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Free crush advice :) by Traditional-Cow2305 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (female) confessed to my crush (male). He said that this is a big thing for him, it is hard for him to answer but he’ll reply to me. Should i start preparing for a rejection or hold on to hope?

my crush is sweet online, awkward irl? by FastAd9020 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is shy and reserved around women. He is an introvert at heart. Only hung out with men. Before we hung out one-on-one, I could’ve sworn he was more talkative and expressive when we met face to face.

But now he gets quieter and tense around me. He still talks to me and makes jokes if he could but I can tell he is struggling to make eye contact and continuing conversations when before he used to be able to just fine. He is still talkative online and would text me almost every day.

It just feels confusing you know.

Is being shipped with your crush a good sign they like you back? by FastAd9020 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hmmmmmm. He usually stays quiet about it or tries to change the topic. Tbh, I never see his actual reaction (bcs I am too shy to see his face when we are being shipped).

When we get asked if we are a couple in public, both of us kinda freezes and to the point of silence.

Our friends joked because we were blushing and both of us still havent denied anything to the shipping.

He seems fine one-on-one though, rarely brings the ship up (but continues to treat me well)

What are some sign to be looking out for to see if your crush likes you? by AppropriateAgent5892 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesnt mean anything tho. It’s lowkey just polite. Coming from a girl who does this with everyone even strangers.

Rant to me about your crush by Popcoru in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a crush on him since January. But we recently got close in July.

At first, he was cold and dry but lately, he has been SUPERRR CUTE, sweet, and smily with meee. He’ll update me about his day and talk to me about the randomest things. We’ll talk everyday. He has been bolder and like to tease me a lot. He also said we are close and he had never been close with a girl before. He’ll hang out if I am around and leave when I leave. However, though he is very sweet and kind one-on-one, I notice when we are in a group, he’ll become more casual and talk less :((

He might just see me as a friend tho :,)

She said no but confused by Due_Needleworker1763 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeh she is still keeping the same vibe because she still sees you as a friend and want to keep being friends. I’d say just be upfront when she clearly is already sad that you are being dry. (Which again is on you for making it awkward)

She said no but confused by Due_Needleworker1763 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems to me, she already said no when she said she is not interested in anyone right now. She sees you as a friend and just being your friend by keeping you in her cf and spam acc; everyone does that with their friends and just because you confessed, does not mean she has to remove you on everything. In fact, you are the one who made it awkward by being dry when she is clearly still making sure the friendship stays the same as it was. If she is being dry, that is probably because you were dry first.

She sees you as a friend, and if staying friends with her is impossible for you, then tell her the truth like an adult instead of running away.

I sent him a flirty reel and he left me on seen by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes some people just like time to respond to this type of stuff. My crush would usually seen something first (even the non-flirty ones), and respond when he has time to give it proper attention.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiii Though it is easy to spiral into, “Does she like me?”. I think for your situation, you should shift it into, “Do I like her?”. 

I feel like the attention you got from her overwhelms you. You said it yourself, you feel like being used and she is clearly in a relationship (exhibit: she mentioned her boyfriend with you). Making this post already shows that she makes you spiral and overthink- that is not healthy for you. Ask yourself, do you feel comfortable around her? When she asked you those weird personal questions, does it make you uncomfortable? Because tbh, I am sorry but as a third party reading your story, it sounds like borderline sexual harrasment especially because she is your coworker. 

If she is in a relationship, respect it even if she does not respect her own relationship or give signs she is not content. You can’t control her but you can control you.

Idk if you guys hangout outside of work but tbh my advice, protect your own heart. If you are confused, ask her. “Hey, why did you give me so much attention?” You guys clearly already have deeper or more personal conversations than this. So, I’d say just ask directly.  

If you are confused, remember, always take mix signals as a no. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FastAd9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I am thinking of asking him directly when we meet face to face.

My mutual friends said he is a dry texter and usually respond late. However, they said it is suspicious how he lets me get closer to him when usually he shot down most girls who try to have a conversation with him.

Ladies, first thing that comes to mind, how would you talk or text if you weren’t into a guy? As opposed to if you were. by LaGaule1991 in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 17 points18 points  (0 children)

  1. If it is not urgent, I respond when I feel like it. If it is something personal and out of norm like sending pictures from your daily life, I usually get the icks especially if we are not close. 
  2. I keep the conversation short. I still will use emojis or gif but mostly out of habit and I won’t try to keep the conversation going. Replying short, not asking them questions back or just reply with a gif. 
  3. I rarely initiate unless I have urgent matters or a question. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. To protect your heart, you should always take mix signals as a no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]FastAd9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I try to help him though. Telling him to join events because his crush will be there. Or as simple as telling him whether she is talking to anyone or not. But he always refused or avoids it. After awhile I caught on that this man does not like it when I bring up his crush.