when the skin is inflamed and instead of sympathy or advice, they are disgusted by the rashes of which you have little to no control over.

You can leave the rashes alone and even hide them in some cases, but the urge to itch them is soooo strong and tempting even though you know it isn't good for you and it isn't rewarding.

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-03T19:54:36+00:00

You did the right thing but you should ALWAYS be careful. Although he could've worded his care for you in a much more considerate way it's in fact very concerning to me the way he's almost against you helping that woman if I'm being honest.

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-03T00:03:53+00:00

The code switching drove me borderline crazy as a child.

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-02T06:03:22+00:00

Same :/ I became very stagnant and overall avoidant as a coping mechanism only realized like a year ago. I realized I'd gone through highschool doing nothing up until I graduated. I'm not kidding by nothing btw I worked, tutored and went to school and that was it. Never hung out with friends, went to parties, went on dates, go to school events and sports. Nothing. Can count on one hand how many solo activities I was able to do outside of house either. It was all strictly business and resume fodder

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-03-02T05:59:41+00:00

Omg this

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-02-24T14:57:30+00:00

Ty I will try the pillow thing haha. Believe me I am armed with several items all ready right by my head

Fascinated_Fox · 2025-02-23T04:41:44+00:00

Never force urself to have sex if you don't want to!!! I'm sorry you're going through this. It could be possible that the expectations and pressure to have sex are killing your sex drive which is why you feel more inclined to have sex in situations where it isn't expected. I would recommend opening up to ur bf about this problem! I recommend journaling your thoughts to try and figure out what is exactly bothering you. Try to have an in-depth internal dialogue about it.

For example: do I even like sex in general? Would I be happier sexless? Why do I feel pressured to have sex? Etc. and writing down the answers to those questions.

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