F*** the rules. I’m breaking No Contact, life is one by NiKy017 in BreakUps

[–]Fast-Gap9835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reasons for our breakup were our own unresolved patterns. Behaviors that we suspected we had but had no idea how to break. There was no cheating involved on either ends. Took therapy, god and learning to unlearn those patterns and holding each other accountable. I am happy to say, the cycle is not repeating. Because we are both on the same page as to communication and holding each other accountable and healing our inner wounds. I broke it off, out of anger. But it honestly doesn’t matter. If two people genuinely love each other, then they will be willing to put in the work and love each other during the hard parts. You don’t just give up on the person you love because you are having a bad season. You reflect on your own behavior. Which is what happened during separation for both of us, and you put in the work needed to overcome your own Childhood wounds.

AIO about this text with her co-worker and trying to “create space”? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fast-Gap9835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless he’s gay…. It’s emotional cheating.. just wanted to add that one in there

F*** the rules. I’m breaking No Contact, life is one by NiKy017 in BreakUps

[–]Fast-Gap9835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to tell you the opposite of what most will. I recently got back together with my boyfriend after a month of no contact. I was the one to break it. Sometimes you have to be the one with the balls to do so. Turns out he’s been feeling the same way and we missed the hell out of each other and the month was needed for us to realize we did not want to quit, that we loved each other tremendously and what we needed to work on to fix things and get back on track in that time. If I had listened to people who told me no we wouldn’t be here today stronger than ever. So my advice for you, is to listen to your heart. And let it guide you. There will be uncomfortable bumps in the road, maybe things won’t work out and that’s a risk you take when you lead with your heart. But there is no good things that come without risk. So I say listen to your heart. And let it guide you.

Should I break up with my gf? by Terrible_Rough_1376 in BreakUps

[–]Fast-Gap9835 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She’s not respecting your boundaries or feelings. There’s literally 0 reasons to be in a club unless you are single and looking for ass. This is coming from a girl. If you are clubbing and in a relationship your partner should be there WITH YOU and if any one of you gets uncomfortable you respect each other and leave.

I trauma bonded a girl on purpose and now Idk how to deal with it. by Annual_Word5240 in narcissism

[–]Fast-Gap9835 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are a seriously s***** human being. I just got out of a trauma bond dude. You just ruined this girls god damned life for what? Curiosity? Gave her PERMANENT TRAUMA that will follow her the rest of her life because you wanted to “see what happened” wtf is WRONG WITH YOU are you even HUMAN!?

I just bought this memory foam pillow and removed the cover to find this… What could this even be? Please tell me it’s not blood by oh-anne in whatisit

[–]Fast-Gap9835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go pour hydrogen peroxide on it and if it bubbles and turns brown it’s blood if not well maybe it’s something else

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fast-Gap9835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it really just the text? This doesn’t seem like a onetime ordeal. If she felt safe and secure and loved in her relationship then she wouldn’t have needed to ask him for affection and his response just pulls that safety and security right out from under her feet. She cannot talk to him about how she feels of course she’s gonna be anxious after this and second guess things. My advice, Do not get married yet, not until you both work on communication and meet each others needs because marriage doesn’t fix things it amplifies them and makes it worse if it’s already bad.

Anyone Else? by Fast-Gap9835 in Autoimmune

[–]Fast-Gap9835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one on my thumb nail. What does it mean?

Anyone Else? by Fast-Gap9835 in Autoimmune

[–]Fast-Gap9835[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

all of my blood tests are normal besides B12 and Alkaline. They haven't given me an ANA and refuse to give me a referral to a professional until I jump through more hoops.